| Welcome to the profile of Ms_Valentine, Domme to paulss.
Although I have taken on a new name, I have been a member of IC since 2002 and Seek Discipline/The Slave register since it started. I decided to retire my other profile and start with a new one, for reasons no more sinister than I wanted a change. Sometimes it is just good to start afresh.
I first came out on the scene over ten years ago and have been actively involved ever since . The young Ms_Valentine knew she was into bdsm at a very early age. At all of five years old, I watched John Wayne spank Maureen O'Hara and thought how exciting that looked.
In my teens early, but sadly unwilling, boyfriends had to put up with me trying to tie them up or spank them. If only I had known then, there are in fact, lots of submissive men out there.
It took a fair while before I found myself in this wonderful 24/7 D/s relationship. It was worth the wait though. Paul and I met in 2002 and we began living together in Jan 2007. Paul is a beautifully obedient sub, loving and devoted. He is my best friend, lover, companion and more besides. I cannot imagine life without him. Our relationship is deeply romantic in nature yet embedded core deep with elements of the bdsm world
My pleasures in being in a 24/7 D/s relationship are various. I am particularly keen on having my 'service oriented' sub to look after me, to serve my needs and satisfy my desires. I love knowing that paul has to work hard at being submissive and obedient at all times and that this effort is all in my name. I control paul sexually, financially, temporally and in pretty much any other way one could imagine. His life is devoted to my pleasure, happiness and comfort and doing this makes his life complete.
Although we are in a fully functioning, deeply committed 24/7 relationship, paul is NOT my slave. I don't undertake the ownership of slaves. IF I wanted to own paul then he would become my slave without a second of hesitation. He is completely obedient to my wishes. However, it is my choice not to be a slave owner. I want paul to wake up every morning with the freedom to leave me but no desire to do so. It makes me happy to know he evaluates his life with me and decides day by day if it is what he wants. The romance of that constant sense of renewal of love, commitment and desire is intoxicating. I am very secure in our relationship and am content his only freedom is to stay whilst he wishes or to leave if he would rather be elsewhere.
It is very difficult to define whether our relationship is one of 'ongoing voluntary submission' or 'consensual nonsconsent' or a mix of the two. Certainly paul is with me voluntarily but he has no say over his treatment, punishments or lifestyle.
It is now 18 months since we moved to this area and we have been touched by how friendly and welcoming people have been. Consequently, we both enjoy the bdsm social scene here and attend the Farnborough Munch, Reading Munch and Berkshire Dom Sub Munch as well as fetish fairs and club events.
If you see us, then feel free to come say hello.
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