| About me
Some people seem to be confused by a woman using the title "Master". It is a gender-neutral term in the national Leather community, just like “slave”. I am a female gendered, biologically female, Master, Dominant, Top and bottom.
I'm a very sweet person (even while being blunt and structured), genuinely nice, very open and honest, as you will read. That, to me, is living with integrity and being myself, authentically.
My default setting is "serious", but I love someone with wit and, on occasion, can be witty, too. I like intellectual conversations and can hold up my end on most things, but, I can be a goofball and laugh at bathroom humor with the best of them. Silliness can often be an art form. 
I'm poly, meaning I'm happiest when I have more than one partner. I'm also bi…actually, I more identify with “het-flexible”. I usually prefer male energy, whatever form that takes, but am sometimes attracted to a femme girl. BTW, me being bi does NOT equal instant threesome.
My spirituality is a major component of my life. It's an eclectic mix of Leather, Pagan, Native American and Buddhist with a Christian background. Think Chakra or Chi…then add ritual, body mod, alternative relationships, totems and speaking in tongues. Through all this, I am both a Servant Master and a Warrior Priestess.
What I want
If you don't feel you totally match what I have written here, but think you match most, write me. I'm open to slaves who feel they are really drawn to me for service. I'm simply being very specific about what I'm actively looking for at this point in my life in this version of my profile.
If you have any questions, please message me. I'm open to discussing or explaining any point.
The short version: I'm looking for a male gendered or masculine centered slave, be they bio female or male, between 25 and 40 who will kneel, serve and follow my leadership in everyday life yet be able to be the aggressor for sex and capable of being a mostly sensual Top. I don't mind doing the occasional sexual Topping ('cause variety is important and fun!), but I'm much happier if I sexually bottom and get to be the more passive partner…to what I want, when I want it. So, obviously, I might be the sexual bottom, but I'm still very much the Dominant and Master. The worst (or best) of topping from the bottom!
The long version: All that being said, I want to make it clear that I am looking for a man who has slave heart; inside him is something that can only be fulfilled being in service to another. I still want this person to be a bottom for SM play, just be aware that it's most likely foreplay for me so he'll need to be able to switch from SM bottom to sexual Top fairly easily.
I'm also looking for someone who has a degree of spiritual awareness. Notice that I said above that his service to another 'fulfills' him, not 'completes' him. Finding fulfillment in service to another implies following am inner calling; needing completeness from another implies a negative attachment to outside approval. If you don't totally understand that, it's ok. Message me and ask some questions; it might just be an understanding of semantics.
I want someone who is interested in a 24/7, live-in, Master/slave, service oriented relationship. I want to build a poly household/family and this person will be the start of the part of that family that lives with me, each person in the family having household duties and a place in said household. Yes, this means I want him to clean…and cook…and landscape. Does it mean that I want him to do only this? No. I cannot afford to 'keep' him; he is going to have to work outside the home. Does this mean I expect him to work AND do everything around the house? No. We will adjust duties accordingly; I'm not an unreasonable person. The duties that I want someone else to do are on a hierarchal system. For example, I hate to clean bathrooms and do dishes, but I will do laundry and cook if that's what's needed to make things work.
I want someone who will be content with a double standard; I am sexually poly, he is not. I want at least one male in my life who is only for me sexually. While by definition, that would be a cuckhold relationship, it is unlikely that it will be the cuckhold fetish fantasy of him getting to watch, or interact with, me and my other partners. It is more me being possessive of my property.
I want someone who enjoys the bulk of my fetishes, in particular blood play and vampirism. One of the reasons I want this person just for me sexually is that he will also be my donor. That means I am blood bonded to him (which is a one-way bond). This implies no intravenous drug use or high risk of exposure to blood born pathogens. He should be able to show test results, or be willing to be tested, WHEN, not if, I request. I am willing to do the same.
Finally, I want someone who either already interacts with his local and national communities or is interested in doing such. A man who cannot do this openly should not apply; I am out on a national level, and in some ways, a world level. If he needs to be completely private about who his is, I doubt we can make this work. If it's simply a matter of not connecting his scene name and his real name, that can work, but he should know that there is some risk.
What I have to offer
I know what I want…or, more usually, what I don't want, and can articulate these. I have quirks…like don't talk to me in the morning if it can be avoided. If we can work out a totally silent routine for the mornings, I'll be one happy Master.
I'm fluid and rely on my intuition a lot. This means that I'm a patient person. When I state what I want, and I see there is struggle with it, I am often willing to wait for that surrender. Usually, the struggle comes from the slave assuming the intent behind my order/directive. Often, they have assumed the wrong intent and once the correct intent or reason is made clear, they can move past it.
I offer communication skills. I am willing to explain and speak about almost anything. Only on the rarest of occasions and only if I get a direct 'hit' from the Universe, will I expect blind obedience. But, I do expect obedience.
I attempt create long-term, stable relationships and feel that this can only be done through clear intent. To that end, I try to be as clear about that intent as I can be. Hence all the writing!
Finally, I offer structure in the form of a household manual (which is now different from the book, if you have read that). This document is fluid and most likely will be tailored to fit our exact relationship. It's detailed…but don't worry, it's not 72 pages of protocol that you have to memorize.
This has been long. If you've read the whole thing, I'll be impressed. But, I also expect it from someone who is serious. I invite you to impress me. |
