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	SD! : Web boards : Off Topic : "What's more mature?" What's more mature? (1) Fri 25 May 07, 4:35 PM Masque66 US, 21 mths  I was recently in an argument elsewhere. I won't bring up what it was about because I think all parties were mistaken and don't want to insult any of them. But in one of my attempts to resolve it I sent a private message to one of those involved asking them their reasons for getting involved in the first place. The argument didn't initially involve them. Anyhow this person responded in the public forum by saying my sending notes was a childish and immature thing to do. I had kept it out of the forum specifically because I wanted to be mature about it and not further fuel a stupid argument. What do you think? Is it more mature to respond to attacks in the public venue or privately? Knowledge is Power Wisdom is God 25 May 07, 7:37 PM Master_of_zero 2 yrs  Hi Masque66, This may go more into depth than your original post, but for future reference. First of all, let my qualify myself as a ex-moderator on a extremely high traffic gaming forum very subject to debate and confrontation. Omnip)o(tents My profile there is Spectre. I think you did the correct thing in my opinion on forum protocol. I would suggest that if two people are arguing or flaming each other, which is strictly against forum protocol, that you not get involved or post. One of the people might be trolling, which will get them banned immediately or in a short period of time if caught. Getting a flame going and dragging others into it is the method a Troll uses. You might be looked on as a participant if you get involved. If you have a doubt about your response, it may be inappropriate. If you wish to go ahead and post, give it some time, see if others post, and what their responses are. If it appears that one party is trolling, don't post as you could be feeding the Troll. Most Trolls will go away and try to find food elsewhere if no one will flame. AS far as PMs' go. Yes! It is better to air any gripes you have privately than in public, but I would recommend that you not advertise the fact that you are doing so. This will lead people to believe that you are talking behind their back and a Troll loves this even more. If you get an unfavorable response to your PM, ignore it. You can get a PM flame going too, which can lead to an e-mail flame if your e-mail is available. There is nothing worse than getting spammed with nasty PMs or e-mails. I'm sure you would find this very irritating and frustrating. You did good... Master William Edited 25 May 07, 8:12 PM by Master_of_zero