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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "2 slaves 1 master dose it work and how" 1 2 3 4 2 slaves 1 master dose it work and how (32) Moved from Submission Tue 26 Feb 08, 5:44 AM 988-477-532 US(GA), 12 mths  im married to my master and we have talked about adding a 2nd slave but im conflicted i love him so and dont know if i can share or how to share. i want him to be happy but im scared that i will lose myself in this change. so i guess my ? is can both slaves be truly happy and live to serve together. 26 Feb 08, 6:37 AM masterfiremaam US(AZ), 2 yrs  Yes, two slaves can. This doesn't mean that YOU can. If you are monogamous at heart, poly just won't work. However, if you Master is willing to move slowly and help everyone deal with their jealousy issues, you could be poly. The crappy thing is people often don't know which they are until they try. The first things that you and your Master need to do is make sure YOUR relationship is solid. Then, you need to agree on the role and place of the new person. THEN you start to look. Master Fire "Be excellent to each other." - Bill and Ted *air guitar* 27 Feb 08, 10:58 PM silverrose US, 16 mths  Personally I don't see it working unless there are no feelings of love between M/s some people can shut down those emotions. Women are very competitive and why take a chance on ruining a good M/s relationship. Master and I are strictly mono whether it be real-time or cyber(yea, we resolved the whole cyber issue. he realized how much he hurt me and in turn that made him feel less of not only a Master but also a Man because he did loose some of my trust and broke the heart I gave him. it's getting better tho). Yea sometimes when he's at work I txt him naughty messages(fulfilling his needs)!! I will not share my Master with anyone that's the only thing my Master let's me have say about. Plus he doesn't want to be anyone elses Master but mine and that came from his lips not mine. I am his slave and his alone, he will not share me with anyone. Also, if you are in a real-time relationship and a cyber-relationship I believe you can't consider yourself as mono because you have more than one M/s you would be considered as poly. May I get everyone's take on this matter? Master Vega's silverrose! Edited 27 Feb 08, 11:03 PM by silverrose 28 Feb 08, 1:31 AM ravenkaldera US(MA), 3 yrs  silverrose wrote: Personally I don't see it working unless there are no feelings of love between M/s some people (shrug) Well, I'm quite capable of loving more than one person in a noncompetitive way, and so are all my lovers. I'd love to have more than one slave. But we don't have the room right now, and it'd have to be exactly the right person. And as it took me a decade to find one right slave, it may take me another decade to find a second one. silverrose wrote: Also, if you are in a real-time relationship and a cyber-relationship I believe you can't consider yourself as mono because you have more than one M/s you would be considered as poly. May I get everyone's take on this matter? Hmmm...this isn't something I've thought about yet, as all my sexual relationships are in real-time. However, I can apply basic poly knowledge to it. (Basic poly knowledge being the sort of wisdom that the vanilla poly demographic has found out and shares around as general ways to do this right.) First, one of the basic poly rules is that if one person in the group thinks that something is wrong, then something is wrong. It doesn't matter if everyone else in your poly family thinks that everything is fine - one person's distress means that things need to be addressed. A corollary to that is the question of "what is sex". Again, rather than pick an arbitrary limit, most poly families go with "If one person in this love-group thinks that it's sex, it's sex." Because they're going to react that way, even when everyone else says, "But it isn't really sex." So that definition must be worked out personally for each poly family. So, given that ... if even one person involved in the poly group thinks that a cyber relationship counts, then it counts - because it will have repercussions throughout the group. On the other hand, whether anyone outside that poly family thinks that it counts is utterly irrelevant. For my own poly family, it would begin to count as soon as the online relationship began to encroach on the time and attention that was negotiated for the real-time lovers. Then we'd have to have a meeting. Hope that was clear, -Raven Kaldera 28 Feb 08, 3:57 AM 139-715-032 US(MA), 3 yrs  ravenkaldera wrote: I'd love to have more than one slave. But we don't have the room right now, and it'd have to be exactly the right person. And as it took me a decade to find one right slave, it may take me another decade to find a second one. Unfortunately the perfect lady for the job is already taken. Not monogamously, but enslavement is out of the question. Oh man, she'd be perfect. She and I make a great set - she's a feisty fat chick and a total pain slut. And she's in school for nursing, which I find totally hot *and* useful. She comes over to play some times, and possibly might move in some day. I get all sparkly just thinking about it. I see it this way - if she (or some other submissive) can give Raven things that I can't give him, then I don't have to worry about not being able to give him those things. And if she gives him things that I *can* give him, well, that frees me up to give him other things. I'm confident I won't run out of things to do! Besides, 90% of the time my master is focused intently on something besides me. If some of that was time focused on his other slave, it wouldn't be so different. -- Joshua Raven's Boy, Joshua, is a wholly owned subsidiary of Raven Kaldera. You may contact Joshua directly with any questions or comments at josh@cauldronfarm.com, or contact Raven at cauldronfarm@hotmail.com. 18 Mar 08, 11:37 AM slaveby MY, 10 mths  masterfiremaam wrote: Yes, two slaves can. This doesn't mean that YOU can. If you are monogamous at heart, poly just won't work. However, if you Master is willing to move slowly and help everyone deal with their jealousy issues, you could be poly. The crappy thing is people often don't know which they are until they try. The first things that you and your Master need to do is make sure YOUR relationship is solid. Then, you need to agree on the role and place of the new person. THEN you start to look. Master Fire Yes i agree. By has been bi-curious.At first it was quite playful, however as i led her deeper into submission and the lifestyle she has expressed interest. We've met some female sub's online tat are interested to have a drink and chat up with her. She enjoys chatting with them online however she is hesitant to share me with them even non-sexual.. As she put it, 'No other girls can be naked in front of you except me!' I know that she loves me alot and has a lot of trust in me to take care of her. So i'm gonna try and give it a go for her. Perhaps she might like it once she tries, who knows. We'll see tat by's Owner 18 Mar 08, 2:03 PM fellatrice BE, 3 yrs  my Master solved this problem superbly, i think the new girl was informed that she was to be the beta slut and that she would be my property, i am, and always will be the alpha slut. since beta is submissive to me, and i am submissive to master, obviously his will is paramount i have given her the pet name of ORAL since that is her main task for both me and Master she wears my collar with a dog tag - on the front is says ---- ORAL on the back it says - property of miss fellatrice when we go to the local bdsm club, it is me who fastens her to the dogleash and leads her round the club naked i love Master more than ever for giving me this lovely gift fellatrice, formerly michou the slut, collared slut of Master M 22 Mar 08, 2:24 AM 791-864-918 13 mths  a poly relationsip can definitely work, but it depends on the Master and the slaves. There needs to be clearly defined rules and hierarchy. Will both slaves be equal? Will one be alpha? Will one be required to take orders from the other? All these things need to be discussed before you enter into a poly relationship. Make sure things are clearly defined and ask questions. It's better to sound a little silly with questions than to end up hurt because you didn't ask. 23 Mar 08, 6:57 PM illusion US(CA), 20 mths  silverrose wrote: Personally I don't see it working unless there are no feelings of love between M/s some people can shut down those emotions. Women are very competitive and why take a chance on ruining a good M/s relationship. Master and I are strictly mono whether it be real-time or cyber(yea, we resolved the whole cyber issue. I can see how this sort of relationship does not work for everyone or for you in particular, but to say that the only way this could work is by shutting down any feelings of love seems inaccurate. Some women are competitive, some are insecure in their relationship, and some women find that poly works for them. In my opinion, the more love there is in a poly relationship the better it will be for all involved. My Master and I are currently not in a poly relationship, although at one point we were. It did not work out in the end for other reasons, but I do not believe lack of feelings would have saved the relationship. While she was here, it was wonderful and, though I cannot speak for her, I did not feel that it was a competition, but rather a shared effort to please our Master and a shared reward for that effort. 23 Mar 08, 8:30 PM Chastiser UK, 8 yrs  988-477-532 wrote: 2 slaves 1 master dose it work and how im married to my master and we have talked about adding a 2nd slave but im conflicted i love him so and dont know if i can share or how to share. i want him to be happy but im scared that i will lose myself in this change. so i guess my ? is can both slaves be truly happy and live to serve together. one area i see as important is the sexuality of the posessions. if one or both are bisexual, then of course complications can set in. for myself, i always insist that my posessions are hetro. after all, why share something you own? Mike Let Me unchain your mind and your sexuality will follow. Taking part in the Macmillan 4x4 charity event in 2008. please donate to this http://www.justgiving.com/teameuropcar 23 Mar 08, 10:49 PM Sgiandubhs_ceilidh US, 2 yrs  Master has teased me with the idea of adding a second slave. i would give this advice before taking the plunge. Masters...make sure Your slave has an intact self esteem. If she/he is not secure in h/her role, and in the belief that s/he will still be the slave that s/he is with another, then that would not be a great idea. my self esteem is not where it should be and Master works hard on that everyday. i would love to please Master beyond His wildest dreams, but when He asks about poly, my heart drops due to my self esteem of worrying about my position with Master. Love without rules. ceilidh Next page