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	SD! : Web boards : Submission : "is it wrong?" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 is it wrong? (96) This topic is now full - if you want to reply, please make a new post on the board itself. Moved from Captivity Sun 2 Mar 08, 6:41 AM Bella_Ragazza US(RI), 2 yrs there are times when Master gets very angry with me and will become physical. He will cover my mouth if i am speaking and He feels that i need to "shut up" and proceed to back my into a corner literally and get in my face. He also tends to punch me in my arm with full force when i cause Him to get angry. i find this scary. Master tells me that if i cant handle a 24/7 relationship i shouldn't have asked for it. but that makes me think, would You punch in You car window if it ran out of gas, no , so why would a Master act like this towards His slave? Master says that if i dont respect Him first He will not respect me...isnt it suppose to be the other way around. How can i respect Him if He says " I'm too lazy to train you" making me beg Him to write a list of rules for me , making Him annoyed and writing it out. i think here is a what the fuck that factor that goes into all of this. i dont want to Master myself gerrr. so what Y/your opinions on all of this this ? thank you for Y/your responses. vixen ( the slave name that is never said) vixen 2 Mar 08, 7:06 AM anjuli UK, 18 mths Hmmm... I think you already know the answer to this vixen. If he's getting physical and hurting you out of barely controlled anger then that's not a good sign. Master yourself first, is the advice that HE needs. YOU need to look after and protect yourself. Do not let this sort of relationship become an excuse for abuse. And as for the respect issue, it seems a childish response to me, but I do have to ask you how you started without a basic sense of respect in place. If he doesn't have a fundamental regard for you and for caring for you, then your trust is misplaced and you need to sit quietly and ask yourself some very, very hard questions about, not just whether you should be even contemplating an M/s dynamic, but bdsm play, and even the basic relationship or partnership. Please look after yourself. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 2 Mar 08, 7:39 AM 862-203-011 AU, 23 mths There was a discussion on here a while ago, that you may find interesting. As the search function is disabled- http://www.slaveregister.com/boards/submission/1... What is right or wrong is purely subjective and the only one who can answer your question, is you. Master's piece 2 Mar 08, 7:49 AM anjuli UK, 18 mths Hi MP Have I been too judgemental here? I am wondering. But rereading, I am going with the OP's feeling that he's doing it when he's angry. And to clarify, that is what I meant about her knowing the answer already. I am sure the OP KNOWS if this feels like the exercise of sadism OR anger on the brink of being dangerous, or if it actually frightens her (in a bad way). I am darn sure there is a difference and I know I'd know. Anyway, I didn't wish to make sweeping statements - merely to offer a view. To the OP - trust yourself and your guts. anjuli Awake too damn early for her own good! ;-P ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 2 Mar 08, 7:51 AM Bella_Ragazza US(RI), 2 yrs thank you for the link 2 Mar 08, 8:30 AM 862-203-011 AU, 23 mths anjuli wrote: Hi MP Have I been too judgemental here? (brutal snipping) anjuli Awake too damn early for her own good! ;-P No, it is not as simple as that. Abuse and what it is, is a complicated thing. Tell you a story.. Many years ago a good friend (now like so many, deceased) came round one morning sporting a massive shiner and a hanky. The "rotten little ****" had hit her. Now after a couple of heart starters, it came out that he had hit her. After she came at him, wielding a kitchen knife. She was lovely, but a couple of wines and handful of diet pills, well.. she was dangerous. This event was repeated many times, in various forms, over the course of their relationship. Personally when one was very young, she lived with someone who used to try and kill her in her sleep. His favourite thing was a pillow. One would wake up struggling to breathe. At 16 you do not have the emotional equipment, to deal with someone like that. Despite this, one did have the good sense to leave. Very quietly, one afternoon. On the scale of things one was lucky, she lived. The next one he hospitalised. Several times. Now you could argue that they are both forms of abuse, but really one thinks it is like comparing apples and oranges. At the end of the day, one has come to the conclusion, that how people choose to live their life is just that. A choice. It is never as simple as oh X is abusive. Anyway one is now going to get off memory lane and return you to your normal viewing. Master's piece 2 Mar 08, 9:22 AM MasterLT US(IN), 11 mths Y! A good Master never acts out of anger. A good Master controls his anger and only uses controlled discpline out of love for his slave. As a slave, don't ever confuse the brutality of an out of control barbarian for the loving discipline of a kind Master. There is a great difference between a spanking for a disrespectful tone and punching another human being because you are angry. If your Master is abusing you, he isn't your Master. He is just a bully taking advantage of your submissive nature. Get out and find yourself a loving Master who knows how to care for you properly. 2 Mar 08, 10:25 AM NocturnalDeviant 14 mths MasterLT wrote: A good Master never acts out of anger. A good Master controls his anger and only uses controlled discpline out of love for his slave. As a slave, don't ever confuse the brutality of an out of control barbarian for the loving discipline of a kind Master. There is a great difference between a spanking for a disrespectful tone and punching another human being because you are angry. If your Master is abusing you, he isn't your Master. He is just a bully taking advantage of your submissive nature. Get out and find yourself a loving Master who knows how to care for you properly. I agree with MasterLT 100%. This man is nothing but an abuser who is using the cover of the lifestyle to hide behind. You need to get out of this situation before more serious harm befalls you. 2 Mar 08, 11:06 AM masterfiremaam US(AZ), 2 yrs You're really asking us if we think he's being abusive...and what we think you should do about it. It doesn't matter what we think. It matters what YOU think. If you feel you are being abused, you need to leave...the sooner, the better. If you have no resources to do this on your own, contact your local police department and ask for victim services. They will help you...even if they have to hide you. Go with your gut. It's almost always right. Master Fire "Be excellent to each other." - Bill and Ted *air guitar* 2 Mar 08, 12:06 PM subsfaith UK, 3 yrs If a person cannot control themselves, should they be trying to control another person? I think not. To the OP: Only you know what you want to do here. Good luck, Faith :: smiles :: 2 Mar 08, 3:52 PM slave_of_George US(AR), 15 mths i think that as owned property, a Master should have a modicum of respect for his slave. i agree with the example of breaking a car's window, etc. if someone slaps you around for the hell of it, he's no Master. he's just a lowlife fuck who doesn't like women. that's his problem. don't keep it yours. Next page