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	SD! : Web boards : Service : "Who Takes Care of Who?" 1 2 3 4 Who Takes Care of Who? (33) Fri 14 Mar 08, 10:19 AM koala_slave US, 11 mths So I've heard it both ways... the slave takes care of the Master and the Master takes care of the slave. I know there's bound to be a mixture of both but where does the main responsibility lie? I've heard a lot of people say it lies in the Master but to what extent? Sorry, had a lot of emotional turmoil being so far away from my Master, friends, and family back home. .:koala:. i follow Elua's blessed precept 14 Mar 08, 12:03 PM drknsshadow 3 yrs It depends on the dynamic. In our relationship we take care of Master and he takes care of us (Master has two slaves). I've been in relationships where the masters did not take care of their property.(My Master tells me to deliberately not capitalize when speaking of these particular people; he calls them abusive morons since I was 2 years old when they started training me.) I have been in other relationships where I was doing the lions share of the care giving. But in that relationship I was not collared and the man I was with would likely be considered a WAS by most here. In my current situation, I feel Master takes care of me far more than I take care of him. I am very service oriented, I usually see my service to him as another way he takes care of me. ~Shadow I am Master's valuable property. I belong to Ebonunicorn. 14 Mar 08, 1:32 PM ravenkaldera US(MA), 3 yrs The main responsibility lies with the dominant. The dominant "looks after" the s-type to some extent (varying depending on situation) and mandates how the s-type will then, in turn, take care of them. It is done in both directions, but the difference is that the dominant decides *how* it will be done in both directions. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 14 Mar 08, 1:46 PM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs We take care of us - just 'how' is My decision; to start allotting different tasks seperately - sometimes - would be completely foolish. Ultimately, I 'am' Master, My Girl 'is' my slave, but there are times where there is a simple fundamental need - on a health basis, to cover each other's back - else we'd just fall apart - and I won't have that in the least. Sean Master's l'il one®(her Rights are Mine in reserve) Edited 14 Mar 08, 1:47 PM by 000-874-172 14 Mar 08, 2:50 PM faolain US(NY), 10 mths Y! koala_slave wrote: Who Takes Care of Who? So I've heard it both ways... the slave takes care of the Master and the Master takes care of the slave. I know there's bound to be a mixture of both but where does the main responsibility lie? I've heard a lot of people say it lies in the Master but to what extent? Sorry, had a lot of emotional turmoil being so far away from my Master, friends, and family back home. I agree with much of what has been written here.. Sir decides how we are to take care of him and ourselves.. and to see that it is carried out to his specifications.. but beyond that I see it as a symbiotic relationship. Ma'am and I care for Sir in ways he requests.. He cares for us in ways that we request and that he approves of.. if he doesn't agree with or approve of our request.. it doesn't happen. Period. 14 Mar 08, 3:08 PM KamsIris 15 mths Being a slave, it is my responsibility to make sure that all of my Master's needs are met, his home is clean, his stomach is filled, and anything else you can think of. However, I cannot accomplish these things without his care, and it is that care that helps me continue to perform to his desires. The responsibility lies mostly with the Master. It is his job to ensure that you are provided for and properly taken are of to ensure that you are able to serve him to your fullest ability. In return for his care, a slave gives him/herself to the mercy and will of his/her Master. Does that make sense? 14 Mar 08, 3:13 PM Kaitlyn 11 mths Ya, I agree as well. The Dominant cares for the submissive far more than the other way around. At the same time though the submissive should be aiming to please their Dom(me) in whatever way they can, although it can be difficult. I'd describe it as the Dominant taking an "active" role in physically and emotionally caring for the submissive, meaning they decide how best to do it. While the submissive takes a more "passive" role, caring for the Dominant but not deciding how best to take care of them, instead the sub missive trusts in the Dominant's decisions and aims to please him/her by doing things in a manner their Dominant would like. It also works well as a way to kind of splits up tasks sometimes. While the Dominant makes the decisions and decides how things should be done, the submissive cares about keeping things working in a way that pleases their Dom(me). I wouldn't say it's so much symbiotic, simply because I feel that I am FAR more reliant on my Domme than she is on me, but I'd definitely say that it does become kind of co-dependent after a while because the submissive can take on more responsibility and more tasks for her Dom(me). Respectfully, kait “Fear may induce the show of submission; but love only can truly subjugate a haughty spirit.” 14 Mar 08, 4:15 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs We take care of each other, in different ways. Different times bring different needs and we respond accordingly. My boy suffers from severe bouts of ill health and extreme pain and during these times I care for him more than vice versa. At other times he cares for Me more. When he is well he bears the brunt of a lot of work for us. I look after his emotional wellbeing when he is down and he cares for Mine. It balances out and there are different aspects to how we look after each other but it definately has phases based on what is going on in our lives. ~ *Mistress Tiara* 14 Mar 08, 9:29 PM koala_slave US, 11 mths Thank you all so much for your replies .:koala:. i follow Elua's blessed precept 14 Mar 08, 10:00 PM Just_Angel US(CO), 2 yrs £ Y! I heard it said once by a Dominant I know... "I take care of you; you take care of me; we're both well taken care of" Both parties get taken care of in whatever way they have setup. "What would YOU do for a klondike bar?" 15 Mar 08, 6:45 PM masterfiremaam US(AZ), 2 yrs I am the Servant, the Guide and the leader of the relationships. I'm also a Teacher and a Student, a Mentor and a Mentee. I've learned a lot from my girl, especially about leather protocol, since she has about 15 years more experience than I. But, ultimately, I'm responsible. It's kinda like the old definition of "Head of Household". Master Fire "Be excellent to each other." - Bill and Ted *air guitar* Next page