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	SD! : Web boards : Service : "How to get by the hated" How to get by the hated (8) Sun 16 Mar 08, 2:39 AM Outlaws_manxie 17 mths I am trying to figure out how to get through my own mind to accept anal for Master. I absalutely hate it and everything about it. It is painful and I find myself in tears each time that Master decides to try it. I am wondering is there a way I can push the fact of it out of my mind in order to accept it for the sake of my Master's pleasure. Asking him that it never happen is not something I want to do because I want to give him everything it is that he desires. Also what about with the case of hemmeroids? Are there special percautions to take during anal and all that's involved with it? manxie kitty with her tail curled around her backside for safekeeping. 16 Mar 08, 2:56 AM 862-203-011 AU, 23 mths There was a thread on here a while ago that had some good general advise. http://www.slaveregister.com/boards/service/1409... The difference is that for many who contributed, anal is a very enjoyable act. For you it seems to be more painful, than anything else. Maybe what is needed it to start off small and progress, rather than start off with the "real" thing. You know, a series of small victories that have a positive outcome, rather than one crushing defeat. Just a thought. Edited to add; anal sex does not cause hemorrhoids, but it can exacerbate them. Master's piece Edited 16 Mar 08, 3:18 AM by 862-203-011 16 Mar 08, 3:13 AM Yarakot 3 yrs Here's how my owner helped me with this exact problem. He bought me lubrication and a set of five butt plugs ranging in size from very small and narrow to life sized. Then he told me that I could masturbate as long as I used one of the butt plugs to do so and that he expected me to work on moving up in size over time (but that there was no rush). I used them after he sent me away from his bed each night and it really did work to help me eroticize it and to help me relax my anus for him. It also taught me how to manage my body so that it didn't hurt as much. BTW, someone on here is sure to mention the book Anal Pleasure and Health. Don't blink twice. Ask your owner if he will get it for you. It is invaluable and will answer many of your questions. Carolyn And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. --Erica Jong * * * Interested in meeting me or other TSR people? Come to the TSR Meet & Greet at MsC in DC (August, 2008). Edited 16 Mar 08, 3:14 AM by Yarakot 16 Mar 08, 9:17 AM Michael_X UK, 3 yrs You might, or might not, find this of use. Either way you'll probably enjoy it. The other episodes are good too! http://midwestteensexshow.com/2007/12/11/mtss-ep... Michael 16 Mar 08, 2:26 PM bluesky 14 mths Outlaws_manxie wrote: How to get by the hated I am trying to figure out how to get through my own mind to accept anal for Master. I absalutely hate it and everything about it. It is painful and I find myself in tears each time that Master decides to try it. I am wondering is there a way I can push the fact of it out of my mind in order to accept it for the sake of my Master's pleasure. Asking him that it never happen is not something I want to do because I want to give him everything it is that he desires. Also what about with the case of hemmeroids? Are there special percautions to take during anal and all that's involved with it? manxie kitty with her tail curled around her backside for safekeeping. I used to be fearful of anal also. My first experience of it was when I was raped followed by 2 other bad experiences. Now, I am okay with it. I know that I am serving Master and that makes me happy. I even sometimes enjoy it now. It is one of the ways Master chooses to use me so I can resolve it by telling myself I don't have a choice in it. I am after all there for Master's pleasure and to be used in which ever way He wishes. One way I found that is nice is to curl up on your side with your knees drawn up slightly. This makes your bottom stick out which makes it easier for Him to enter. It tends to eliminate a great deal of discomfort. Then Master comes up behind me and curls up beside me. The entering part is uncomfortable sometimes but with plenty of lubricant it doesn't have to be (Master uses water based lubricant that seems to be best and certainly less messy.) Then Master wraps His arms around me and W/we move together. This makes me feel safe because I know He won't let anything happen to me. This is the way that works best for me. It helps to take things slow at first and then increase things as you progress. As for hemorrhoids, they don't seem to hinder me but that may well be down to the lubricant. I don't think you have anything to fear from that aspect of it. Good luck! mouse{N_D} My Master allows me to post on the forums but He reads all messages before they are sent and will revoke this privilege if He so desires at any time. 16 Mar 08, 4:07 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs 1. First off, see if your Master will start breaking you in on plugs etc before or at least in between fucking you. It will make it easier if you build up to it. 2. LOTS of lubrication is essential while you are being trained. 3. Positions can greatly alter the pain factor. you may find it less painful on all fours, or you may prefer it lying over pillows - different people prefer their bottoms to be penetrated at different angles. Often pain is obliterated or at least reduced by finding the right angle. 4. Ask if you may have permission to masturbate while you are learning to take it - this often makes it MUCH easier for women (or if you are over pillows you may like to use them as stimulation - lots of girls find that easy and helpful). Perhaps you could earn this privilige with another act your Owner enjoys? 5. Remember it will get easier. Lots of people struggle with anal penetration to start with but you can be trained. As you are a good slave you may also find comfort in knowing your Owner is very probably enjoying how tight you still are, and may even enjoy find your current struggle arousing. Training people to take it in the bottom is something I really enjoy, so I understand your Owners desire. If you decide to learn to take it and try different things you may well eventually come to love it, Hope some of that helped, Mistress Tiara ~ *Mistress Tiara* 16 Mar 08, 6:03 PM Outlaws_manxie 17 mths Thank you all I will be talking to Master about these things so that I can learn to do these things for Him. So far when trying he would start with his fingers and then go to one of our toys but the toy has ridges and is too hard which makes things hurt more. Or one of our other toys which is too thick so I find myself in pain because I feel it is stretched too quickly. I'll be taking all the things you all suggested to him in order to get to the point that it won't be too harsh. Again thank you all. manxie 16 Mar 08, 10:45 PM MasterMattsslave CA, 11 mths Y! manxie kitty, Uncurl your tail, anal sex can be fun! My story about anal is very similar to yours. Let me tell you about it: Anal was something that always turned me on to think about. i liked watching it in porn, reading about it in erotic, being fingered anally, and just thinking about it. i was; however, terrified to actually try the act. i am really happy that Master turned out to be my first! i don't think that anal is something you can get past by pushing it out of your mind. i can't just go into another place and escape and let Him do His thing. Maybe it is possible to do that, but i have no suggestions for how to achieve anal through pretending it isn't happening. my Master wanted U/us both the enjoy it, and i don't want to assume, but i am sure your Master wants you to enjy it too! i understand the conviction that you want to be able to give all of yourself to your Master for His enjoyment...that is the way i am for my Master too. So here is what W/we did. W/we started out with Him fingering my ass a few nights in a row with lube to get my ass used to something being in it. Then one day, He tried to *gently* stretch me with His fingers to the size of His penis. i was laying on my stomach (which, W/we have found is the most comfortable position for me). W/we used a lot of lube, and i was trying very hard to relax and He used His hand to guide the head of His penis inside me. It definitely hurt a lot, but He froze and let me get used to the size and the stretching that was going on. Then when i was calm, He would put a little more in and pause again for me to get used to it. Eventually, He got all of it in and just layed down on me and let me relax completely. (He's very nice in this respect ). When i had gotten used to the size of it inside me, i surprised both of us by being the one to buck up against Him and i eventually kept telling Him to go faster and harder. It is amazing what you can discove about your body when you have enough patience. i honestly think you can probably learn to enjoy anal if you and your Master go slowly enough and use enough lube. Anal is an ongoing battle for me. If Master just shoves it in, with or without lube, sometimes it will hurt so much that He withdraws and we do other sexual stuff instead due to the pain. i think that partially, i am simply a huge wimp, or perphaps it is something about my mindset, but i always feel like a failure as a slave when i can't give my ass to Him. So He is constantly devising new ways to open my ass up and get me used to things being up there. The other night W/we went to Wal Mart and before W/we left, He had me put well-lube anal beads up my ass. This was so uncomfortable at first, and i complained quite a bit, but when W/we got home, He allowed me to masturbate and i had the strongest, most-wonderful orgasm ever! It still turns me on to think about anal even though i may not want it all the time. Also, the idea that Master is the only person who has ever taken my ass turns me on a lot too. i like knowing that this is something W/we have only done together...and i love pleasing Him, so i try to keep my mind (and body) relaxed for all He has in store. i hope this helps and wasn't too...deatiled? Lol. nadia P.S. Master just read this over and asked me inculde a section about butt plugs. W/we have a "starter" butt plug, and i think i know what you mean about ridges. Honestly, i much prefer His cock to the butt plug, but a few times, He has had me use the butt plug to open me up prior to taking me. Part of the reason i dislike the butt plug is because it is so cold. Try running it in hot water or cupping it in your hands and breathing heavily on it before you lube it up. you can NEVER use too much lube in my mind. i hope this helps [edited to add: Yes, if He will allow you to masurbate, it may make things a lot easier for you to take. Master lets me touch my clit, i find that it really helps] "I will love and protect you forever. you are worth any risk. you are not broken" (Master Matt) Edited 16 Mar 08, 10:47 PM by MasterMattsslave 18 Mar 08, 3:06 AM martadoll US, 19 mths Y! ~my Mentor helped me to become accustomed to anal by requiring me to use butt plugs on a daily basis, first using the small, then medium sized and by using a dildo on myself when i was not with him. ~you must use a good lubricant during any anal play. Do not tense up when He is trying to penetrate you. This makes it more painful. ~my Mentor would strike me on the buttocks repeatedly before penetration to make me release. It would then be easier to penetrate. When you are feeling the pain of a good spanking, it is easier to take the pain of penetration. Now the pain is just another form of pleasure and once the endorphins kick in, it is quite wonderful for me. i hate for it to stop.. So think about that, pleasure/pain so wonderful that you will not want it to stop. ~martadoll~ Outlaws_manxie wrote: How to get by the hated I am trying to figure out how to get through my own mind to accept anal for Master. Are there special percautions to take during anal and all that's involved with it? manxie