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	SD! : Web boards : Ritual : "Collar and Family Visits" 1 2 3 4 Collar and Family Visits (39) Wed 9 Apr 08, 3:02 AM KamsIris 15 mths Master told me tonight that he is looking into getting me an eternity collar and that scares me a bit. I am frightened that my mother will call me out on it and ask all kinds of awkward questions that I am not ready to answer. Has anyone gone through this or does anyone wear their eternity collar 24/7 and get a reaction? Collared to the most wonderful Master God could ever bless me with. I will forever be devoted to you, Master Kam <3 9 Apr 08, 3:21 AM KsKittyKat US, 18 mths Master recently ordered an Eternity collar for me. My mom doesn't know either but I do not live with her so that would create a more interesting situation if I did I guess. But I will be required to wear my collar to my mom's house when we visit. The thing I'm the most concerned about is where I work is VERY conservative (no visible tats/piercings... I have 6 ear piercings and am only allowed to wear one in each ear... that kind of thing). I know that 2 of the guys there watch porn a lot and I know one of the guys watches scene porn a lot so I don't know if they have these kind of collars in what he watches, but if they do then he'll know exactly what it is and I'm sure he'll call me on it... more than likely in front of the other people I work with. I haven't decided what to tell them yet... if Master chooses to let it up to me. More than likely mom will just ask me if it's a choker or what. I guess I would have to say... well.. you can use it for that. ROTFL. I really don't know what to tell you other than that every situation is unique. I suck at making stuff up on the fly so I don't know what to do either. Am I correct in stating that you live with your mom? I know that there used to be vanilla necklaces that locked like that. How is your dressing style? Is it punk because then you could use the punk excuse. There's always the worry that your parents will get mad and not like your Master I guess. I think it's something that other slaves could maybe answer how they react to it when people ask them that question. Probably much better than I. My other collar is a regular choke chain collar that I don't wear to work. (Of interest though, I wore that collar when I was in high school and it was not of the purpose of being a collar. LOL. And no one ever said a word to me about it, including my mom, who I lived with) --------------------------------------------------- -------- However, my Master is 20 years older than I and my mom called me out on that when I told her we were going out (our relationship started vanilla). We had the 6 hour conversation on that when that started. It was not pleasant at the time, but I survived through it and she didn't try to push me out of the house or anything (as she had done in the past). So it all worked out and hopefully it will for you too Edited 9 Apr 08, 5:11 AM by KsKittyKat 9 Apr 08, 3:43 AM little_linnet US, 3 yrs I wear one and all the comments I've had have been positive except for a single semi-uncomfortable joke one person made. Krista No feminist thinks men and women are exactly the same. But what we reject is the notion that the difference between men and women is that men are human and women are objects. 9 Apr 08, 11:32 AM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs KamsIris wrote: Collar and Family Visits Master told me tonight that he is looking into getting me an eternity collar and that scares me a bit. I am frightened that my mother will call me out on it and ask all kinds of awkward questions that I am not ready to answer. Has anyone gone through this or does anyone wear their eternity collar 24/7 and get a reaction? Having something or doing something new, whether it be having a whip across your back for the first time or receiving an eternity collar is scary because it's a step into the unknown. The one question I had about your post KamsIris is this; in a private conversation between yourself and your mother, without Kam being there, how do you identify to him? Do you refer to him as your boyfriend or your master? The answer to that question in 'your' mind should predict your own reactance to any given situation. What I'm saying 'is' - whose word is more powerful in your estimation? If he's your master, that should allay any fears, if he's 'just' your boyfriend, then the concept needs to be introduced - somehow; I simply won't allow My Girl to take My collar off - period, and I can't help but feel you'll be setting yourself up for a fight with Kam on this issue if it's not addressed sooner rather than later. My Girl has been wearing a turian-style (My) collar (note she wears a turian, and not an eternity collar), for just over a week now, and has had no reactions from anywhere; she is ready for any given situation and any question thrown at her; the things of not being able to remove the collar or the 'manner of strife' raining down on her from Me should she try (once she even finds the key that is - I have them; wonderful things, tamper-resistant screws, thanks to Vad Farkas ), are beside the point. The only methods, then, are to cut the thing off, or use My keys. The collar will be given to you, and placed on you by your master; being scared, or fearing something from it shouldn't come into it - if anything you should look to him for strength, and the collar then becomes a reminder of who and what you are. If you are 'really' his as you believe you are, then notwithstanding the collar feeling odd while the metal warms and vice-versa, reactions simply won't matter in the least. Ultimately, receiving the new collar is met with trepidation, simply because you haven't been there and you maybe just can't see past it. Once you're wearing it though, you'll begin to feel an inate pride in feeling it around your neck, and showing it off; you just don't know that yet either. Sean Master's l'il oneŽ(her Rights are Mine in reserve) 9 Apr 08, 11:41 AM 942-258-467 US(NY), 10 mths Master has one i use to wear it all the time. Unfortunatly i am allergic to metal. However no one said a word, i wore it home, to grandmothers, work, church ect. Not one word. Also this site http://www.ringofsteel.net/ makes coverings for them. i am looking into getting coverings for the one i wear so that way i can wear it again. cricket ~ my Treasures are not kept in a box, they shine in the sun and neigh in the night ~ 10 Apr 08, 12:18 AM 369-359-730 11 mths Quick and dirty trick for making collars look like just an interesting taste in jewelry: hang something other then a tag from the lead ring. In your case... how do you think your mother would react if the first thing to catch her eye on your new piece of jewelry was a cross? Working with GuideOne in the hopes that we've both found what we're looking for in each other. (Now finally in person!) "When you have given everything, then you have everything to gain." (Quote from the card "The Well of Life" from the Magic The Gathering card game... yes... I am a bit of a geek like that) 11 Apr 08, 2:33 PM VadFarkas US(IL), 20 mths 942-258-467 wrote: Master has one i use to wear it all the time. Unfortunately i am allergic to metal. However no one said a word, i wore it home, to grandmothers, work, church ect. Not one word. Also this site http://www.ringofsteel.net/ makes coverings for them. i am looking into getting coverings for the one i wear so that way i can wear it again. cricket Thank you for mentioning the collars sleeves. They are not expensive, my wife makes them, but I will give you a 10% discount as I do others from TSR that buy items from me. I have had customers with metal allergies be able to wear one of my Stainless Steel collars, including my wife. Do you know what material your last collar was? Not everyone can wear metal but there are some materials that are better than others. Maybe I can send you one on a trial basis before you buy? For KamsIris, My wife also has never had a bad comment about any of her collars and has worn them for many years. A lot of it is in the mind of the wearer and how they feel about wearing a collar. I sometimes associate it when I first started wearing glasses. I was very selfconscious about it and thought that everyone was looking at me. Of course that was not the case. Her mom and dad saw the metal collars as jewelry , in fact her dad even made some leather chocker style collars for her back when he had a saddle shop. Good luck to you and keep us posted on how it goes. Vad Farkas Ringsmith 11 Apr 08, 10:06 PM 942-258-467 US(NY), 10 mths VadFarkas wrote: 942-258-467 wrote: Master has one i use to wear it all the time. Unfortunately i am allergic to metal. However no one said a word, i wore it home, to grandmothers, work, church ect. Not one word. Also this site http://www.ringofsteel.net/ makes coverings for them. i am looking into getting coverings for the one i wear so that way i can wear it again. cricket Thank you for mentioning the collars sleeves. They are not expensive, my wife makes them, but I will give you a 10% discount as I do others from TSR that buy items from me. I have had customers with metal allergies be able to wear one of my Stainless Steel collars, including my wife. Do you know what material your last collar was? Not everyone can wear metal but there are some materials that are better than others. Maybe I can send you one on a trial basis before you buy? Thank You so much Sir. i do not know what kind of collar it is, however i will mention Your kind offer and discount to Him. cricket ~ my Treasures are not kept in a box, they shine in the sun and neigh in the night ~ 12 Apr 08, 11:44 PM 587-358-393 UK, 2 yrs KamsIris wrote: Collar and Family Visits Has anyone gone through this or does anyone wear their eternity collar 24/7 and get a reaction? i wear an eternity collar... I have never had any comments about it and my parents dont know.. it just looks like a heavier rigid necklace... which is becoming quite acceptable to wear.. I wouldnt worry too much.. they will soon get used to seeing it there and then they wont notice it. i get some funny looks when i go to the gym as i wear it swimming... but no-one has ever said anything. ( in the end they dont know what it symbolises to you.. they just see it as alternative jewelery.) xx.star.xx slave to Master Zodiac. Edited 12 Apr 08, 11:45 PM by 587-358-393 15 Apr 08, 12:02 AM 000-671-955 CA, 4 yrs i also have an "Eternity" collar, and have worn it on various occasions, and as much as possible when Master so commands. i also have a few other collars that are less in the public view that allow me to work in the field of my employment, and also to family functions. They have also seen my steel "Eternity" collar, and never questioned it, as i make it part of my wardrobe as if it were part of my jewellery. Master feels the more you wear the collar of His choice, the more the family and fellow co-workers will soon get used to seeing you with it on, and it will become almost invisible to them. i hope this helps with some of your problems, remember that your collar is one of the signs of committment to your Master and His choice of Lifestyle for you both. Master's "o" 671955 17 Apr 08, 9:11 AM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs 369-359-730 wrote: Quick and dirty trick for making collars look like just an interesting taste in jewelry: hang something other then a tag from the lead ring. In your case... how do you think your mother would react if the first thing to catch her eye on your new piece of jewelry was a cross? Sneaky and clever. Very good idea. ~ *Mistress Tiara* Next page