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	SD! : Web boards : SM & Bondage : "safewords and pushing beyond" 1 2 3 safewords and pushing beyond (22) Sat 24 May 08, 3:12 PM 544-282-976 US(NJ), 2 yrs hoping this is the right area... someone on a post in submission wrote about not wanting to ever have to say No to a potential Master and His response along the lines of it being good and He would not abuse that. (congrats btw!) it got me to thinking... i know my own Master in bdsm situations has pushed me just a little farther and just a little farther making me have to use a safeword (a tad different which is why it's here - can't very well get away with saying NO to Him anywhere else!) and i've talked to Him about it...the conclusion was that He wants to know i WILL use a safeword if it gets too be too much. it's only happened twice i think but i just was curious if others have had similar experiences. Master Mike's precious 24 May 08, 7:54 PM monika_Pana_Piotra PL, 15 mths i have my own safeword, but although my Master repeats me that i can use it in every situation, i have never done it. Whatever happens my Master seems to know me better than even i know myself. During our special evenings i get extremely devoted and in a way i forget about my safeword. my Master always knows when to stop, when to change something, He can read all of my reactions, He takes control over everything while i completly lose it. i think that the deep feeling of trust makes me react like that. It all sounds wonderful but on the other hand, there were a few moments when maybe i should have used my safeword. Then my Master stopped everything but He reprimanded me about it. i don't know why i have never used it, maybe i forget, maybe i just don't feel i need it... The only place where i feel secure, happy and fulfilled is on my knees in front of my Master. i am my Master's sole property, His will is my will and i desire to be His slave, His whore and His servant as long as He decides me to. 24 May 08, 8:28 PM 544-282-976 US(NJ), 2 yrs exactly what i mean, it's like He is training me to use it when He knows i need to so that when lost like that, i will be able to do so on my own. this could also be so that He knows i will use it when sceneing with other Doms as well. i tend to get "lost in the moment" like that too. Master Mike's precious 1 Aug 08, 3:46 PM MrRolod US(OH), 5 mths My slave has a safeword but has also never used it. As said previously, I know when she's had enough and when to push her farther. We are connected in that way. She says she just never wants to disappoint me and thinks using her word would do that even though I've assured her it wouldn't have that effect. So, I've trained her to ask/beg for mercy when she feels she's reaching safeword territory. This works well and also gives me the option of granting it, or continuing til I'm satisfied she's been taken as far as possible. 2 Aug 08, 5:36 PM 821-467-829 US(FL), 5 mths It's always been about the same as an outright no to me, and as a result, not sure how it will be taken, IF i ever really do need to use it. 8 Aug 08, 4:05 PM slaveanne US, 21 mths Since i am a certified masochist i really don't want to use a safe word as i enjoy pain immeasurably. That being said my Master insists i have one in case something isn't "going right" i.e. it's not necessarily pain, but something that may be permanently harmful...like strangulation or something that wasn't supposed to happen. i have used a safe word (actually a signal) when i was subjected to a blow up hood with a pump gag that had a hole for breathing. Master pumped up the gag to the point it made breathing impossible so it was a safe word situation as i felt He didn't realize i could not breathe. Later we talked about it and now when he pumps the gag up i signal when it is just short of keeping me from breathing and the issue was solved. While i am a 24/7 slave and a masochist there is still the issue of reality. Other than that issue, i feel proud to not use a safe word, relying instead on my Master's judgment of how far to push me. To date, he has kept me happy, aroused, and in pain a lot. i love Him for that. 26 Aug 08, 10:20 PM painsluttania UK, 6 mths £ i have a save word but i never used it my master always stop when needed i always want to go further painslavetania 28 Aug 08, 3:51 AM kashta US, 9 mths Y! When I've been pushed hard, I've completely lost the ability to think rationally enough to use a safeword. Having had this demonstrated to me in the past - much to my own amazement... I've learned that it's necessary to forewarn any Dom with whom I become involved to please not rely on me to alert him if there's trouble. 28 Aug 08, 10:10 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs My boy does not have a safeword. he never used it even when he did have one though, before he was fully Owned. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 30 Aug 08, 7:33 AM little_linnet US, 3 yrs Ditto here, Tiara. And like kashta, I found that I was completely unable to use one when I had it. By the time play got anywhere near intense enough that I might possibly feel like my limits were being reached, I'd pretty much left the building. Krista The thing you have to remember about girls is that the hyperfluid bearings under the camshafts can be miscalibrated along either axis, so regular maintanence is required to keep resonance in the titanium casing from causing abrasions against the primary sprocket joists. 8 Sep 08, 12:48 AM KarlyKitty US(WI), 4 mths David-Sama and I actually do not have a safe word. I honestly don't feel as if we need one because whenever He pushes me too far He knows because of my reactions. I never fear having David-Sama harming me. David-Sama's Tamed Lioness David-Sama acknowledges that I am still a person, and still have opinions, so though I am his Slave, I still have a "me/I". Next page