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	SD! : Web boards : SM & Bondage : "safewords and pushing beyond" 1 2 3 safewords and pushing beyond (22) 26 Sep 08, 1:58 PM mynx_of_Sir US(TX), 6 mths Y! i have only had to use the safeword, well safe 'action' twice and only during training. i have a problem with a certain action that Master likes and He is training me for it. i only needed the safe action twice during that time when He pushed me a tad bit further than i thought i could go. He stopped as soon as He did so of course. But other than that i have never had to use a safeword or safe 'action' much. He knows me better than i know myself. Love who you are, Never who you aren't owned by Master Al 30 Sep 08, 1:36 AM 485-906-924 UK, 4 mths I rarely use a safe word in my play, as I know how far the person is willing to go, 30 Sep 08, 12:46 PM 613-411-535 4 mths I've had safe words in the past. Every time I've been in a scene I've been taken past the place I'd have thought I'd have needed to use it. That may be due to what went on in my head at the time, but more likely it was the skill of the Domme. Now, I don't need a safe word. I don't ever want a safe word. I could not refuse to go wherever she wants to take me. Besides, I trust her 9 Oct 08, 7:03 AM Alissa US(MA), 5 mths Y! I have a safeword and have needed to use it twice...needed to but wasn't able to. They were both when my Master was choking me while he was roughly...well I am sure Y/you know what he was doing. The first time I wasn't hurt at all, just panicked, the second time I ended up with a stress fracture in my collar bone. My Master and I have agreed that there can't be anymore choking for the time being. 9 Oct 08, 5:30 PM slave_kandy UK, 12 mths I also have a safe word but like most haven't used it yet, as with your Master mine also pushes me a little further and sometimes I think its just to get me to use it but he knows me very well and can usually tell when it is time to change or ease back a litte for fear of permanent harm. There have been times when maybe I should have used it but I have chosen not too, only because I would feel I had disappointed him and that I never wish to do. 21 Oct 08, 6:34 PM meriaton US(MN), 3 yrs i have a safeword and i do use it from time to time. The problem is that i hate to use it. Despise it. i always feel as though i'm being displeasing by not taking in full measure what my Master wants to do with me. But occasionally, (and please note, the safeword isn't used often), there are just some things that i am unable to take. Not unwilling. Unable. i'm getting better, and Master has repeatedly told me that the safeword is there for me to use because He is still learning me and my reactions to things and needs to know when i'm getting to the point where i can handle no more. It's for my safety, and He treasures me and doesn't want to break me. meriaton - slave of Akhenaton http://meriaton.byethost12.com/blog/blog4.php Sometimes a sense of humor is the only sense i have! 23 Oct 08, 2:18 PM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs I 'do' have a safeword (it's SAFEWORD; no forgetting it there, then!), but it's never been used for the thing of needing to get out of a fix; The last time I used it was because my sinuses are really bad and I simply 'had' to blow my nose; that was in, like, the first 5 minutes or so of the session, and I was all tied (chained) up. In terms of 'needing' one though, I get way too goo-ey, or get through pain and such in odd ways to need one for that, so it's very much defunct for that purpose. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ 10 Nov 08, 6:41 PM jjsslave US(OH), 14 mths Technically speaking Master and i dont have any safe words set up. i do remember in the beginning we talked about it but that was 5 close to 6 years ago. Now that we live together we just havent discussed it. i have asked for a break in order to catch my breath once, other than that i havent had to. He just seems to be able to read me and know where i'm at as far as "limits" go. completely devoted to Master 15 Nov 08, 4:55 AM 401-215-819 US(MA), 2 yrs a bit of irony! With my previous Master, i had never used my safe word. We went to a bdsm retreat and while i was unknowingly waiting for a scene Master asked me if i had any questions. i began a discussion of another slave who had used their safe word during a scene and i told Him i was afraid of using my safe word and embarrassing Him. He was very kind and explained it would only reflect poorly on Him if i failed to stop an unsafe situation. Well, the 'unknowingly waiting' was i had told Master of my abduction fantasy and he had set it up for me. my fantasy was made true and brought me too far too quick. During the safe word discussion a group of people passing buy threw a hood over me, dragged me away and began to beat me (which was my fantasy). i was not hurt permanently, just overwhelmed i believe. i did use my safe word and the entire team was awesome. The after care of all involved was great and then Master and i had a long talk because i still felt like i let Him down. He told me i was wonderful and did a good job. But i know in my heart, if i had not been in the middle of the conversation, i would not have used my safe word. 16 Nov 08, 4:24 AM 119-812-164 US, 2 mths Y! 544-282-976 wrote: exactly what i mean, it's like He is training me to use it when He knows i need to so that when lost like that, i will be able to do so on my own. this could also be so that He knows i will use it when sceneing with other Doms as well. i tend to get "lost in the moment" like that too. Master Mike's precious your Master's approach is interesting and i have no right to question it. if i were in that situation, though, i would feel it difficult to develop trust in my Master's ability to read me i suppose. i used my safeword with my old Master once ... and i asked forgiveness it made me feel so badly. but moreso, it made me retreat a bit in my trust ... he said to me he was proud that i used it but for me, i felt a little as though i had failed and also, disappointed that my Master could not see where i was challenged ... i hope that approach works well for both of you. all best ... The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.-- Alfred Lord Tennyson (1809 - 1892) Next page