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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "New slave????" 1 2 New slave???? (12) Sun 1 Jun 08, 4:15 AM Slave_Ale US(FL), 6 mths  My master wants to get another slave to top me. I have never been with a woman before or ever wanted to be with one. This idea has been very hard for me to deal with, but I know that is something he really wants, either now or in the future. So, he told me to look for someone. So, i have been. I really want to make my Master happy, and I would do anything for him. Today, I was talking him about how nervous I am, and that I'm scared/nervous to be with another woman. I'm also scared that he would either like her more than me, or like her enough to want to keep her long time. That would really really hurt me. He said, it will probably be very low key, not so physical, maybe at first just serve him and her, and just b submissive to both of them rather than a heavy scene or something... He also assured me that that would never happen. My master will marry me in 2 months, and he assured me that I will be his wife and will alway love me, and I will always be number one. That made me feel so good, very secure. I want to do everything for him, and i don't want him to be disappointed :'(..I told him I would do anything he wanted me to, I'd go as far as he told me, and I will. If he wants me to be fucked by her, or wants me to lick her pussy, I will. I might not want to, but I will, for him.... Now I'm afraid he'll just want to protect me, and my feelings. I feel he will make things softer for me, but maybe not do what he really wants. but it's hard to get to the idea, you know... I have very crossed feelings right now. Edited Sun 1 Jun 08, 4:22 AM by Slave_Ale 1 Jun 08, 3:55 PM Kookers 6 mths  Ok. This situation is always a hard one.I for one am gay and although I've never been Dommed by a man or had one as a master I understand where your discomfort comes from because I have been ordered to be with a man before. (My Domme lent me to her friends for their anniversary a few times) But I can say that it was very difficult for me at first too. I think we both had the reaction of wanting to please our owners above all else though, and that will help you as you begin getting used to the idea of a new D. Remember you're pleasing your Master. Also I wouldn't worry too much about him holding back, he is a Dom and they are typically pretty good about making themselves heard/obeyed. I know he won't want to hurt you in any way, but this won't hurt you... press your limits, yes, make you uncomfortable, yes, but no more so than a long session with a whip will. Also consider the fact that you can use your safe-word to stop whatever is happening, if you have one, even if it is sexual with this new D, immediately and that's ok. It's your right as a subi. Most of the times when I've used my safe-word it's been because of a mental state or because of a game that just pushed me too far mentally, not because of beatings or playing rough. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress! kait "Submission is a gift earned through trust. Dominance is a responsibility that may hurt, but never harms that gift." 2 Jun 08, 5:28 PM masterfiremaam US(AZ), 2 yrs  Just an off hand comment...it's interesting the thought that you might like HER better doesn't seem to be in the picture. Before you really start looking, be really clear about what he's wanting. For some of us, Topping doesn't include sex. For some of us, Topping you doesn't include submission to him. I'd sit and write out the expectations, especially in the area of how she will serve him and how she will or will not be included in your relationship. Adding a third is a tricky thing sometimes. How it's done depends on your relationship dynamic. From what I've seen, having just one of you look doesn't work well. To make it clear that the two of you are a couple and come as a package, it might be a good idea to look as a couple. Master Fire ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Oh Hai! Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 4 Jun 08, 12:34 AM Slave_Ale US(FL), 6 mths  Thank you guys for your advise. Master and I are still talking about it as we keep looking. As it turns out, it might take a long time to find the right person. Not that he is in any rush. So, we still have time to figure out all his expectations, as new "candidates" come along. I know he will take good care of me and wont push me more than i can take at a time, though it might be more than what I think I can take. 30 Jun 08, 12:17 AM ChaosxandxSeduction US(CA), 19 mths  I've read your delima, it's okay to be afraid. Although as a bisexual I find this all so silly. I was a thrid before, and I had so much fun doing it, and I cared very deeply for both partys. You should keep in mind that this woman you are seeking could very well become your best friend, and you shouldent fight that. Be friends with her, discuss your worrys with her, make sure she understands how you feel about the situation, since she will be domming you, she should try to understand and help put your mind at ease. You have to find the right person, and being with a woman isent all that bad really. They are very soft and gentle, nothing to be afraid of. ~Regards~ Miss Selene & Master Luancy 2 Jul 08, 8:35 AM MasterTJs_lil1bebe US(IA), 5 mths  Slave_Ale wrote: New slave???? i do not mean to scare you, slave_ale, but i need to say it, my ex-master, wanted this too, we talked and talked about it, he saw how i reacted to it, so the subject was dropped, i trusted him, that it had been dropped, and i thought it had been, because nothing was said anymore about it, but later it happened, and i lost trust in him, after that, nothing was the same after that, so it ended. My master wants to get another slave to top me. I have never been with a woman before or ever wanted to be with one. This idea has been very hard for me to deal with, but I know that is something he really wants, either now or in the future. So, he told me to look for someone. So, i have been. I really want to make my Master happy, and I would do anything for him. Today, I was talking him about how nervous I am, and that I'm scared/nervous to be with another woman. I'm also scared that he would either like her more than me, or like her enough to want to keep her long time. That would really really hurt me. He said, it will probably be very low key, not so physical, maybe at first just serve him and her, and just b submissive to both of them rather than a heavy scene or something... He also assured me that that would never happen. My master will marry me in 2 months, and he assured me that I will be his wife and will alway love me, and I will always be number one. That made me feel so good, very secure. I want to do everything for him, and i don't want him to be disappointed :'(..I told him I would do anything he wanted me to, I'd go as far as he told me, and I will. If he wants me to be fucked by her, or wants me to lick her pussy, I will. I might not want to, but I will, for him.... Now I'm afraid he'll just want to protect me, and my feelings. I feel he will make things softer for me, but maybe not do what he really wants. but it's hard to get to the idea, you know... I have very crossed feelings right now. 2 Jul 08, 8:41 AM MasterTJs_lil1bebe US(IA), 5 mths  MasterTJs_lil1bebe wrote: Slave_Ale wrote: New slave???? My master wants to get another slave to top me. I have never been with a woman before or ever wanted to be with one. This idea has been very hard for me to deal with, but I know that is something he really wants, either now or in the future. So, he told me to look for someone. So, i have been. I really want to make my Master happy, and I would do anything for him. Today, I was talking him about how nervous I am, and that I'm scared/nervous to be with another woman. I'm also scared that he would either like her more than me, or like her enough to want to keep her long time. That would really really hurt me. He said, it will probably be very low key, not so physical, maybe at first just serve him and her, and just b submissive to both of them rather than a heavy scene or something... He also assured me that that would never happen. My master will marry me in 2 months, and he assured me that I will be his wife and will alway love me, and I will always be number one. That made me feel so good, very secure. I want to do everything for him, and i don't want him to be disappointed :'(..I told him I would do anything he wanted me to, I'd go as far as he told me, and I will. If he wants me to be fucked by her, or wants me to lick her pussy, I will. I might not want to, but I will, for him.... Now I'm afraid he'll just want to protect me, and my feelings. I feel he will make things softer for me, but maybe not do what he really wants. but it's hard to get to the idea, you know... I have very crossed feelings right now. sorry, that i got my quote above what you posted, slave_ale, i am still trying to post right, am sorry. i do not mean to scare you, slave_ale, but i need to say it, my ex-master, wanted this too, we talked and talked about it, he saw how i reacted to it, so the subject was dropped, i trusted him, that it had been dropped, and i thought it had been, because nothing was said anymore about it, but later it happened, and i lost trust in him, after that, nothing was the same after that, so it ended. 3 Jul 08, 4:55 AM MasterJCR 5 mths  Great response!!! if any new slave enters an already M/s family...its totally fair to respectfully request a clear contract of their joining the Master's family..even short term... I understand its devotion, however a M/s relationship is a living and breathing thing and progresses more fully in honesty, truth, and trust building..communication being the major key.. Any Master/Mistress and slave need to have clarity to delve deeper into the natural committment of this relationship at Any point of new expectations not already contracted...I mean changes affecting the Master's household and his/her slave... Am also impressed with the above slave's answer, sound advice and support.. By the way, bebe, slave is going there a very 'natural' stage of progression...mmmm..2 months to a further commitment..Has bebe respectfully asked if Master is nervous about this event? cheers.. 3 Jul 08, 4:59 AM MasterJCR 5 mths  I am very sorry Slave Ale, I was posting on another board and got names mixed up.. I meant what I posted though.. cheers Slave Ale.. 3 Jul 08, 7:32 PM MasterJCR 5 mths  wanted to thank members postings on this thread!!! I have found MY slave and because of this issue thread, asked MY slave in beginning contract, what was slave's limits around this issue ...it finnally came out from slave that slave didn't want to be shared...Which being the self-centred Master I am- I said great, cause I don't want to share slave.. W/we did 'whatever Master wishes' routine first until, with gentle coaching got the turth... Both myself and MY slave thank you all for helping in this again, beginning process... cheers... 3 Jul 08, 7:35 PM MasterJCR 5 mths  separate note to slave_ale...I really hope there is a successful conclusion to slave_ale's challenge...thinking and actually kinda praying for slave_ale to make the choice based truth and honesty...both with slave_ale and the Master... Next page