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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "Self punishment" 1 2 Self punishment (18) 23 Jun 08, 9:38 PM 516-363-719 US, 23 mths Thank you for the very detailed and thoughtful answer Mistress. 25 Jun 08, 12:30 PM Blush4Him US, 8 mths slave_uli wrote: Self punishment Hello to all! i just wonder what an unowned slave shall do if crossed the lined, or broke some rule to follow? if a slave has no Owner -who sets rules for him or her? if self punishment makes sense, what forms it can acquire. very curious) Thanks in advance! uli First off, I would ask who set the rules? If you did, yourself, are you expecting too much of yourself? I think you need to make sure that your expectations of yourself are not too high. I set strict rules for myself so I can certainly understand. That being said, I'm not one who thinks that self-punishment is healthy or helpful. Discipline - yes. Punishment - no. I personally tend to beat myself up (mentally - not physically so much) for every tiny mistake and always have. It's my nature and I need the atonement to forgive myself. Maybe you're the same way? In order to forgive your mistakes, why not look at positive things you can do? Some things that have worked for me in the past (prior to my relationship with my Sir) have been spending free time doing something I should be doing, but haven't, like studying something new (expanding my vocabulary is always a good one) or writing an essay on something you have learned. Weeding an elderly neighbor's flowerbed, cleaning out that dreaded hall closet, or something that takes my time from a fun activity works for me. I believe that doing something positive might be more effective for you. It's easy to spank myself with a belt - it's much harder to give my time and energy to something that will actually help me. I wish you the best, Blush 27 Jun 08, 12:26 AM MasterMattsslave CA, 11 mths Y! i don't think self discipline and self punishing are the same thing. To me discipline is making yourself try to follow something strictly while punishing is abusing your self (whether emotionally, physically, etc) when you break your own rules. Also, i don't think you can treat being unowned like you are owned. It doesn't work the same way because there are no stakes, no Master to please/displease. You can live strictly though, but i would suggest using a financial punishment, such as not allowing yourself to buy the cute sweater you had been looking at, or no junk food for two weeks or something. i would never hurt myself physically or deny myself food as those are unhealthy. nadia "I will love and protect you forever. you are worth any risk. you are not broken" (Master Matt) 27 Jun 08, 9:23 AM 173-679-987 ID, 10 mths self punishment however ideal it's it would be so unobjectives it's more subjectives and just for fun and pleasure... i pinch my labia by my own cos it help me to cuM early and quick again n again ... simply i dun believe in self punishment 27 Jun 08, 12:22 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs MasterMattsslave wrote: i don't think self discipline and self punishing are the same thing. I concur. I see no benefit at all in self punishment. It would be better to invest the energy you wish to put into self correction into undoing the ocnsequences of the undesirable behaviour when this is possible, or learning how to avoid repeating the same mistake, or doing something good for the community, or some kind of self improvement. Any of the above would be positive uses of your time and energy, but hurting yourself or other acts of self imposed 'punishment' are actually quite useless, as well as not a healthy way to behave. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 27 Jun 08, 7:56 PM joyless US, 8 mths slave_uli wrote: Self punishment Hello to all! i just wonder what an unowned slave shall do if crossed the lined, or broke some rule to follow? if a slave has no Owner -who sets rules for him or her? if self punishment makes sense, what forms it can acquire. very curious) Thanks in advance! uli Starting from a very early age i tried to give myself the discipline that i seemingly lack from my parents...i had a variety of ways to inflict punishment upon myself. If i over-ate or went over my calorie limit for the day i would deny myself food the next day, or do a sit-up/push-up for ever calorie over...if i was disrespectful to someone and hurt them, i would hurt myself...the problem is that i put all these rules and restrictions on myself set up with pretty little punishments, but it never stopped me from making these mistakes. i became addicted to the punishment, the pain, and instead of working on ridding myself of these errors, i simply began to see more and more of them, until they overwhelmed me...Thankfully, i have Someone who cares enough about me to save me from myself and give me that release that i sought through the blade. i am not saying that self-punishment is not a good idea. But in my particular case, my addictive personality worked against me and turned something that was supposed to be helpful into something harmful. Good luck to you though :: Quod me nutrit, me destruit :: 29 Jun 08, 8:55 PM Property US, 9 mths If you are unowned it is self mandated. If you are owned, like property, it is what Master calls behavior modification. I am not punished, my actions are. ~property www.ownedbymyhusband.blogspot.com 4 Jul 08, 10:53 PM 414-579-465 US(NC), 6 mths Y! I think self bondage is a great way to punish your own behavior. Maybe while watching a show you hate over and over again. Just be careful self bondage can be dangerous, make sure you have backup release methods.