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	SD! : Web boards : Practical IE : "Use of Communication" Use of Communication (4) Mon 30 Jun 08, 11:35 PM Raegan UK, 2 yrs How do you use communication, and what forms of communication do you use, to progress further with internal enslavement? I realise this is quite a broad question so feel free to interpret it and answer how you like. I'm particularly interested in how thought processes are examined and discussed to bring down defensive walls. 30 Jun 08, 11:46 PM Lord_Laraby US(NY), 3 yrs Y! Raegan wrote: Use of Communication How do you use communication, and what forms of communication do you use, to progress further with internal enslavement? I realise this is quite a broad question so feel free to interpret it and answer how you like. I'm particularly interested in how thought processes are examined and discussed to bring down defensive walls. I use talks and lectures to teach my slave. I also tend to talk her through difficult tasks. I allow limited discussion of new and strange topics that interest her. I give her a journal in which she may give voice to any and all feelings and thoughts - I read her journal in my ironman suit. She is fully allowed to express her opinion in it to any degree with no limitations. Also, at bed time I often just sit and listen to her ramble about almost everything. We call that her "pillow talk" time. But she also knows that I will be very supportive during that time of any of her issues, concerns or fears. But, I am also the kind of Master that will never lie or stretch the truth with my slave. If she asks me a question, she well knows the answer may not be what she is hoping to hear. I consider communication of paramount import. Our relationship could not grow or even survive without it. It ranks right behind honesty and openness in my requirements. I am aiming to get my slave to a point of total transparency to me. It is a goal that is as yet progressing. Edited 30 Jun 08, 11:47 PM by Lord_Laraby 30 Jun 08, 11:48 PM 544-282-976 US(NJ), 2 yrs Raegan wrote: Use of Communication I'm particularly interested in how thought processes are examined and discussed to bring down defensive walls. This part of the question struck me as this is exactly the term Master uses to describe the kind of journalling i am required to do for Him. i journal every day at LEAST once. if there is something going on that is emotional on any level (personal, bdsm, work, whatever) i must journal more. i am to journal on my feelings as they happen and Master says it's so He can learn how my thought process works. i can tell you that doing this has helped us learn a great deal about each other and ourselves as well. it is as much a tool for Him to explore His feelings and thought processes as much as one for me. He responds to my journal (it used to be written AND emailed, now it is online and archived) and we explore the thought process or the feelings together. we've grown and gone places together as Master and slave that might not have been possible without this deep insight. Hope that is somewhat useful... Master Mike's precious 1 Jul 08, 12:02 AM JRCs_petk HK, 14 mths Y! My Owner and I tend to stick to the old fashioned method of communication - talking. Generally one of us will pick up when the other is troubled about something, physical behaviour tends to change in the both of us. When an issue arises, we head to a comfortable space - in our case the bedroom to discuss whatever is on our minds. I am learning to be pro-active with my concerns, actively seeking communication prior to my Owner noticing that 'something is up'. We wind down most nights before sleep chattering away in bed, it might be trivial conversations, shared hopes, communicating concerns or deep and meaningful. We use this time as an open forum to debrief, get things off our minds, or more often than not, spar ideas off one another. I am someone who finds it a lot easier to communicate via journal or text than face to face, I am essentially a shy creature. For this very reason, I force myself to communicate face to face with my Owner, allowing myself to be completely open, free. This has improved not only my relationship with my Owner, but also the way in which I communicate with colleagues, friends, family and acquaintances. Regards, petk 1 Jul 08, 2:02 AM obielax US(OH), 9 mths Y! Lord_Laraby wrote: (((snip))) I consider communication of paramount import. Our relationship could not grow or even survive without it. It ranks right behind honesty and openness in my requirements. I am aiming to get my slave to a point of total transparency to me. It is a goal that is as yet progressing. Hear hear!! Total transparencey is a goal for us as well. Honesty and openness are pointless if you don't communicate. Obie Say what you mean, mean what you say.