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	SD! : Web boards : Practical IE : "Questions to Ask Prospective Owner" 1 2 Questions to Ask Prospective Owner (12) Thu 17 Jul 08, 5:28 AM 238-864-563 US(CA), 11 mths  Are there questions that a slave should ask when initially becoming acquainted with a prospective owner/Master? Are there questions you wish you had asked? 238-864-563 17 Jul 08, 6:48 AM masterfiremaam US(AZ), 2 yrs  Most people focus on fetishes and sex. But, if you want to be owned, ask about: Conflict resolution Structure of the household (ie poly, etc) Financial responsibilities and control Retirement and estate planning Presenting problems and asking questions (how to do that) Roles in children's lives Living arrangements Wills, living wills and powers of attorney Master Fire ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Oh Hai! Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Edited 17 Jul 08, 9:16 AM by masterfiremaam 17 Jul 08, 7:39 AM MasterTJs_lil1bebe US(IA), 5 mths  some Masters are more into pain, than sex, but then some Masters are more into sex, than pain, but then some Masters are into both pain and sex. that is a question to ask. MasterTJ's_lil1bebe 17 Jul 08, 12:59 PM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs  MasterTJs_lil1bebe wrote: some Masters are more into pain, than sex, but then some Masters are more into sex, than pain, but then some Masters are into both pain and sex. that is a question to ask. Some might like their house tidy, nice food and a well-behaved companion. We don't just have sex on the brain? Only a thought, not looking to flame. Master's l'il one®(her Rights are Mine in reserve) 17 Jul 08, 2:01 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 7 mths  238-864-563 wrote: Questions to Ask Prospective Owner Are there questions that a slave should ask when initially becoming acquainted with a prospective owner/Master? Are there questions you wish you had asked? 238-864-563 Trial periods or periods of 'consideration' for both parties to ensure that both people get to know each other and become prepared for what could be a lifetime commitment. K x 17 Jul 08, 2:11 PM 621-375-058 5 mths  I thoroughly (sp? sorry, brain isnt working today) recommend getting to know eachother first. Not just as a Dom/sub but as people as well. You can learn quite a bit about a person just by spending a day (or two) together. ~*it is better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not*~ 17 Jul 08, 4:54 PM 238-864-563 US(CA), 11 mths  621-375-058 wrote: I thoroughly (sp? sorry, brain isnt working today) recommend getting to know eachother first. Not just as a Dom/sub but as people as well. You can learn quite a bit about a person just by spending a day (or two) together. To clarify, the query i posted was not meant to suggest the questions one should ask an M type would substitute for spending time together. Rather, the questions would be a way to focus discussion on matters of import to the M/s relationship, specifically. And, yes, i know we need to get along as people as well. 238-864-563 18 Jul 08, 1:14 AM slave_emma US(OK), 2 yrs  Some of the questions I asked when I was searching for a Master were… Career goals? Educational level/goals? Marital status? Why did prior relationships fail? Religious convictions? Medical conditions/ health problems? Drugs or alcohol usage? Will contact with family be allowed? What would my purpose be in his home? Would I work or stay at home? What limits does he have? Hobbies? Dislikes? Pet peeves? The goal of asking questions is to find out if this person is a good match for you. I had a list of very specific things that I wanted in a Master and that helped me to narrow down the search to find what I was really looking for. Good luck in your search! Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 18 Jul 08, 2:55 AM ravenkaldera US(MA), 3 yrs  As much as asking questions, I would observe how the putative dominant acts. Observe especially how they act when faced with individuals over whom they have real-world power (waitresses, bellboys, the dog) and who have real-world power over them (cops, judges, boss). If they are not courteous, considerate, and utterly lacking in pettiness in those situations ... don't sign, don't buy. Also, ask them hard ethical questions. Ask them how they intend to earn your trust, and prove to you that they are worth submitting to. If this incenses them, get out. It is perfectly reasonable for a submissive to expect a new dominant to bother to earn their trust and respect, instead of merely demanding it. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 18 Jul 08, 7:46 AM MasterTJs_lil1bebe US(IA), 5 mths  MasterS70 wrote: MasterTJs_lil1bebe wrote: some Masters are more into pain, than sex, but then some Masters are more into sex, than pain, but then some Masters are into both pain and sex. that is a question to ask. Some might like their house tidy, nice food and a well-behaved companion. We don't just have sex on the brain? Only a thought, not looking to flame. SirS70, bebe is not going there. MasterTJ's_lil1bebe 18 Jul 08, 9:18 AM Raegan UK, 2 yrs  Some of our best M/s related discussions stem from topics posted on the web boards here. We often discuss things that people have written especially when there have been a number of reply posts that highlight different ideas or opinions. If a potential partner participates in web communities, you can gain a lot of insight into someone by reading their posting history. It can also give you a starting point to discuss their expectations of what will happen during your relationship. Next page