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	SD! : Web boards : Captivity : "Choosing a Master" 1 2 Choosing a Master (14) Thu 17 Jul 08, 2:20 PM 430-492-113 DE, 6 mths Y! I am wondering if it is possible to choose a Master? If a slave is not happy with their Master, but knows of someone who they wish to be their Master, is it possible to choose that Master? I was taken as a slave by my former Master, and have been given to my Master, so I do not know if there is a standard of etiquette involved in the process. I do not wish to be considered ungrateful, my Master has treated me well physically, trained me and educated me, but I can take no more mental and emotional cruelty from Him. Rogue Angel, Property of Master G. 17 Jul 08, 2:57 PM Eclectic1 US(ID), 13 mths If your relationship becomes one that is emotionally or physically abusive and is creating an unhealthy atmosphere for you then the hell with protocol. Get out and move on. I have always provided an avenue for a slave to leave should she feel the need. Personally, I only want her with me as much as she wants to be there. This is of course my opinion so take it for what it is worth. 17 Jul 08, 4:32 PM 238-864-563 US(CA), 12 mths 430-492-113 wrote: Choosing a Master I am wondering if it is possible to choose a Master? If a slave is not happy with their Master, but knows of someone who they wish to be their Master, is it possible to choose that Master? I was taken as a slave by my former Master, and have been given to my Master, so I do not know if there is a standard of etiquette involved in the process. I do not wish to be considered ungrateful, my Master has treated me well physically, trained me and educated me, but I can take no more mental and emotional cruelty from Him. While i agree with the last poster about abuse, i wish to add one thing. A slave always chooses her master, in my view. It is the only choice we do have. Make it wisely. 238-864-563 17 Jul 08, 4:50 PM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs 238-864-563 wrote: 430-492-113 wrote: Choosing a Master I am wondering if it is possible to choose a Master? If a slave is not happy with their Master, but knows of someone who they wish to be their Master, is it possible to choose that Master? I was taken as a slave by my former Master, and have been given to my Master, so I do not know if there is a standard of etiquette involved in the process. I do not wish to be considered ungrateful, my Master has treated me well physically, trained me and educated me, but I can take no more mental and emotional cruelty from Him. While i agree with the last poster about abuse, i wish to add one thing. A slave always chooses her master, in my view. It is the only choice we do have. Make it wisely. 238-864-563 one can beg the current Master for release even when the situation is not abusive - but to do that, well, do you know that the other Master would accept you if you did? If not, at least you could look for someone LIKE the other Master you want. if you beg for release, you may have to go out with nothing but perhaps the clothes on your back - i've heard of that happening. Weigh your options and think it through. One thing i've done to consider choices both before and after lifestyle is to take a piece of paper, fold it down the middle vertically and on one side write down the pros and on the other side the cons (for and against) on how well this action would effect me. Perhaps if you have open communication with your current Master you could discuss this or if that Master has you write in a journal S/HE reads.......... Just remember the old proverb here- be careful what you ask for, as you might get it. (grin) could it be you are new to slavery and don't know what to expect? With any Master there will always be something you don't care for, but being a slave we have but one choice - to choose our Master and then to obey or beg for release. (or so it seems to me) In other places sources for online nd other counselors that are "kink-friendly" have been mentioned here - can't remember which thread. i have been told that sometimes i don't have to like something, just accept it. But as others have said, if it's true long-term harmful abuse, to hell with protocol. j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin 17 Jul 08, 7:18 PM 430-492-113 DE, 6 mths Y! Thank you all. I have learnt a little more. Food for thought indeed. Rogue Angel, Property of Master G. 18 Jul 08, 1:59 AM pompett UK, 6 mths I think it has to be a mutual thing , not a choice for one or the other... if both want it then it will work. The thing to bear in mind is that it's a life-style not a life, so if its not right then get some independance and have some time out untill you know what will be the happiest scenario all round. 21 Jul 08, 5:29 PM Property US, 9 mths Did you put in your contract that you can leave if it isnt working out for you? If so, go. If not, you are still entitled to go if youa re not happy in the situation. Explain to your current Master, maybe it is just miscommunication. ~property www.ownedbymyhusband.blogspot.com 21 Jul 08, 5:46 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths 430-492-113 wrote: Choosing a Master I am wondering if it is possible to choose a Master? If a slave is not happy with their Master, but knows of someone who they wish to be their Master, is it possible to choose that Master? I was taken as a slave by my former Master, and have been given to my Master, so I do not know if there is a standard of etiquette involved in the process. I do not wish to be considered ungrateful, my Master has treated me well physically, trained me and educated me, but I can take no more mental and emotional cruelty from Him. Hi angel I'm hoping I can get you to clarify. You talk of being taken in slavery and then given to your current master. We are talking about consensual slavery here aren't we? If by any chance we're not, then you run... get yourself to a place of safety and get protection from the law. If we are talking about consensual non-consent then there's a fine line to be drawn here. Our own wiki states that a slave cannot just choose to end a relationship with her Master. BUT as has been said, a lot of us have contracts, written or unwritten which allow for extremes. My own states in so many words that should my master lose his sense of honour, his mind or become otherwise incapable of mastering me, I have a duty to remove myself for my own safety. Now, that's not quite the case here as far as I read it but you talk of mental and emotional cruelty and that language seems possibly to indicate abuse. NO M/s relationship, in my opinion, is an excuse for abuse. You KNOW deep down if this is part of what you signed up for so follow your instincts and get out if you need to, stay if your honour holds you. Talk to your master. Explain your struggles and seek his help. He is honour bound to help you too no matter how hard your relationship and his style is, ultimately he doesn't want a broken slave. Talk to your original master if you're still owned by him. He too has a duty to help if you did not choose the one you're with now surely? Talk to people, keep seeking help either way and I hope you find happiness and peace of mind. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 17 Nov 08, 12:24 AM Dominator403 UK, 9 mths Y! Its all about fun not harm.....to many jump into this lifestyle thinking its just another relatioship....Its all about finding one with the same mindset and who wont become jealous,or judgemental later on after you have been in the relationship for a while. 17 Nov 08, 12:26 AM Dominator403 UK, 9 mths Y! Its all about fun not harm.....to many jump into this lifestyle thinking its just another relatioship....Its all about finding one with the same mindset and who wont become jealous,or judgemental later on after you have been in the relationship for a while. 17 Nov 08, 12:36 AM little_linnet US, 3 yrs If you are literally able to leave the relationship without permission, and you want to do so ... then do it. If you're literally able to leave the relationship without permission, but it would mean breaking a promise, then only you can decide whether breaking your word would be worth it. (And it seems to me like the situation might be fodder for a good think on what kind of promises it's wise to make in the future.) If you're *not* literally able to leave without permission, then all that's left to you is to beg for release and hope for the best. It's such a common misunderstanding of enslavement that "can't leave" is about some kind of agreement the submissive makes, to always ACT as though they can't leave. That's not really how it works, though; people are free to make whatever promises or oaths they like, of course, including that they will never leave without permission, but the defining characteristic of enslavement is that the slave is literally unable to think of themselves as a free person and to break their owner's authority over them. Krista It's like trying to correct the math of somebody adding two and three when they're working under the notion that two means six and three means paprika. Next page