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	SD! : Web boards : Service : "Admitting to being Owned" 1 2 3 4 Admitting to being Owned (34) 19 Aug 08, 2:40 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths 451-828-595 wrote: Hi, this is my first post on this forum. I just wanted to ask if you don't have any fears of being abused by a stranger if he finds out you're a slave. I was (and still am) always afraid of other teenagers when walking on the streets, especially at night. While I've not really had too many bad encounters with strangers (apart from being sworn at for being gay and showing it, and one time I was beaten up a bit by two others), I'm still very nervous whenever I see someone who seems to be 'looking for trouble' if you know what I mean. I was always told not to look 'submissive' since those kinds or people prefer to gang up on 'weak' targets... But wearing a collar in public (and my Master not being with me) makes you look VERY weak, doesn't it? I missed this before and just wanted to say that I suspect there are other messages you are giving all unawares. It's been known a long time that if you look like a victim - timid, unsure, lost - you mark yourself out as one. And so, because you are nervous (understandably if you've had bad experiences) you draw negative attention to yourself. But absolutely NO, wearing a collar does not make you look weak if you are proud of it and walk tall wearing it. I have to say that that's the only experience I have of wearing J's collar, the other alternatives just never came to mind. Personally I remember being told this as a young girl going out at night or walking home from work as a way of keeping safe. I think you need a little help to do it 451 but you can as someone else said, fake it, and change the whole way the world looks at you and to you if you can do it well enough to believe it. Submissives are strong, courageous and valuable beings - ask any good dominant - and you need to learn that first and it will help both in the lifestyle and on the street. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 1 Sep 08, 1:45 AM 939-646-192 US(NV), 23 mths Y! I am currently unowned, however, with my last master I publically declared him. I make my won beaded necklaces and how I did it was to make one with letters tht stated I was owned by "my master's name". I had several young people, most of whom thought it was cool. I did have one who started to discuss the lifestyle with me, and I found she was also owned! Submissively, Rikki M. tsrn 939-646-192 1 Sep 08, 6:43 AM JSubathrt US(CA), 5 mths Y! "Submissives are strong, courageous and valuable beings - ask any good dominant - and you need to learn that first and it will help both in the lifestyle and on the street." (I haven't figured out the reply with quote thing yet...so I'm doing the best I can...) I am so glad this was stated. I walk tall...I carry myself with a couragous attitude that comes from my heart. I am strong...I am willfull...I am wonderful...I am valuable...and Dave cherishes me and allows me to wear his collar because of all of the above...not because I am inferior to Him or anyone else! I am Dave's equal. We are a team! I simply choose to be his slave because that is the dynamics that makes our relationship so incredibly special. Judy 5 Sep 08, 6:57 PM 625-760-331 UK, 22 mths Y! 451-828-595 wrote: Hi, this is my first post on this forum. I just wanted to ask if you don't have any fears of being abused by a stranger if he finds out you're a slave. I was (and still am) always afraid of other teenagers when walking on the streets, especially at night. While I've not really had too many bad encounters with strangers (apart from being sworn at for being gay and showing it, and one time I was beaten up a bit by two others), I'm still very nervous whenever I see someone who seems to be 'looking for trouble' if you know what I mean. I was always told not to look 'submissive' since those kinds or people prefer to gang up on 'weak' targets... But wearing a collar in public (and my Master not being with me) makes you look VERY weak, doesn't it? The only way to cope with such who are looking for trouble is by displaying self-confidence. Up until only recently i myself never had much self-confidence but i always knew how to fake it. Kepping my head high and my back/shoulders straight has got me savely through a mob of drunk youths who were already figgeting with their knifes and knuckle dusters on search for a victim. When someone is looking for trouble you just have to look as if they actually could get what they ask for if they mess with you, even if you know you got no chance, look the part...fake it...but be careful not to mistake self-confidence with arogance....displaying arogance will get you a fist in the face and knife in the ribs faster than looking weak. And besides, it takes a lot of strengh and self-confidence to be a submissive, so forget about the idea that subs are weak. 7 Sep 08, 3:05 PM Damsel US, 4 mths I find all this information very comforting because I am very timid and shy about people knowing. I am always worried about being judged and losing friends over it. It really scares me also that my master could be arrested if the wrong person found out. But this thread has made me a little more confident about revealing my true self. 7 Sep 08, 8:44 PM 315-076-759 UK, 7 mths 625-760-331 wrote: 451-828-595 wrote: Hi, this is my first post on this forum. (edited) I just wanted to ask if you don't have any fears of being abused by a stranger if he finds out you're a slave. (edited) The only way to cope with such who are looking for trouble is by displaying self-confidence. Up until only recently i myself never had much self-confidence but i always knew how to fake it. When someone is looking for trouble you just have to look as if they actually could get what they ask for if they mess with you, even if you know you got no chance, look the part...fake it...but be careful not to mistake self-confidence with arogance....displaying arogance will get you a fist in the face and knife in the ribs faster than looking weak. And besides, it takes a lot of strengh and self-confidence to be a submissive, so forget about the idea that subs are weak. I think this is sound advice, not only for those of us in this lifestyle but for life in general. It is always best to look as though you can handle yourself. Remember, a prospective assailant has no idea how good you are or otherwise at self defence. And 625-760-331's last point is a cogent one. Subs DO need self confidence to be such if not a little extrovert. To be a true slave is to be truly free Slave/Sklavos 10 Sep 08, 6:33 PM jjsslave US(OH), 14 mths Congrats and you should be proud of who and what you are. Good luck to your and Yours 21 Sep 08, 11:37 AM 323-667-833 AU, 3 yrs £ That's great. I will try that and perhaps i too would feel as you felt. Cheers. 21 Sep 08, 3:08 PM 254-963-103 2 yrs In public my DOM/OWNER introduced me as "he belongs to me" or "he is my slave", and nobody was shocked or surprised. I always introduced myself as my dom/owner's property and belonged to or as slave. people didn't think too much of it. 28 Oct 08, 10:27 AM 358-783-454 US, 12 mths Y! I have always been timid about anyone knowing I was a 'slave' in a D/s relationship, but at the same time it is absolutely what I want to be with my Master. It excites me, the idea of making some sort of public statement about it. He has had me write 358-783-454 on my wrist (but I highly doubt that is significant to any observers). He's also had be wear an ankle bracelet when I've been at social functions with friends, and I enjoyed the awareness of the little chain and what it symbolized. We began our D/s play with my having to go to a grocery store and buy a big cuccumber and a bottle of KY lotion (and nothing else) -- it was a statement to be sure, but not exactly of being his slave (and, much to our dissapointment, elicted no reaction from the checker). But I've never actually admitted the truth to anyone. I keep a blog (which anyone can read by using the 'Homepage' link from my Slave Register profile). Master has toyed with me by asking whether I would ever tell anyone I actually know that this blog was my own. It's a scary and exciting thought. I want him to take me to sex clubs, so that I can be exhibited and used publicly, and he very much wants to witness me being displayed and serving himself and others of his choosing as a sex-toy. But to sit across the table from someone I actually know from the 'vanilla' segment of my real life -- someone from work, or a friend -- and reveal to them that much of my life is organised around being a willing and eager sex slave for a man who is not even in the same city as I...well, I can't guess at the reaction. And once it's out there, it's out. In the meantime, I wish I could be with him and wear his collar... gigi Next page