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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "Attention to Masters please....." 1 2 3 4 Attention to Masters please..... (33) Sat 26 Jul 08, 4:53 PM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths If it pleases you to do so I was wondering if a few or as many that want to would tell me what a typical day with you and your slave is like, preferably Masters who have to go out and work and have children. What do you do to maintain the lifestyle out of the home for work? When your not present? Thank you so much ahead of time! what do things do you do to make your slave feel controlled? Edited Sat 26 Jul 08, 4:59 PM by Amo_s_beauty 26 Jul 08, 6:39 PM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs Amo_s_beauty wrote: Attention to Masters please..... preferably Masters who have to go out and work and have children. I will step back from this thread except to say this; At 38 years old, I have just been medically retired by My doctor, and I want to go to work but he strongly advises against it because of My condition. I have 4 children; well 'had'.. My ex-wife should've gotten off her lazy backside and cared for them as much as I had, even as much as I was morbidly sick, when I was married to her, then maybe things would've different. No, I don't work now, and haven't done for 19 years, for what it's worth (and loathe every minute of it, make no mistake on that) No, I don't have any children living with Me. Give it as many opinions on 'what a day in other peoples houses' as you like, it still won't change the fact that you need counselling . Oh, but wait. I forgot. I don't have the right to say that do I? Your pre-requisites in the OP negated that for Me. Fishing for opinions is like fishing for compliments; eventually the lake you're sitting next to will be empty and there will be nothing left to hook on the end of that pole. You have to understand that what works in 'My' house (for example), very probably won't work in yours. But then, you keep looking for other's advice and not taking it, anyway, don't you? Master's l'il oneŽ(her Rights are Mine in reserve) 26 Jul 08, 7:26 PM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths Huh????????? What did I do say wrong? Who said I am not taking advice? I know we need counseling... I dunno what I am doing wrong.... I am only asking what a typical day for a Master and slave are? AM I being nosey or something? What am I to do if I can't get advice and get other help too....we are only looking for ideas, not YOUR things you do...everyone here knows I am taking advice or I would be on here yelling about my Amo being all at fault....I know it is mostly me.... I am looking for ideas on how to be a better slave....what is wrong with that???????? I really do not know what your talking about? "Your pre-requisites in the OP negated that for Me." With all do respect, you do not know what advice I am taking, I feel it is rude of you to say I am not taking it... I am sorry of that sounds snotty, but I really do not appreciate this. I came on here to get better... I thought it was OK to get ideas from people who are practicing the lifestyle and learn from people with more knowledge... Edited 26 Jul 08, 7:43 PM by Amo_s_beauty 26 Jul 08, 11:51 PM Tragopan US(CA), 17 mths My Atropa and I have lived and worked together 24/7 for many years, so I can't tell you much about how it is for couples where the Master works outside the home... We have many little things we do to express the M/s relationship - she serves me and does what she is told, of course, but there are also the formalities of address, presenting herself when in need of a new task, morning and evening rituals of submission, that sort of thing. These come and go according to how we feel at the time. Are you looking for the details to help you develop your own? Let us know, and I'm sure some of us will be glad to help out. These relationships take time and effort, especially in the beginning. Even after long-term 24/7 M/s, there can always be a need for new ideas to keep things fresh. Don't be discouraged by the rudeness of the other poster - we have found this to be a supportive community overall, and though flamers are to be found here, I think they are a minority. --Tragopan "From darkness, light." 27 Jul 08, 12:32 AM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs Tragopan wrote: My Atropa and I have lived and worked together 24/7 for many years, so I can't tell you much about how it is for couples where the Master works outside the home... We have many little things we do to express the M/s relationship - she serves me and does what she is told, of course, but there are also the formalities of address, presenting herself when in need of a new task, morning and evening rituals of submission, that sort of thing. These come and go according to how we feel at the time. Are you looking for the details to help you develop your own? Let us know, and I'm sure some of us will be glad to help out. These relationships take time and effort, especially in the beginning. Even after long-term 24/7 M/s, there can always be a need for new ideas to keep things fresh. Don't be discouraged by the rudeness of the other poster - we have found this to be a supportive community overall, and though flamers are to be found here, I think they are a minority. i don't think the prior post was flaming so much as reflecting a very difficult time for that Person - so often "flaming" does cover real hardship and few choose to see past the anger to that hurt/fear/sadness of whatever that is on the flip side of it. Or at least that is true for me - when i "flame" (rarely) it is because i feel threatened and afraid, it is a reaction from my childhood when if i could bring a certain female relative to tears by my words quicky enough when there was a disagreement, i didn't get beaten with the buckle end of a belt. Sometimes it is just a reaction. Being severely disabled also and unable to work or be in service, i can understand Someone being defensive and/or frustrated on those issues - esp. a young Alpha-Male. i am disabled also, a retired slave as my Master is deceased some 8 mos now - not even 3/4 of a year and i just got a post to my e-mail addy hitting on me again. at first this made me mad, with past posts - but now i realize in a weird sort of way it is flattering. i said "thank you but no" of course due to my vow to my late Master never to serve another, my own physical disabilities making me need service myself via various agencies and folks in the Church He was priest/elder in, etc. a typical day for U/us was quite unlike what people with more normal lives might experience. You see Master was already retired due to a heart attack when we went from Husband/wife to Master/slave - He only worked very part-time, was self-employed and i always went with Him when He worked. He repaired refridgeration units for one specific food co. only and sometimes worked on the floor of the stores. This was when W/were both more healthy than at the end. W/we found if i went along and sat with him next to the tools while He worked, He lost less tools - having had them stolen before. i loved these as the jobs often required long drives in the country and He really opened up - or W/we would put classic rock oldies music on and sing our way up and down New England. He almost always took me out to eat at a nice place on the way home. This was kind of humorous since i am legally - not completely - "blind" and had a red/white blind cane with me. W/we never could figure out if folks felt too guilty to steal from a "blind" woman or didn't know what the cane meant, but i tend to think it was the latter. Due to many and sundry experiences i've had where carrying that cane folks have asked for my driver's license as I.D. or have said "What are you blind?" when they almost ran me down, using it in a crosswalk, where by local law one must stop for anyone with said cane. (In the latter instance i pounded on the hood of his car and said "YES AND SO ARE YOU!" But mostly we just hung out around the house - Master spent most of His time online, but He was very much into age-play or me being His pet of whatever. He took care of me and since i have to get agency help to do it now, i realize just how much He did. But He wanted to do it - i think He was bored and He just enjoyed cooking so much, having cooked in a restaurant among His many and varied employment accomplishments, for ex - i couldn't take that from Him. He loved doing these things so much. (and am having to relearn to cook as a result) W/we went to munches and a few othe bdsm events while He could still drive enough to do so, but that ended during the last 6-8 mos. with the exception of a very local munch W/we went to once or twice, just one town over, that had just started then. Mostly being a slave for me was that "children should be seen and not heard" and entertaining mysef unti i was wanted/needed. i did most of the paperwork and legal/bureaucratic stuff required to run a house with 2 disabled folk, etc. - i did my share of what might normally be a Master's chores. But He delegated it to me and supervised, so it was a slaves work for U/us. To the outer eye it often looked as if He was waiting on me hand and foot; however, it was very clearly known to me and to U/us that He did it His way - and it was His way or the High way period. it sometimes stymies me when those folks hired by agencies ask me what i want. Master controlled me with pleasure, praise and hypnosis, just as One might do with a pet or a child once i was collared. And it took me a great deal of time to get past feeling i was less a slave because i thought i "should" be doing the cooking, etc. It took me a long time to learn that serving Him the way He wanted was more important than my ideas on how i "should" serve Him or comparing U/us to other F/folks M/s relationships. Like Sinatra's song, as in all He did, He did it His way And i think there is some wisdom in both prior posts telling Y/you that Y/you must find your way - as a retired subtance abuse counselor, yes i think that perhaps kink friendly counselors, as discussed elsewhere on this board, i don't have the URL but it's in that thread - may be helpful, even needed for You and yours The one thing i will add is what i have said before, making it work for U/us required commitment, consistency and (free/open to some degree or "no fault" as He called it) communication. And for us, the fact that W/we both had some recovery and sobriety in a 12 step recovery plan helped because W/we were working on this with clear minds. So many relationships in this lifestyle that are troubled that i read about here seem to focus on a lack of these things and the clarity of mind needed to implement such a serious relationship - as well as so M/many jumping into such-lke without even knowing each O/other or what the O/other wants/needs/even "hard limits" that are necessary due to some health reasons (mental or physcal and past history) etc i think personally that a collaring should be taken as seriously as a vanilla marriage - with the period of engagement beforehand in the former and something corresponding to it in the latter. i've read where some M/s relationships go through a collar of consideration, a training collar and then a collar of formal acceptance, sometimes with a ceremony - public or private - attached, which i think is a good idea or something like it. Those relationships with the most complaints seem to be those who have jumped into it And of course it must be based on integrity - like an Owner actually being single, divorced or widowed, or in an ACTUAL open or poly relationship and letting the potential slave know the Owner's status, so they can make a clear decision of whether to get involved, etc. To me it seems many would-be Owners want all of the benefits without fulfilling any of their duties to their would-be possesions. just some thoughts and where i am not a Master, feel free to scroll on past this one's thoughts i know i'm not a Master, but i thought that perhaps this would be of use - if not, scroll on down and ignore me, i wonn't be hurt. But as Master always insisted i was an "Alpha Female" and had the capacity to S/switch should i choose to remain active in life-style, i thought that perhaps it would be okay to answer this. If i am out of line, please forgive me. j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin Edited 27 Jul 08, 12:38 AM by 662-935-655 27 Jul 08, 2:15 AM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs Tragopan wrote: Don't be discouraged by the rudeness of the other poster - we have found this to be a supportive community overall, and though flamers are to be found here, I think they are a minority. Excuse me? You don't know Me at all. Both the OP and her master have had problems for months, and have posted on the subject, yet have failed constantly to do anything concrete about it; they have been offered good advice about how to deal with their issues, and it usually involves professionals, and yet, here we are, back on the forum, dealing with it again, because they've dropped the ball. It's entirely perverse for you to suggest I am rude, when if you look back though My archives, and that of the OP, and her master, over their issues previously. I suppose I was being rude then too? I won't stand to be vilified for speaking as I find having been given the right to free speech. I merely suggested that it simply isn't worth the time, nor the effort , and more to the point on their part asking these questions of the community at this point in time, based on the simple primary fact that their relationship is in fundamental, and not M/s based ruin. Direct I may be, wrong I most certainly am NOT. I'm stepping back from this thread, because this isn't worth anymore of My time or energy, except to ONCE MORE repeat; get counselling and stay there until you've sorted the foundation of your problems out! My apologies to those that know Me at all. Master's l'il oneŽ(her Rights are Mine in reserve) 27 Jul 08, 4:24 AM slave_emma US(OK), 2 yrs My Master and I have very busy lives. We both work outside the home and we have a kiddo to look after. We haven't had an issue maintaining our lifestyle preference. It is a lot of work, but it was just a matter of finding a good balance that worked for us. I know what is expected of me and I complete my tasks. My Master doesn't have to stand over my shoulder watching me to make sure it gets done. My Master says I am very conscientious to His needs and how He wants His home. I didn't know all of my Master's desires over night; it took time to really understand Him, His wants, and His needs. I anticipate a lot of what needs to be done. I don't need my Master to tell me to do the dishes or do the laundry. I know what needs to be done so I do it. As far as raising a kiddo, we talked a lot about what sort of values, beliefs, and generalized rules she should have. We did have some conflicts of opinion with what things are more important. My Master determined what areas He was willing to compromise with me on. Since my Master is the kiddo's father he is the primary disciplinarian. I am the kiddo's step-mother so I step back in that area, however, I do advise when she is out of line. We feel that it is better for me to step back in this area, because kids have a hard time accepting step parents and if the step parent is the primary disciplinarian than that could cause the child to feel resentment towards the step parent. My Master and I spend one on one time with the kiddo. We do this so she knows that she is loved by both of us and to help us keep a strong bond with her. She also tends to open up a bit more and talk to us more about her day, her struggles, and etc. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 27 Jul 08, 5:05 AM Master_G_angeleyes US(AR), 6 mths Y! I know with my slave and me, I have a set of chores and tasks that have to be completed every day since I go outside of the house to work. I also call and check on her several times a day to see what she is doing and how much of her chores that she has done. I come home at times for lunch without her knowing that I am coming home in order to see what she is doing and to see for myself what has been done. She knows what is expected of her and knows her boundaries. She is also aware that she will be punished if things aren't done to my acceptance. I hope this gives you some idea. Master G 27 Jul 08, 6:57 AM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths Thank you to all. You are all very helpful! Thank you for understanding that I am only asking for ideas to improve my situation, as well as getting outside help. Thank you especially to 662-935-655 for your wonderful reply! I applaud your enthusiasm! Your all great friends! I will forvever be grateful to you who have helped me in so many ways! Thanks for all your kindness and time to help out a slave like myself. And thank you mostly for your patience. 27 Jul 08, 8:46 AM slavegail UK, 3 yrs Y! written with permission of NG1. a tipical day for this slave can be read on her yahoo 360 blog under slavegail. but as this slave is slave to two entirly diffrent persons her day is made up of washing ironing cooking cleaning decorating and anything else she is told to do . to mantain lifestyle when Owners are out/away this slave is always naked in the house apart from her 3 bels on nipples and clit slaves daily rutines as dictated by Owners such as hygine and cleaning self inside after using toilet always continues Owners also remind slave of her possistoin with plugs chasity belts and there is always the cctv cameras watching slave slavegail Owned Property slavegail Property of NG1 28 Jul 08, 5:06 AM moncherie US(CA), 5 mths Hello all... This is SirLawrence. cherie and I have a standard routine from the moment she gets up to the moment she goes to bed. Wake up time is 6:30am. I give her her meds and uncuff her wrists and remove the blindfold she wears every night. I go to shower while she makes breakfast which is usually just coffee and a bagel or toast. On her knees I kiss her goodbye and go out the door. cherie has a routine to follow which is for some reason still posted on the refridgerator. During the day she is allowed to call on the cell if she encounters an unusual situation and needs guidance and if I'm not available she has my open permission to handle it as best she can. Often times I am very pleased at her solutions. Slaves are not braindead just because they are slaves and cherie has a college degree. I usually arrive home around 6:30 and require cherie to be be kneeling at the door when I arrive. I give her a kiss and give her five minutes to relate her day. She removes my shoes and goes to her corner while I look through the mail and flip a few channels on the TV. cherie is allowed only to speak with permission and in my presence must ask permission to relieve herself. Dinner starts at 7pm. Sometime I allow cherie to eat at the table but most times she is on her knees and I feed her by hand. Sometimes I cuff her hands behind her and sometimes I blindfold her. Durng the evening I give her free time to use the computer, watch TV, read, crochette or in some cases impliment any punishments that may be neccessary. Bedtime is 9:30. cherie sleeps naked and kneels on the bed with her hands cuffed behind her while I brush her hair. Then sometime I use her or make her service me and then blindfold her eyes with a bandage. Later when I slip in to bed she snuggles up on my shoulder. Whew, damn my fingers hurt! Next page