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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "Attention to Masters please....." 1 2 3 4 Attention to Masters please..... (33) 28 Jul 08, 4:22 PM Mr_Fire_and_Ice US, 16 mths I think the idea in any lifestlye is to consistently do things to show that the lifestyle is present or that it exists. In doing this, it's comforting for the slave in their observance of the lifestyle. The thing is, the Master/slave lifestyle comes with a vast amount of things that people can do to indicate on a daily basis that the lifestyle is present. There are so many ideas and so much a Master can do that one might ask "well, gosh, where do I start?" At the same time there are factors that throw a monkey wrench so to speak into some ideas. Those factors could be children, a mother-in-law for some, maybe long hours at work, out side the home and away from the slave etc, etc.......What is a typical day for Masters and slaves, in terms of the lifestyle? Especially when there are limiting factors. I think a typical day can change in a flash within the lifestyle. Which makes it hard to set in stone a more formal day to day structure. It almost seems as though activities to do with your slave or tasks( other than daily cleaning or cooking)to assign your slave, has to be spontaneous or whenever opportunity knocks and time allows. I think at night, when everyone else goes to bed, a Master and slave then has an opportunity to set a "formal" nightly structure. What about other factors that can change a typical day. Factors such as fatigue or just plain forgetting. I read one of earlier posts where the Master mentions he sets aside a certain time every day for the issue of a punishment if required. After working long hours perhaps the punishment may have to carry over to another day because the Master is too tired. Not to mention, if one works 12 hour shifts 3 or 4 days a week like I do, it might take a week to issue that same punishment. True, not all punishments require very much energy. Except when called for more physical punishments such as flogging, caning, etc. Although a Master needs not to go very hard, it still takes quite a bit of energy. Is it really abnormal for a Master to forget? One rule that my slave has is to refer to me as "Amo" on a daily basis. Except when around my mother-in-law. well, my mother-in-law is around us so much that when she is not around and my slave doesn't call me "Amo", sometimes I over look it or pay no attention to it. To conclude, I think some things that a Master and slave does could be set as a formal part of a typical day. On the other hand, when there are limiting factors, a Master and slaves typical day will have to be decided from day to day as it may change. Edited 28 Jul 08, 5:16 PM by Mr_Fire_and_Ice 28 Jul 08, 5:55 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Why would you have to change using Amo around anyone? It means love and is related to the word love and friend in many latin and romantic languages! je t'aime = I love you (french) ami(e) = friend (french) ti amo = I love you (italian) amor = to love (spanish) amare = to love (latin) I'd say make your life easy and allow no exceptions. I'd quite happily use Amo anywhere anytime - only you two need to know that it also means owner or boss in spanish! anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 28 Jul 08, 8:22 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs Mr_Fire_and_Ice wrote: I think the idea in any lifestlye is to consistently do things to show that the lifestyle is present or that it exists. Mmmmmmmm no. Krista No feminist thinks men and women are exactly the same. But what we reject is the notion that the difference between men and women is that men are human and women are objects. 28 Jul 08, 8:53 PM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths Hmmm, you said no Krista, can you share your thoughts? Maybe I am wrong here in what I have been asking for? I would appreciate it, I love to learn from my new friends... 28 Jul 08, 8:55 PM petdelysid US, 13 mths I'll see if my owner wants to discuss this or to let me discuss it before answering the question, but I wanted to post to let Amo's Beauty know that I see nothing worth being offended about in her post. There's nothing wrong with wanting to see how the rest of the world does things. I find it the best way to stumble upon new ideas, myself, and I think this thread could have a lot of potential for Amo's Beauty and for others. ~del~ 28 Jul 08, 10:49 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs Amo_s_beauty wrote: Hmmm, you said no Krista, can you share your thoughts? Maybe I am wrong here in what I have been asking for? I would appreciate it, I love to learn from my new friends... Imagining that "the idea in any lifestyle is to consistently do things to show that the lifestyle is present or that it exists" is coming at it from the wrong angle. People who live a lifestyle (and I'm going to skip over my usual objections to calling power exchange "a lifestyle" here) live it because it's what they *do*, who they are. They don't pencil in things to do so they can show that their lifestyle exists. Worse is when it becomes an issue of the dominant penciling in things to do, to satisfy the submissive that the lifestyle exists. Do some submissives *need* a really consistently demonstrative dominant? Sure. And that means they better find a dominant to submit to who enjoys being consistently demonstrative. Otherwise, the relationship stops being about them submitting and starts being about the dominant jumping through hoops to service the submissive and keep them happy. Krista No feminist thinks men and women are exactly the same. But what we reject is the notion that the difference between men and women is that men are human and women are objects. 28 Jul 08, 11:04 PM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths Ok thank you very much krista. Good point. Yes, petdelysid me and that Master are working things out now. I understood where he was coming from now... but thank you all the same. Edited 28 Jul 08, 11:05 PM by Amo_s_beauty 29 Jul 08, 4:18 PM Mr_Fire_and_Ice US, 16 mths anjuli wrote: Why would you have to change using Amo around anyone? It means love and is related to the word love and friend in many latin and romantic languages! je t'aime = I love you (french) ami(e) = friend (french) ti amo = I love you (italian) amor = to love (spanish) amare = to love (latin) I'd say make your life easy and allow no exceptions. I'd quite happily use Amo anywhere anytime - only you two need to know that it also means owner or boss in spanish! anjuli No, "amor"..... is the Spanish "noun" for "love", "amar" ....is the spanish "verb" for..... "to love". The conjugated form of Amar for "I love" ....is "Amo".....but there is a another totally different word for Amo, which is a Spanish noun.... It means "Master" in Spanish. Therefore, if you want to deal with my mother-in-law asking questions for the rest of your life about being called the "Spanish noun"....then you go right ahead. You can count me out. Just like the fact that my slave and I will have to hide our tattoos if we get them. My mother-in-law lives next door and we would never hear the end of it. Keep in mind your talking about a woman who already suspects something different about us when we're around her and is not afraid to question it. Edited 29 Jul 08, 4:45 PM by Mr_Fire_and_Ice 29 Jul 08, 5:05 PM wandernlilsoul US(CA), 5 mths Wow.. that was sort of harsh, dont you think? 29 Jul 08, 5:30 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Mr_Fire_and_Ice wrote: anjuli wrote: Why would you have to change using Amo around anyone? It means love and is related to the word love and friend in many latin and romantic languages! je t'aime = I love you (french) ami(e) = friend (french) ti amo = I love you (italian) amor = to love (spanish) amare = to love (latin) I'd say make your life easy and allow no exceptions. I'd quite happily use Amo anywhere anytime - only you two need to know that it also means owner or boss in spanish! anjuli No, "amor"..... is the Spanish "noun" for "love", "amar" ....is the spanish "verb" for..... "to love". The conjugated form of Amar for "I love" ....is "Amo".....but there is a another totally different word for Amo, which is a Spanish noun.... It means "Master" in Spanish. It's a damn good job I'm not your slave cos both you and your mother-in-law would never survive the shock. <laughs> Right... so amar not amor is the spanish verb to love And amo is the conjugation of amar for I love. So let's be sure about this - all I got wrong was one letter... yes? <raises eyebrows> And I did use the verb even if I mistyped it in all the variations there and I have no need of grammar lessons from you, thank you. I know the difference and speak several languages. I'd still brazen it out and say that I thought it meant 'my' love and it sounded nice and to hell with what it really means, but that's obviously up to you. As to the fact that you let worry about your mother in law and her views drive you... perhaps I shouldn't comment further. I'd ask her very politely to mind her own business (and yes I've done similar, in as nice a way as was possible, and we all survived to tell the tale.) I used to worry about this sort of stuff but I am happier and we get on better since I gave it up! <grins> My family know damn well that J is master in his own house and they treat him entirely differently from my ex-husband because lovely as he is and even tho he's terribly laidback and they love him, there's a sort of unspoken message that people get that lets them know he'd put them right if he saw a need. And they know I'm different and have said as much. It just takes a short while for people to accept you've changed and things have changed... but nothing is different until you choose to make it so. anjuli ps. Da nada, Wandernlilsoul, I can look after myself. ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ Edited 29 Jul 08, 5:31 PM by anjuli Next page