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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "Attention to Masters please....." 1 2 3 4 Attention to Masters please..... (33) 29 Jul 08, 7:47 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs anjuli wrote: My family know damn well that J is master in his own house Amen. If you can't assert yourself at Mommy, you're going to have trouble being in charge of anyone. Krista So we are not supposed to write about our own experiences on the basis that it might make someone else feel inadequate? Sorry, but bollocks! 29 Jul 08, 8:07 PM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths Thank you good point, I have started caloing him Amo all the time now. 29 Jul 08, 9:47 PM Mr_Fire_and_Ice US, 16 mths anjuli wrote: Mr_Fire_and_Ice wrote: anjuli wrote: Why would you have to change using Amo around anyone? It means love and is related to the word love and friend in many latin and romantic languages! je t'aime = I love you (french) ami(e) = friend (french) ti amo = I love you (italian) amor = to love (spanish) amare = to love (latin) I'd say make your life easy and allow no exceptions. I'd quite happily use Amo anywhere anytime - only you two need to know that it also means owner or boss in spanish! anjuli No, "amor"..... is the Spanish "noun" for "love", "amar" ....is the spanish "verb" for..... "to love". The conjugated form of Amar for "I love" ....is "Amo".....but there is a another totally different word for Amo, which is a Spanish noun.... It means "Master" in Spanish. It's a damn good job I'm not your slave cos both you and your mother-in-law would never survive the shock. <laughs> Right... so amar not amor is the spanish verb to love And amo is the conjugation of amar for I love. So let's be sure about this - all I got wrong was one letter... yes? <raises eyebrows> And I did use the verb even if I mistyped it in all the variations there and I have no need of grammar lessons from you, thank you. I know the difference and speak several languages. I'd still brazen it out and say that I thought it meant 'my' love and it sounded nice and to hell with what it really means, but that's obviously up to you. As to the fact that you let worry about your mother in law and her views drive you... perhaps I shouldn't comment further. I'd ask her very politely to mind her own business (and yes I've done similar, in as nice a way as was possible, and we all survived to tell the tale.) I used to worry about this sort of stuff but I am happier and we get on better since I gave it up! <grins> My family know damn well that J is master in his own house and they treat him entirely differently from my ex-husband because lovely as he is and even tho he's terribly laidback and they love him, there's a sort of unspoken message that people get that lets them know he'd put them right if he saw a need. And they know I'm different and have said as much. It just takes a short while for people to accept you've changed and things have changed... but nothing is different until you choose to make it so. anjuli ps. Da nada, Wandernlilsoul, I can look after myself. lol excuse me, have fun with it...don't take it so seriously........However the point is my mother-in-law knows the difference between a noun and a verb. lol and furthur more....you don't say those things to my mother-in-law. She not actually strong in taking that sort of talk. So we refrain from sharing things with her in attempt to prevent sleepless nights with her and my slave on the phone, possible heart attack with her, and endless debating over the topic. oh and uh....it's De nada. sorry....lol I'm just a firm believer that if you use a language, you use it correctly with correct spelling and all. Don't think for a second that I'm perfect. I screw up english as well. Although, I try hard not to. Edited 29 Jul 08, 9:57 PM by Mr_Fire_and_Ice 29 Jul 08, 9:59 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths I think most mothers or mothers-in-law would take that line given the option. The trick is not to give them the option. You'd be amazed at what you can achieve if you decide you're in charge of your own life and let her see that she has to make some concessions too. Of course you will meet with resistance, people don't like people they feel they own (pardon the pun) changing. I know, I've been there. But nothing's different til it's different. And J would not have allowed it for any amount of time anyhow. Oh and the idea of you hiding your tattoo from her strikes me as very very funny, I promise you! anjuli I shall ignore that last little edit ... but people in glass houses should pass on throwing stones. ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ Edited 29 Jul 08, 10:05 PM by anjuli 30 Jul 08, 12:50 AM Lord_Laraby US(NY), 3 yrs Y! Heh heh heh. This whole thread is really quite amusing. I mean simply that the OP is asking the question on how people live their lifestyle in everyday, and the OPs Master comes on telling how he doesn't really live it, can't live it, and is afraid to live it (at least near the in-laws.) I have to ask, why bother the boards if you already have it figured out to your satisfaction? We really have lives ourselves and could be answering serious posts with the time we have for such things. My answer, it's a "Life"style isn't it? If M/s is your lifestyle then one *IS* Master and one *IS* slave and they don't an occasional piddly-ass reminder or token that it exists, because it is *REAL*. You treat each other accordingly at all times. If you have no idea how a Master treats a slave then study many of the texts that demonstrate Masculine dominance and power and ownership of slaves. The corresponding position also goes for slaves. If these things are not readily apparent to you, maybe you "are not* what you are trying to pretend to be. It seems as though the OP's household is not working and they are trying to force it to appear to work. Bad business. Just my opinion, yours may differ. LL 30 Jul 08, 7:53 AM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths I know it is all strange and my mom is just the way she is and I cannot change that, she is very codependant on me and I know it is unhealthy and I am trying to do what I can to deal with it the right way. I have been calling Him Amo all the time now because the advice I believe was very true about that He is my Master. I am seeking counseling on how to be more assertive with mom. Please excuse the insanity of the thread. Edited 30 Jul 08, 7:55 AM by Amo_s_beauty 30 Jul 08, 3:23 PM Mr_Fire_and_Ice US, 16 mths anjuli wrote: I think most mothers or mothers-in-law would take that line given the option. The trick is not to give them the option. You'd be amazed at what you can achieve if you decide you're in charge of your own life and let her see that she has to make some concessions too. Of course you will meet with resistance, people don't like people they feel they own (pardon the pun) changing. I know, I've been there. But nothing's different til it's different. And J would not have allowed it for any amount of time anyhow. Oh and the idea of you hiding your tattoo from her strikes me as very very funny, I promise you! anjuli I shall ignore that last little edit ... but people in glass houses should pass on throwing stones. All joking aside, your words are spoken well. You make a very good point. 30 Jul 08, 4:11 PM wandernlilsoul US(CA), 5 mths Anjuli... no doubt luv...lol 31 Jul 08, 2:20 AM moncherie US(CA), 5 mths Amar - To Love Yo Amo I Love Tu Ama You Love (informal) or Usted Ama You Love (formal) El Ama He loves Ella Ama She Loves Ellos Ama They Love Nosotros Ama We Love Vosotros is dead Soy Americano pero hablo y escrito Espanol muy bien. Oh, this is Sirlawrence 31 Jul 08, 7:20 AM Amo_s_beauty US, 16 mths to SirLawrence. Next page