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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "How to find willing slaves?" 1 2 How to find willing slaves? (18) Wed 6 Aug 08, 9:57 AM Master0thedark US(CO), 6 mths Y! I am a Master in CO that has been seeking a second to join my slave wife and I. There are a few problems I have come up with. The first is that when I do send a message of interest in chatting either I get ignored completely or it is read with no response not even a polite no thanks. The second problem is that the local group that used to be here split into two (last I knew of) so it is difficult to know what is going on locally to even decide if I want to attend. The last issue is when I have found someone online to chat with it seems to be going good and than I am again ignored or not responded to. There have been times that the chats have been a month long. I even let my slave chat with them as I value her opinion when asked for. I also like the potential and her to get to know each other before any possible real meets, so its not uncomfortable face to face compared to out of blue. Not that as of late we have even gotten to that point. What can I do to fix this? Master0thedark Edited Sun 26 Oct 08, 9:40 AM by Master0thedark 6 Aug 08, 3:05 PM slave_emma US(OK), 2 yrs Patience, it takes time to find the right match. My Master and I have been searching for a second slave for over a year. We have come across some of the same problems. I feel that finding a match for a couple is more difficult than finding a match for one person, because we are asking someone to get along with two very different personality types. With that in mind, we choose not to look at a failure to respond or simply disappearing as an insult. It tells us that she wasn't interested, had a change of heart or etc. People choose to do things for a variety of reasons and I am sure that each person you contacted has a reason behind not responding to you or ending contact. Good luck in your search. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 6 Aug 08, 5:43 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Master0thedark wrote: How to find willing slaves? I am a Master in NY that has been seeking a second to join my slave wife and I. There are a few problems I have come up with. The first is that when I do send a message of interest in chatting either I get ignored completely or it is read with no response not even a polite no thanks. The second problem is that the local group that used to be here split into two (last I knew of) so it is difficult to know what is going on locally to even decide if I want to attend. The last issue is when I have found someone online to chat with it seems to be going good and than I am again ignored or not responded to. There have been times that the chats have been a month long. I even let my slave chat with them as I value her opinion when asked for. I also like the potential and her to get to know each other before any possible real meets, so its not uncomfortable face to face compared to out of blue. Not that as of late we have even gotten to that point. What can I do to fix this? It's always a hard one this and there are and could be so many areas that could be affecting the response you get, from how you're coming across when you make an approach to things that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Are you aproaching the right people for a start? Do you know they are interested in M/s and in being a second. The latter will rule lots who would answer yes to the first question out of course. So if you approach someone in chat, you're a stranger and they have to make a call - to encourage you by talking or to cut and run. Many will be scared to death and just run without thinking. You need to remember than many will be new and learning something about themelves that scares them and they have more questions than answers. So I would suggest a couple of things: Involve your slave in the search. She can approach people with less chance of seeming a threat. Search amongst more experienced subs. And rule out those looking to be a first or only straight away - it's a waste of your time and theirs. Get out there in r/l whatever the situation at the moment. You're more likely to be able to make progress as real people. Prepare tho and get some references and your network ready to support you for when you find the perfect girl. And finally, for online update and put more information on your profile. Use your slave's profile and networking too - she can help and is involved and important to the new one just as much as you are. And remember you need to sell to people. I don't mean that they get to drive the whole thing, clearly there's a point at which they choose to hand control to you, but until they do you need to put yourself in their shoes, think what's in it for them and respect that they must take care of themselves (whatever that takes, from telling you to go away to just running off if they feel unsafe) it's not personal in the normal way. And you and your first need to be brutally honest both with and between yourselves and with the prospective thirds... getting the wrong one will be much more of an issue than the problems of finding her that you currently face. Good luck. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 7 Aug 08, 5:44 AM Tragopan US(CA), 17 mths anjuli wrote: ... And you and your first need to be brutally honest both with and between yourselves and with the prospective thirds... getting the wrong one will be much more of an issue than the problems of finding her that you currently face. Good luck. anjuli I'll second this statement - you definitely don't want to take on someone unsuitable because you think that they are all that is available. Think of the problems had just making it work between two people! You _definitely_ want someone compatible. Be patient, and settle in for the long haul. I'm figuring my own search for a second slave will take some time - the available pool is much smaller as most subs will want to be the sole slave, so finding a second will be hard. Subtract from that pool all who are incompatible, and you see the problem. You are looking for a woman who wants to be a slave _and_ accepts or desires poly. I'm not planning on letting just any sub who comes along to walk into my household as second slave. I'll have to get to know her well and be sure she is fully compatible with both of us before I consider taking her in. Good luck, and be patient - a careful choice will reward you, a bad choice will vex you to no end... --Tragopan "From darkness, light." 5 Sep 08, 2:21 PM Sungmehetu US(OR), 2 yrs Y! I have had success, and this is how I did it Brother. (Prewarning I'm Bi, but boy slaves are harder to get then females) The First thing I did was have the long talk with My slavewife. That long talk was 4 months. However, when she might get oral regularly, help around the house, and added income. I turned her pretty quick. As those above have said, I gave her a bit of power. I told her no matter whom she got, she was to be Alpha slave. All slaves Wwe got after her would submit to her like a private to NCO, as I am the General. Next I let her search and talk to prospects. As said above, this will give some trust issues a rest to the prospect. You need to supervise a bit, but not too much. Let the slavewife talk freely about how good she takes care of You, and how You take fantastic care of her. I made the final determination based on willingness to reply, give up phone numbers, talk to Me when asked. Basically general commitment. Then I asked the "girl" for regular phone calls, a journal, and chat time online, until she moves in. The Biggest thing to happen was pokey fell for brie, so did I. I think three-way love, and 6 way trust, HAS to happen to make it work. This worked for Me. I hope it works for You. Be Well Michael pokey n brie Edited 5 Sep 08, 2:39 PM by Sungmehetu 6 Sep 08, 6:39 PM allalone47 US(OH), 3 yrs I to am looking with no luck yet. 6 Oct 08, 12:05 PM afulldeck UK, 3 mths Y! Hi to you all. This is my first post to the board and it did seem appropriate that this would be the first subject. I too have found that there are a lot of timewasters on other sites and I have no doubt that some of them will have found their way here too, but I have been impressed by the number of genuine people here. Finding a slave can be a hard thing to do and I've no doubt it will take me a long time to find the right one. 6 Oct 08, 1:17 PM Sungmehetu US(OR), 2 yrs Y! UPDATE "brie" bailed on Uus. As soon as I worked the numbers, set aside a place for her in the house, and explained what life would be like in Oour house...she flat bailed. So I nix the success story. But this is how it works. Trail, after trial...never a conviction. Being a couple in search of a third is very hard. That third...has to be a unique creature. Very hard to find. I guess "brie" doesn't like constant attention, and great food. Someone will. *the glass is half full, dammit! Blitz n pokey. 6 Oct 08, 7:03 PM JayDragon47 US(FL), 3 mths Thats a tough one.... Unfortunetly...online slaves...seem to fall into 2 catagories...those that are taken already and those who simply wish to fulfill a fantasy.Finding that small group of serious slaves is not an easy task.Hopefully I can give you a few ideas based on My experience. When I first meet someone...talking online ...I query them quite a bit on what they want...what they've done in the past..and get a complete listing of the limits they have(I do allow and honor some limits)..what they hope to accomplish in their slavery...and how they percieve it. Generaly...if the expectations are only sexual I move on...as we all know..or should know...that female slavery offers much more than just the sexual aspect. When discussing poly...wish I desire...I do insist on a slave also willing to be a member of a poly household.If she is not then there is no real sense discussing our involvment...though I'd gladly remain as a friend. On the local level is even more tricky...which group is real...which group promotes the things You enjoy and seek.No easy answer there either.Friends in the lifestyle can best guide you to the correct group. All I can offer is..be patient...dont stop seeking...but hold to your beliefs and needs...do not settle. Warm regards 5 Nov 08, 12:16 AM Master_Victor US, 16 mths I agree its not an easy task. I think we need to enjoy the search because that is potentially all there will ever be. 5 Nov 08, 2:46 AM Master_SL CA, 2 yrs Sungmehetu wrote: UPDATE "brie" bailed on Uus. As soon as I worked the numbers, set aside a place for her in the house, and explained what life would be like in Oour house...she flat bailed. So I nix the success story. But this is how it works. Trail, after trial...never a conviction. Being a couple in search of a third is very hard. That third...has to be a unique creature. Very hard to find. I guess "brie" doesn't like constant attention, and great food. Someone will. *the glass is half full, dammit! Blitz n pokey. 30 days 23hrs and 54 minutes...so close Next page