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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "How to find willing slaves?" 1 2 How to find willing slaves? (18) 7 Nov 08, 1:41 PM Sungmehetu US(OR), 2 yrs Y! We had been working with her for months before I posted that. Sungmehetu Ankiaypi 8 Nov 08, 12:43 AM Global_Domination UK, 4 yrs Master0thedark wrote: What can I do to fix this? Well whoever figures that out, will become in equal measure wealthy and popular. Unfortunately the internet has become an exercise in diminishing returns, for many people seeking this most elusive of things. We mainly focus our search in the real world these days, where we can meet and talk with real people. Even if they don't develop into what we ultimately seek, at least we are meeting some fun and interesting people along the way. ~ Service isn't dead, it's just on holiday... ~ Stillness is an illusion. Every single thing in the universe, is constantly in motion. 28 Nov 08, 12:44 PM jckhmmr_2000 US(CA), 10 mths I believe the answer is much like seeking a non-poly partner. That is, make sure that you have value (be attractive) as a potential partner/Master/Owner. If you are NOT attractve (NOT physically fit, attained sufficient personal wealth/success, possess an attractive appearance, etc.) to begin with, then you're lucky to have ONE person in your life. I recommend NOT looking on the internet. I recommend working on your ability to attract a new slave FIRST, and then going out to clubs, munches and other offline events and meeting people THAT way. Offline meetings allow all parties involved to get to know each other more accurately, and in my opinion, are more efficient in finding the right person(s) and weeding through the "chaff" (so to speak). I say the following with all respect due, and with no intent to offend on my part: there is no easy way to find a QUALITY slave. If you're willing to settle for "anything that bites" and only wish to find someone with as little effort and personal investment in yourself, then I can see why you might look online for your slave. I wish you well! 28 Nov 08, 3:13 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Seems to me that the net is a good place to make contact with people who are in your region or locality too. We always seem to see them as mutually exclusive somehow when actually the two can go hand in hand to help you find people you'd otherwise never meet in a month of sundays. Personally I met J online but the difference was that neither of us was seeking an online relationship and therefore were only talking to people with the same goals in mind which meant it rapidly moved to a realtime meeting and a real relationship. That's often the key - alignment of objectives and intent, first. Quality is another matter - r/l or online there is always and always will be more quantity than quality. But like attracts like, as ye sow so shall ye reap, and all that. Patience, integrity, honesty and self knowledge are the keys. Just a thought. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ Edited 28 Nov 08, 3:15 PM by anjuli 28 Nov 08, 11:30 PM ravenkaldera US(MA), 3 yrs jckhmmr_2000 wrote: I believe the answer is much like seeking a non-poly partner. That is, make sure that you have value (be attractive) as a potential partner/Master/Owner. If you are NOT attractve (NOT physically fit, attained sufficient personal wealth/success, possess an attractive appearance, etc.) to begin with, then you're lucky to have ONE person in your life. I dunno ... I suppose that when I think of the most important qualities that a slave should be looking for in an owner, or that a good owner would have to offer a slave, Looks and Wallet are not exactly at the top of the list. A fun fuck, maybe. But a lifetime commitment? And when I think about the sort of submissive that I'd be looking for if I were actively looking for a permanent, committed, serious slave, the sort of person whose top desired qualities would be Looks and Wallet would not be at the top of my list, either. Just sayin'. However, the poster is correct that in-person is better than the Internet. The best method, in my book, is to make a lot of connections in your local community, and build a reputation as a solid, serious, sane, and responsible couple. Then put it out that you're looking, and let your friends Yente for you. If they think you're good, they'll send people your way. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 28 Nov 08, 11:35 PM SixThreeFive SE, 21 mths I can't help but be thinking "What about us that don't have a local (or even national) bdsm or D/s-community?" What advice would you give us? *thinking* 29 Nov 08, 1:14 AM Master_Odin US(KS), 2 mths SixThreeFive wrote: I can't help but be thinking "What about us that don't have a local (or even national) bdsm or D/s-community?" What advice would you give us? *thinking* I am in the same boat as you are, but there is only one answer to questions like this, "start one" Selah There is no authority, only responsibility. 29 Nov 08, 11:41 AM SixThreeFive SE, 21 mths ... and that's exactly what we're doing.