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	SD! : Web boards : Website help : "Suggestions for board etiquette" 1 2 3 4 5 Suggestions for board etiquette (48) Tue 12 Aug 08, 6:34 PM tangie US(MI), 6 yrs Ok, Anjuli, I'm taking you up on your suggestion lol. http://www.seekdiscipline.com/boards/submission/... anjuli wrote: tangie wrote: When you've made a post that others have responded to in such detail and put so much thought into their answers, it's really bad form to then delete that post. Seconded! I am wondering about a thread just to draw people's attention to what is GOOD form and how to be a good member of this little community of ours. anjuli Board Etiquette 101 Ok, I guess it's a personal thing of mine but not because I've not erased posts of my own. I have, but mainly (hopefully) when they weren't responded to or were more like "me too" posts. Rightly or wrongly, I kind of thought so many posts kind of clutter up the server. But what happened in the above mentioned thread was different, and I do think that a lesson can be drawn from it. I've assumed that the people who responded to that particular thread took anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour of their time to respond to the original poster in thoughtful, insightful ways, and he deletes his post(s) leaving the future reader to wonder who the heck the responders are responding to. I can understand that the poster might have had second thoughts about it; again, I've done the same thing. Posted, then thought--omg, what did I just say? But by that time, people have responded and it's just not polite to disrespect their effort. Please folks, if you are posting about something that is on the emotional edge for you, or something that you later may have decided was too personal for the public, at least leave a post explaining this. If Wolf had said "I created a long post that, in retrospect, turned out to be sharing more information than I realized and have felt compelled to remove it" I think it would have at least left the future reader some understanding of what happened. I'm not the etiquette police or the board patrol, but what happened on that thread kind of irked me a bit. Barbara "Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted" Unknown. Edited Tue 12 Aug 08, 6:36 PM by tangie 12 Aug 08, 7:54 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Excellent! That was quick Barbara - you beat me to it! As I said, I felt the same when I saw the blank post. And again, I'm not at all unsympathetic to why he deleted it... I've felt worried after posting sometimes, that I let something out I felt exposed by afterwards, but I have to say I think I've let most of mine stand. And again if you make a fool of yourself, an explanation is in order when you remove the offending post, surely? My other issue right now is the wholesale 'post it anywhere' thing that is going on. Tanos has hours of work reading and moving stuff when he returns to it and it makes me feel a pain but I think we have to hit report and help him find them or it's just going to be too big a job. Please, please, read the guidelines for each board in the forum and familiarise yourself so that you have some idea of where to post threads. As a general guide the main submission, domination, poly boards, the IE theory and practice boards, along with the household boards, are for real time 24/7 D/s and M/s subjects. They are what was originally TSR basically. The new places for bdsm, sex and fetish discussions are there now, and importantly the online and LRD board as a place for those discussions, and I think the former are working but the latter still being overlooked in favour of placing threads about LDR relationships on submission and even IE theory. So a plea for a little more thought to help admin out and keep the discussions on M/s accessible for the M/s mainstream here, from me. thanks anjuli Edited cos I didn't plan my post well. <laughs> ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ Edited 12 Aug 08, 7:57 PM by anjuli 12 Aug 08, 9:06 PM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs anjuli wrote: Excellent! That was quick Barbara - you beat me to it! As I said, I felt the same when I saw the blank post. And again, I'm not at all unsympathetic to why he deleted it... I've felt worried after posting sometimes, that I let something out I felt exposed by afterwards, but I have to say I think I've let most of mine stand. And again if you make a fool of yourself, an explanation is in order when you remove the offending post, surely? My other issue right now is the wholesale 'post it anywhere' thing that is going on. Tanos has hours of work reading and moving stuff when he returns to it and it makes me feel a pain but I think we have to hit report and help him find them or it's just going to be too big a job. Please, please, read the guidelines for each board in the forum and familiarise yourself so that you have some idea of where to post threads. As a general guide the main submission, domination, poly boards, the IE theory and practice boards, along with the household boards, are for real time 24/7 D/s and M/s subjects. They are what was originally TSR basically. The new places for bdsm, sex and fetish discussions are there now, and importantly the online and LRD board as a place for those discussions, and I think the former are working but the latter still being overlooked in favour of placing threads about LDR relationships on submission and even IE theory. So a plea for a little more thought to help admin out and keep the discussions on M/s accessible for the M/s mainstream here, from me. thanks anjuli Edited cos I didn't plan my post well. <laughs> What is LRD? Please? j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin 12 Aug 08, 9:49 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths 662-935-655 wrote: What is LRD? Please? Oh crap! L.D.R. is long distance relationship... LRD... who knows? <grins and shrugs> Sorry. ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 13 Aug 08, 12:35 AM 688-764-833 US, 2 yrs Loud Raucous Disco? Living Really Dangerously? Learning Raunchy Ditties? Lascivious Randy Dominants? Loathing Right-wing Dimwits? (couldn't resist, bad girl, I know) Lacking Rational Discourse? (one led to the other- still being bad) Launching Random Diatribes? (err, ditto, better stop) Well, there was five minutes of thoroughly amusing myself; thank you, anjuli And now, an actual reply to the topic. Well, first, welcome back, Barbara! And I completely agree. One thing to remember is that you (a general “you” not a specific-towards-someone “you”) are reading about other people's problems, triumphs, goals, confusion, etcetera, and learning from what they wrote and what is posted in reply. If everyone took what they needed and then erased their posts what would be left to read? RE: topic placement: I agree here, too. For example, what does being naked have to do with poly (specifically); interesting thread, odd choice of a place for it? I do think there may still be a stigma attached to the LDR/Online boards which is a shame because people who don't get to have the consistent *literal* hand of their D/O/M on them on a daily basis have an overlapping but different set of worries/problems: it would be pointless to tell someone in an online relationship to ask their master if they can curl up at their feet when they feel stressed: that option is not available and that advice, no matter how well meant, will probably cause some anguish. Flip side: it is pointless to talk to someone in a 24/7 live-in M/s relationship about “freedom to leave” and base advice on that perspective. Cheers, Leesie 13 Aug 08, 1:03 AM obielax US(OH), 9 mths Y! I would like to throw my thoughts in to the mix if I could. Please people, use paragraphs. A large block of text is hard to read. I have skiped over posts that are a big block and only later when I've had more time to read found that it was a wonderful post.(after I wind up reading the same sentince, I get fustrated and move on) I understand that sometimes when the words come, it's a flood. When there from the heart, they come even faster. Please just break it up a little when you post it. Thank you A/all, Obie Say what you mean, mean what you say. 13 Aug 08, 1:09 AM MasterJC 5 mths tangie wrote: Suggestions for board etiquette Ok, Anjuli, I'm taking you up on your suggestion lol. http://www.seekdiscipline.com/boards/submission/... anjuli wrote: tangie wrote: When you've made a post that others have responded to in such detail and put so much thought into their answers, it's really bad form to then delete that post. Seconded! I am wondering about a thread just to draw people's attention to what is GOOD form and how to be a good member of this little community of ours. anjuli Board Etiquette 101 Ok, I guess it's a personal thing of mine but not because I've not erased posts of my own. I have, but mainly (hopefully) when they weren't responded to or were more like "me too" posts. Rightly or wrongly, I kind of thought so many posts kind of clutter up the server. But what happened in the above mentioned thread was different, and I do think that a lesson can be drawn from it. I've assumed that the people who responded to that particular thread took anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour of their time to respond to the original poster in thoughtful, insightful ways, and he deletes his post(s) leaving the future reader to wonder who the heck the responders are responding to. I can understand that the poster might have had second thoughts about it; again, I've done the same thing. Posted, then thought--omg, what did I just say? But by that time, people have responded and it's just not polite to disrespect their effort. Please folks, if you are posting about something that is on the emotional edge for you, or something that you later may have decided was too personal for the public, at least leave a post explaining this. If Wolf had said "I created a long post that, in retrospect, turned out to be sharing more information than I realized and have felt compelled to remove it" I think it would have at least left the future reader some understanding of what happened. I'm not the etiquette police or the board patrol, but what happened on that thread kind of irked me a bit. Barbara Has anyone noticed that sometimes here for whatever reason a post is posted not once or twice but three times???? Don't know what the problem is but it is annoying to say the least... Every post is important, at least to this Master Has anyone else experienced this???? cheers MasterJC... 13 Aug 08, 1:11 AM MasterJC 5 mths anjuli wrote: Excellent! That was quick Barbara - you beat me to it! As I said, I felt the same when I saw the blank post. And again, I'm not at all unsympathetic to why he deleted it... I've felt worried after posting sometimes, that I let something out I felt exposed by afterwards, but I have to say I think I've let most of mine stand. And again if you make a fool of yourself, an explanation is in order when you remove the offending post, surely? My other issue right now is the wholesale 'post it anywhere' thing that is going on. Tanos has hours of work reading and moving stuff when he returns to it and it makes me feel a pain but I think we have to hit report and help him find them or it's just going to be too big a job. Please, please, read the guidelines for each board in the forum and familiarise yourself so that you have some idea of where to post threads. As a general guide the main submission, domination, poly boards, the IE theory and practice boards, along with the household boards, are for real time 24/7 D/s and M/s subjects. They are what was originally TSR basically. The new places for bdsm, sex and fetish discussions are there now, and importantly the online and LRD board as a place for those discussions, and I think the former are working but the latter still being overlooked in favour of placing threads about LDR relationships on submission and even IE theory. So a plea for a little more thought to help admin out and keep the discussions on M/s accessible for the M/s mainstream here, from me. thanks anjuli Edited cos I didn't plan my post well. <laughs> 13 Aug 08, 1:12 AM MasterJC 5 mths anjuli wrote: Excellent! That was quick Barbara - you beat me to it! As I said, I felt the same when I saw the blank post. And again, I'm not at all unsympathetic to why he deleted it... I've felt worried after posting sometimes, that I let something out I felt exposed by afterwards, but I have to say I think I've let most of mine stand. And again if you make a fool of yourself, an explanation is in order when you remove the offending post, surely? My other issue right now is the wholesale 'post it anywhere' thing that is going on. Tanos has hours of work reading and moving stuff when he returns to it and it makes me feel a pain but I think we have to hit report and help him find them or it's just going to be too big a job. Please, please, read the guidelines for each board in the forum and familiarise yourself so that you have some idea of where to post threads. As a general guide the main submission, domination, poly boards, the IE theory and practice boards, along with the household boards, are for real time 24/7 D/s and M/s subjects. They are what was originally TSR basically. The new places for bdsm, sex and fetish discussions are there now, and importantly the online and LRD board as a place for those discussions, and I think the former are working but the latter still being overlooked in favour of placing threads about LDR relationships on submission and even IE theory. So a plea for a little more thought to help admin out and keep the discussions on M/s accessible for the M/s mainstream here, from me. thanks anjuli Edited cos I didn't plan my post well. <laughs> Heh --- liked the laugh cheers MasterJC... 13 Aug 08, 1:15 AM MasterJC 5 mths 688-764-833 wrote: Loud Raucous Disco? Living Really Dangerously? Learning Raunchy Ditties? Lascivious Randy Dominants? Loathing Right-wing Dimwits? (couldn't resist, bad girl, I know) Lacking Rational Discourse? (one led to the other- still being bad) Launching Random Diatribes? (err, ditto, better stop) Well, there was five minutes of thoroughly amusing myself; thank you, anjuli And now, an actual reply to the topic. Well, first, welcome back, Barbara! And I completely agree. One thing to remember is that you (a general “you” not a specific-towards-someone “you”) are reading about other people's problems, triumphs, goals, confusion, etcetera, and learning from what they wrote and what is posted in reply. If everyone took what they needed and then erased their posts what would be left to read? RE: topic placement: I agree here, too. For example, what does being naked have to do with poly (specifically); interesting thread, odd choice of a place for it? I do think there may still be a stigma attached to the LDR/Online boards which is a shame because people who don't get to have the consistent *literal* hand of their D/O/M on them on a daily basis have an overlapping but different set of worries/problems: it would be pointless to tell someone in an online relationship to ask their master if they can curl up at their feet when they feel stressed: that option is not available and that advice, no matter how well meant, will probably cause some anguish. Flip side: it is pointless to talk to someone in a 24/7 live-in M/s relationship about “freedom to leave” and base advice on that perspective. Cheers, Leesie lolololololol Thanks for the laughter its great to have that sense of humour cheers MasterJc 13 Aug 08, 1:19 AM MasterJC 5 mths obielax wrote: I would like to throw my thoughts in to the mix if I could. Please people, use paragraphs. A large block of text is hard to read. I have skiped over posts that are a big block and only later when I've had more time to read found that it was a wonderful post.(after I wind up reading the same sentince, I get fustrated and move on) I understand that sometimes when the words come, it's a flood. When there from the heart, they come even faster. Please just break it up a little when you post it. Thank you A/all, Obie Amen!!!! mmmmm...though MasterJC does understand the thought freedom package Sometimes its hard to do anything but write the feelings ok so this Master is on the post with this one cheers MasterJC Next page