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	SD! : Web boards : SM & Bondage : "Face Slapping" 1 2 3 4 5 Face Slapping (50) Moved from Discipline Tue 12 Aug 08, 10:27 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs I have question about face slapping. Its one asked purely out of interest. I slap My boys face sometimes for both discipline & kink. I wonder though how many male Owners slap their female slaves face - does this feel inapproriate or cross a boundary for you? Do you do it as a purely erotic act or use face slapping as discipline? How do female slaves who do have their faces slapped by male Owners feel about it? I ask because it occured to Me this is an area that could be a blurred one for some people & I am ever inquisitive. I look forward to peoples responses. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 12 Aug 08, 10:53 PM 173-682-895 US(NY), 21 mths i would love it if Master slapped my face, especially if i were servicing Him at the time. i feel it would be very degrading, which is exactly what i need at times, mostly when i haven't been feeling very "slavey" that day. He has never done it, i think because it crosses a line for Him, like it would seem abusive, even though i want it. Y/you are never more alive as when Y/you are at risk. Master's ~one~ 12 Aug 08, 10:55 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs 173-682-895 wrote: He has never done it, i think because it crosses a line for Him, like it would seem abusive, even though i want it. I thought some people may see it that way. Interesting. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 12 Aug 08, 11:08 PM subsfaith UK, 3 yrs I vividly remember the first time he slapped my face. We had been dating only a few weeks. He says that I looked at him with eyes that said, 'as much as you are sadist, I am masochist' and I got slapped for it. It socked the hell out of me and hurt like hell, for it was no playing around slap. But I stood there. I got many things out of it, more determination, pride, strength, happiness, even shame, and a whole lot more. Bring on the face slapping! 13 Aug 08, 12:17 AM 679-891-210 US(OH), 10 mths My Owner just directed my attention to this post...seems He thought I might have something to say on the subject. *grin* Face Slapping is something He Loves! So I guess it figures that I Hate it! I came to this life as a Dominant Woman, and am still a very assertive, aggressive and dominant woman...when He lets me be... lol Taking that slap...without taking Him down (or at least giving it a good try....love you Sir), is one of the hardest things I have had to do. The only thing that holds me in place...knowing that it is likely to be followed with more...and not always when I expect it....is my total Love and Trust for this Man. I love the light in His eyes when He watches me struggle with my urges. I love this so much I have even asked for more(ok, only once so far. but hey it was a break-thru! ). For me it reinforces that I have freely given myself over to Him...to use in all the ways He desires. And sometimes what He desires is to see me struggle with myself...for Him. Obies pet blossom " Hey, Pop, how do I spell this?" "Look it up in the Dictionary" "Ummm, don't I have to KNOW how to spell it already to look it up in the dictionary???" 13 Aug 08, 12:45 AM 688-764-833 US, 2 yrs This is something we're working towards, I think. The one time my master slapped my face (and it was lightly) I completely shut down: I have a “thing” about face slapping- he didn't know, it was early on and I didn't think to tell him (nor was I aware of how much of a thing it was until he did it). However, he has been slowly desensitizing me; I used to flinch when things came sort-of-kind-of near my face but I'm improving. I don't think it is something he will engage in often but I think his goal is to get me to the point where if he slaps me, I react to what *he's* doing, not clicking into a past trauma and shutting myself off from him. Cheers, Leesie 13 Aug 08, 1:55 AM SirLawrence US(ME), 2 yrs I use face-slapping to reinforce protocol with my sub. When I use her mouth, for example, she is required to deep throat me within the first minute. I love requiring her to do the same thing the same way each time so that she knows instinctively what to do and when. I don't think she likes the face slapping particularly, but she likes the ritual, likes knowing what she is supposed to do at all times. Sir Lawrence Edited 13 Aug 08, 1:56 AM by SirLawrence 13 Aug 08, 3:53 AM 826-659-267 US, 14 mths i as a slave hate face slapping. Not so much because of what society says, but because it hurts like hell. (giggles) I feel as though being face slapped does reinforce what i am, a slave. Do i need this reinforncement, probally, do i want it, a little, will i like it....no. ~~There are subs and than there are slaves and from slaves come natural-borns, which are you? 13 Aug 08, 4:24 AM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs Problem with face slapping - in adults as well as children, it can cause Brain Damage, including permanent, and even death, without a lot of force. i hate to rain on A/anyone's parade, Apparently it doesn't take alot of force to do real, severe, permanent damage from what i've read, seen and experienced myself. i'm not saying not to do it, just to know when to pull your punches. i became blind when my abusive, yet vanilla, 1st ex who was also psycho - diagnosed - hit me in the face. It caused my retinas to detach and because i didn't know that could happen, i didn't realize any damage had been done. After 6 weeks i had permanent vision loss, resulting in my becoming legally but not totally "blind" as i so often put it - although i'd been "low vision" all my life. The tendency to retinal detachment in facial trauma is quite common - and alot of boxers end up with it. But they are checked regularly, so it's usually caught in time. For some reason i've been told people who are very near-sighted are more likely to have detachments - somethig about the retina being stretched due to some difference in the eye's actual size in the near-sighted, if i remember right And i reserve the right to be wrong, as i discussed this with my eye surgeon some 28 years ago, at the time it occured. There were follow up surgeries and complications through no apparent reason when Master and i were first married, pre-collaring, early on. And it was very agonizingly painful - not the kind that i think anyone would find fun. Now S O M E can be repaired by laser, i believe - but not all. Halo of lights, a blue tone to lights, spots floating in the eyes for more than a short time and a blank spot in one's visual field are some of the symptoms of retinal detachment that i experienced, there may be others.. Brain damage due to bleeding in the brain i don't know so much about but it may be like stroke i don't know. And i believe early on it could mask for a low grade concussion then suddenly escalate That i only know about through counseling training for dealing with domestic violence cases - common in substance abuse, for which i was a one-time counselor as most of Y/you know already. i'm not saying not to do it - that's between consenting A/adults-and those who have given up the right to consent as well. My late Master never did it during the time i was collared to Him because He knew i remain at risk for retinal detachment and further vision loss. i hate to rain on A/anyone's parade, as i said, but it might be good to pull Your punches and slaps a little, maybe add to the number instead, and be really careful in this form of play. Esp. since there have been some domestic violence cases where the victim died and the attacker was successfully put in jail for murder 2 or manslaughter 1 here in these United States - don't know for elsewhere. Sometimes if i thought Master was disappointed in me i'd beg Him to just slap my face or another set of cheeks - but He always said it was more punishment to me for Him not to punish me. It took me a while to figure that one out - a few mos. And then i knew He was right. Like i said, this is absolutely, positively, N O T to tell A/anyone what they can and can't do, just an F.Y.I. thing - as in For Y/your Information only. Do with it as You will, my F/friends. j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin Edited 13 Aug 08, 4:35 AM by 662-935-655 13 Aug 08, 4:33 AM MasterJRC HK, 11 mths Y! Mistress_Tiara wrote: Face Slapping I have question about face slapping. Its one asked purely out of interest. I slap My boys face sometimes for both discipline & kink. I wonder though how many male Owners slap their female slaves face - does this feel inappropriate or cross a boundary for you? Do you do it as a purely erotic act or use face slapping as discipline? I ask because it occurred to Me this is an area that could be a blurred one for some people & I am ever inquisitive. I look forward to peoples responses. MT Whilst some might use it as a form of discipline, there is a far more powerful and erotic aspect that I personally find far more delightful. That being the reaction. The beauty that is reflected in my pets face as her cheek reddens, the pushing her further and deeper into her submission. To use it for both, confuses the signals being sent, to punish with an item of pleasure would confuse the *&% out of me. I love being the issuer, my pet love to be my canvas. 13 Aug 08, 10:32 AM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs Very interesting answers so far. I know there are lots of females who enjoy face slapping - girls often want Me to slap their faces (usually in conjunction with hair pulling actually), but I was intrigued about how the dynamic changed with a male Dominant and a female submissive. I suppose the different reactions - 173-682-895's Owner who would see it as abusive while she would like it, the male Owners who enjoy it, subsfaith who loves it, the 3 submissives who dislike it, & 688-764-833 who is currently traumatised by it - are simply the result of difering make ups & experiences. So far there is a tilt for the females to not enjoy it though. Any other thoughts? MasterJRC wrote: To use it for both, confuses the signals being sent, to punish with an item of pleasure would confuse the *&% out of me. It works for us & there has been no confusion so far - I use it as discipline rather than punishment per se, ie, a reminder to focus & 'gentle' (?) encouragement. Also the 'kink' referred to is solely Mine. My boy does not enjoy having his face slapped whatever the reason for delivery, but it does make him drop into an even more submissive state. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* Edited 13 Aug 08, 10:50 AM by Mistress_Tiara Next page