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	SD! : Web boards : SM & Bondage : "Face Slapping" 1 2 3 4 5 Face Slapping (50) 13 Aug 08, 10:34 AM anjuli UK, 18 mths MasterJRC wrote: Mistress_Tiara wrote: Face Slapping <snip> I wonder though how many male Owners slap their female slaves face - does this feel inappropriate or cross a boundary for you? Do you do it as a purely erotic act or use face slapping as discipline? I ask because it occurred to Me this is an area that could be a blurred one for some people & I am ever inquisitive. Whilst some might use it as a form of discipline, there is a far more powerful and erotic aspect that I personally find far more delightful. That being the reaction. The beauty that is reflected in my pets face as her cheek reddens, the pushing her further and deeper into her submission. To use it for both, confuses the signals being sent, to punish with an item of pleasure would confuse the *&% out of me. I love being the issuer, my pet love to be my canvas. Oh now look what you've done! <cough> We've talked about this and I guess now it'll get back on to the agenda. It is interesting tho for sure. Master hasn't tried it but we did discuss the odd mix that you highlight MT. I am totally unsure what my reaction would be and have not the faintest idea what it would mean to me, what effect it would have. I don't see it as humiliating I don't think but I do think there's a barrier (as with a lot of men there is to spanking for instance) to 'hitting' a female. I think we can work on the grounds that our Masters have this one sorted out in their heads at least as far as our asses are concerned... but the face still seems a boundary area, a taboo. For that very reason I'd actually quite like him to be able to do it. (I have this thing about J having limits with regard to me! <grins>) That said, if it hurts that much, and bearing in mind the damage that you can do compared with less delicate parts, I think it would stay a sometime thing even if he liked it. Totally with you JRC on the confusion of using it for punishment and erotic effect. I know that J will decide which it is and use it only in that context. I for one, do not get spanked for punishment! Or anything else which might set up that kind of blurred boundary in my mind. I have a feeling that we're actually quite similar to you two as a couple, so I'd love to hear more and what petk thinks and feels. What effect does it have? And how hard do you slap? anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 13 Aug 08, 3:29 PM tangie US(MI), 6 yrs About 2 years ago or so, Wm and I were in the car on the way into a mall when we were talking about face slapping. I had just got done making the comment that I was glad he wasn't "into" face slapping, when he quickly reached over and smacked my face. I was stunned at first, and the immediate reaction was to cry. It hadn't hurt as much as humiliated me. It took me a while to compost myself, but Wm wasn't going to let me take that long, and he marched me out of the car and into the mall. The thing was, two women were sitting in an SUV facing us in the lot and saw the whole thing. They looked horrified. I felt bad for them, but should say that Wm hadn't seen them (it was at night). I still don't know what to make of it all; he hasn't done it since and I've not challenged him on anything else like that since either lol. Barbara "Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted" Unknown. 13 Aug 08, 4:22 PM 679-891-210 US(OH), 10 mths tangie, W/we had an experience much like this not too long ago. As W/we were walking into a local waffle house at an hour without many partrons, Sir pulled me towards Him and slapped my face. I honestly cannot remember if anything was said to lead up to this or it was just His whim. What I do recall is the shocked speachless look on the teenage boy working the cash register....right in front of the window! *giggle* The poor lad was doubly confused when I walked in with a big smile and winked at him! lol Obie's pet blossom " Hey, Pop, how do I spell this?" "Look it up in the Dictionary" "Ummm, don't I have to KNOW how to spell it already to look it up in the dictionary???" 13 Aug 08, 4:23 PM Kit_10 US, 20 mths Face slapping is something that has been in O/our relationship from the time of BDSM exploration. While i have spoken with many subs that don't care for it at all, i love it. When i'm not paying attention to something important or i'm doing something that doesn't warrent a spanking but needs correction i think it fits in just nicely. There have been times when i've seen stars from a solid smack and i've let Master know it was a bit too much. W/we have found a happy medium. i would say if Your sub likes it, i feel you're good to go. {In light of injury to the cerebral tissue, (in my personal opinion as a medical professional) it can happen, but, for someone in tune with there Dom/sub, boyfriend/girlfriend, other half it can be done safely. If one isn't comfortable then that should be enough of a red flag.} 13 Aug 08, 9:17 PM MalyKot US, 6 mths 662-935-655 wrote: Problem with face slapping - in adults as well as children, it can cause Brain Damage, including permanent, and even death, without a lot of force. i hate to rain on A/anyone's parade, Apparently it doesn't take alot of force to do real, severe, permanent damage from what i've read, seen and experienced myself. I'm afraid I have to echo 662-935-655, I lost a good bit of hearing in one ear for over a year because of a vanilla ex's tendency to slap me when angry. I never told my ex not to slap me though, because aside from thinking I deserved it, some part of me was turned on. Now, slapping, however arousing, is still linked in my mind to anger and self-hate...and while Master and I could work to break that link if he wanted, he has no desire to take up that extra work for something that doesn't appeal to him. I'm still learning to distinguish what's abuse and what's a healthy BDSM relationship, so as much as slapping turns me on, because of the confused feelings it brings me, I'm more comfortable avoiding it as well. I think the biggest thing though may just be it isn't Master's style. He wouldn't slap me as punishment because I'd be turned on, and he isn't turned on by the thought of slapping for fun...so eh, no place for it in our relationship. 13 Aug 08, 11:37 PM redneck UK, 21 mths I find this practice a very simple one. To slap my girl as a part of pain-play activities is a highly erotic act. It is the connection with abuse that makes it such a turn on, however the difference is that both Me and My girl enjoy it very much and that it is never an act of anger or frustration. Simply - it is just another sadomasochistic act. I would not like to take it out of this context myself although i realize that others may see differently. btw. a line can only be crossed if someone has drawn a line Josh 14 Aug 08, 5:29 AM dVader US(WA), 5 mths I'm my Master's boy, which might not give you the information you're interested in; but I saw this post on the front page and had to come and offer my opinion, if only because that subject is so much a part of my life. He uses that particular technique a great deal... but only when I have crossed a serious line. The *degrees* of the slapping vary - since, with us, it is mostly a discipline function - of course, but as a general rule, I have a LOT of pride which he has been working... very hard to break down, in situations where I am required to submit to him. (For example, I used to literally, physically be unable to say or repeat certain things; my throat would just lock up and no matter how hard I got punished, I just couldn't do it. He used to think I was being deliberately defiant, until he got inside my head... anyway, things like "Yes, I've disobeyed you, please punish me", etc.) But as far as the slapping goes... that's an instant reminder of who he is and who I am in *relation* to him; it always shames me to an extent no matter if it's just a "Watch your mouth" slap or a series of harder ones for greater... offenses. And yes, often it *does* arouse me, and he *knows* this... but the aspect of it that mostly does so is his power, which he *also* knows. That being said, it'd be easy for me to get hurt if he used it gratuitously.... you know? Emotionally, I mean. Because even though he has ultimate power *to* do it, if he deems it necessary, he places great value on retention of lessons. And to do something that degrading for a nonexistent reason would sort of undermine his authority, rather than the other way around. At least, that is how he sees it. *shrugs a little.* Incidentally, hello! I've been *around* for years... but this is actually - now that I realize it - my first post on the board. 14 Aug 08, 4:45 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs anjuli wrote: how hard do you slap? A simple question but one that is very relevant I think. Is it a case of 'harder = abusive' in anyones mind, whilst a gentler tap is ok? Im going to assume everyone here would be paying due care & attention to safety & not hitting excessively hard, or on any especially vulnerable areas, so assuming this physical limit is in place, is there also psychological limit with regard to force? And if so how do you decide on it? *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 14 Aug 08, 5:47 PM 002-969-319 US, 2 yrs Mistress_Tiara wrote: Face Slapping I have question about face slapping. Its one asked purely out of interest. I slap My boys face sometimes for both discipline & kink. I wonder though how many male Owners slap their female slaves face - does this feel inapproriate or cross a boundary for you? Do you do it as a purely erotic act or use face slapping as discipline? How do female slaves who do have their faces slapped by male Owners feel about it? I ask because it occured to Me this is an area that could be a blurred one for some people & I am ever inquisitive. I look forward to peoples responses. Master White Knight does slap my face, but only rarely. Master knows that i have many problems with my month (Master and i are currently planning to remove all my teeth in the next two years, and have my tongue pierced for a leash tether) and Master would never wish to cause harm to Master's property. Master will use face slapping in play if in semi public play with viewers, and i love it. Master has used it in punishment of me and it did not bother me as much as losing Master's trust in my ability to follow Master's training or rules. i for one would take several face slaps, over dropping in Master's respect of me. respectfully yours, slave silky whispers, collared and owned property of Master White Knight 14 Aug 08, 6:11 PM sclavus_princess US, 7 mths i have to echoe some of the same feelings others have mentioned. The first time He slapped me in the face while still completely bound was absolutely shocking and made me completely freeze in my tracks, not because it hurt but just wasn't expected. After examining how it made me feel i decided it definately re-inforced His position and made me feel submissive and therefor a very very delightful feeling... He hasn't slapped me in the face but a couple of times since, but i think i will mention this thread to him for now i am curious on how He sees it, did it turn him on ect. much respect, sclavus princess Next page