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	SD! : Web boards : SM & Bondage : "Face Slapping" 1 2 3 4 5 Face Slapping (50) 14 Aug 08, 6:14 PM 000-810-743 US, 4 yrs Seeings how i just dealt with this last night, i thought i'd chime in and most likely kill the thread! Sir does slap my face - it is only used as punishment/redirecting. It's only happened at night when i have messed up while reciting my pledge before bed. If i screw up, i get a slap to the jaw, which has the desired effect of refocusing me, making me mildly ashamed and more subservient. This is only a recent development in the dynamic. When i first came into the relationship (while it was still vanilla) i flinched every time He raised His hand near my face. It pained Him to see me anticipate a beating from Him, and He first worked on breaking my previous conditioning to face advances before slowly introducing punishment like grabbing my jaw or slapping me lightly. He never slaps hard enough to leave a mark longer than a few minutes, and never slaps near my eyes or nose. He does NOT like blood! Yes, He had some internal dialogue to deal with concerning social condition of Himself, but since it doesn't seem to stick to Him real well to begin with, the greater challenge was me. i am not turned on by it, nor turned off - seems to be about par with having my arm grabbed or shoulder pinched. Kind regards, slave tora, devoted to Sir N 15 Aug 08, 4:45 AM shysweetie CA, 22 mths For me, when my face has been slapped, it has always been the intent behind it that was most important. I was in a vanilla relationship where this had been done from anger and it felt abusive to me. In a bdsm relationship that I was in, I was slapped across the face for being mouthy or back talking. It was never done in anger and I felt humiliated , and sort of put in my place. I do like it as a form of discipline as it is quick and an immediate reminder of my place. Peace, Love and Honesty to You Now and Forevermore shysweetie 15 Aug 08, 5:30 AM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs MalyKot wrote: 662-935-655 wrote: Problem with face slapping - in adults as well as children, it can cause Brain Damage, including permanent, and even death, without a lot of force. i hate to rain on A/anyone's parade, Apparently it doesn't take alot of force to do real, severe, permanent damage from what i've read, seen and experienced myself. I'm afraid I have to echo 662-935-655, I lost a good bit of hearing in one ear for over a year because of a vanilla ex's tendency to slap me when angry. I never told my ex not to slap me though, because aside from thinking I deserved it, some part of me was turned on. Now, slapping, however arousing, is still linked in my mind to anger and self-hate...and while Master and I could work to break that link if he wanted, he has no desire to take up that extra work for something that doesn't appeal to him. I'm still learning to distinguish what's abuse and what's a healthy BDSM relationship, so as much as slapping turns me on, because of the confused feelings it brings me, I'm more comfortable avoiding it as well. I think the biggest thing though may just be it isn't Master's style. He wouldn't slap me as punishment because I'd be turned on, and he isn't turned on by the thought of slapping for fun...so eh, no place for it in our relationship. i'm sorry to hear someone else going through this same kind of thing. Sorting out abuse from lifestyle took me, oh, about the 10 years before i was Collared and a lot of therapy. It probably would have been less if i'd had a good therapist right off, but if wishes were horses beggars would ride. i wish i could trade you one of my good ears for a good eye! (sigh) j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin 15 Aug 08, 7:03 PM Matthews_Bitch US(GA), 5 mths Y! Daddy slaps my face whenever he feels like it. For example; today he gave me a list of things that were to get done today and if I don't get every single item on the list completed I will be put on my knees and slapped. He has also had me beg him to slap me during sex, and also has had me ask him to slap me before I was allowed to cum. It is an amazing feeling to get slapped and have your face burning and your lip(s) bleeding and to cum at the same time. He has asked me if the pain is worth the pleasure and I told him that it sure is! Proud to be married to and owned by Matthew! 16 Aug 08, 5:51 AM Tragopan US(CA), 17 mths I slap my Atropa occasionally, but this is only when I am very angry with her - in our case it is not erotic. It tells her very clearly that I am very angry and mean business. A sobering effect. It is a rare occurrence. I _always_ "pull my punch" when slapping her because causing pain is very different from physically harming someone. That would be abuse in my opinion (YMMV) because discipline can be maintained without harming someone. I have never hit her with my fist or even using a majority of my strength because of this. I don't want to hurt her, just punish her. Because of our larger size and greater upper-body strength, we men need to be careful of this sort of thing, although Atropa tells me that women are surprisingly tough (and she has certainly shown this over the years). It causes much less pain than a whipping or switching, but for some reason gets a serious message across in a way that the whip doesn't. Perhaps because these two are also erotic for us, and the slapping is _only_ used in serious cases. I expect it is quite different to those of you for whom slapping is erotic. I see one strong advantage of the whip and switch is that they can be laid on using much more of my strength without chance of causing serious harm (no broken bones, etc.), and they actually cause much more pain. I don't have to consciously hold back my arm. Definitely avoid the face with these - lots of delicate, important stuff in the face and head, as has been described in several posts. I do encourage those who find slapping erotic to be careful, and practice for maximum effect and minimum chance of damage. As with so much of what we do, practice makes perfect! And I would be _very_ cautious about slapping a female in public - here in California there are serious spousal-abuse laws, and you don't want your Master to go to jail over something like this! I have known men who were jailed solely on the say of a woman who _claimed_ they had been hit, even with no witnesses, no bruises, and no evidence of any kind. Check your local laws on this. That said, slap each other silly and have a great time doing it! --Tragopan "From darkness, light." Edited 16 Aug 08, 6:12 AM by Tragopan 16 Aug 08, 12:23 PM 879-717-990 UK, 2 yrs my Owner would never intentionally strike me in anger during service as it is not appropriate for us. i have been slapped to refocus me, but this happens rarely. The best face slapping for me is when being used. my Owner is very careful to cup the opposite side of my face from the direction of the slap and to avoid my ears and eyes. The blow lands exactly where it is meant to and i have to say, regardless of the intent (erotic or discipline), the feeling is fantastic to me. But then again, i like thuddy correction (not stingy strike with canes and whips). slave tsina 18 Aug 08, 2:00 AM 994-437-094 US(PA), 5 mths My Master likes to slap my face on occasion, especially when I'm not expecting it! It was my idea to try it in the first place! Not too hard but just enough to get his point across! Obedience, Service, and Honor 18 Aug 08, 7:53 AM Masters_LittleKitten US(TX), 22 mths MMM Master has slapped me.. ohh once or twice but it is something that does not bode well with me mostly due to the past relationship I had. Master has only done it to put me in the mind set I should be in and I do understand this but it just causes me so many emotional issues. When with the ex-husband when we would fight, he would slap me to the point of seeing stars for a couple hours afterwards. With him, it did calm him down and allowed me to get away from him and the argument and in the end I would end up doing what he wanted of me in the first place or fixing what ever it was that caused it so that I did not have to deal with being hurt again. (usually over sex, money, or computer games) He was a drug user, this is something I did not know about till a year after the end of the relationship. There are things I still have not over come from that time and I am unsure if I ever will get over. 22 Aug 08, 1:06 AM obielax US(OH), 9 mths Y! Mistress_Tiara wrote: Face Slapping (snip) I slap My boys face sometimes for both discipline & kink. I wonder though how many male Owners slap their female slaves face - does this feel inapproriate or cross a boundary for you? (snip) I know that this thread has been here for a while but I had to realy think about it for a while.(It's a good thing! ) I should start out by saying that I think that I may be in a minority here on this site in that I did not look for this lifestyle, it found me. I have often discribed myself as a S.N.A.G.(sensitive new age guy),live and practice paganinsim and grew up with a VERY strong pair of grandmothers that would slap ME silly for disrespecting any female. When I met my (now) collared pet she originaly collared me and I was willing to accept that because I was already on a path of exploration and had called change into my life. I have allways tried to live my life "in service" and It seemed a natural progression. Very shortly it became apparent that that configuration wouldn't last long.(I may live in service but I'm not submisive by any strech of imagnation!) As my pet saw how I handeled myself she (as she has told me) had found someone that she felt she could trust and allowed her feelings of submition to surface. She had to explain much of this lifestyle (I have been around many friends that were into the life but not involved myself.)and I still have a hard time wraping my head around some of the concepets involved. (That's why I'm here. ) (So, face slaping, hmmm..) I have realy had to push myself to slap my pet for many reasons. When I first did it (what I thought was light) I felt her jaw unhinge momentarly. It scared the shit out of me. It also brought up somthing primal in me. For the first time in my life I struck another (and a girl at that) and It. Felt. Good. I can see how Power is sedutive. I still on occasion slap her, often during play but with the intent of maintaning dominance. It is not something that I feel should be done gratiously (in my house) and I only do it with intent, but I do love the *fire* it puts in her eyes. She is not by nature submissive herself and it makes me proud that she is strong enough to have that control and it honors me that she freely gives it to me. I have learned to cup her face, stay away from her ears and otherwise protect her from harm. She is my most tresured posession and wouldn't risk her for the world. Obie Edited to say sorry if this seems disjointed, I was fighting off tangents. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Edited 22 Aug 08, 1:43 AM by obielax 23 Aug 08, 10:59 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs Thankyou everyone who replied for your excellent replies & insights on this matter. Very interesting *~*Mistress Tiara*~* Next page