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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "Punishment while on vacation" 1 2 3 Punishment while on vacation (27) 18 Aug 08, 1:59 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths MasterJC wrote: the is not repsectful even here!!! Since when is domme a 'girlfriend' ??????? SHE is your MISTRESS, DOMME, OWNER,etc... I think the slave is not really a slave So how can it expect to be treated as one??? Master JC... And when will you learn that Dom/mes and Masters/Mistresses make their own rules? You cannot foist your own way of doing things onto others. And no sub or slave here expects to be 'treated as one' by YOU! He behaves and sounds as much a slave as you do a master, JC. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 18 Aug 08, 7:19 PM 365-195-714 IT, 8 mths anjuli wrote: MasterJC wrote: the is not repsectful even here!!! Since when is domme a 'girlfriend' ??????? SHE is your MISTRESS, DOMME, OWNER,etc... I think the slave is not really a slave So how can it expect to be treated as one??? Master JC... And when will you learn that Dom/mes and Masters/Mistresses make their own rules? You cannot foist your own way of doing things onto others. And no sub or slave here expects to be 'treated as one' by YOU! He behaves and sounds as much a slave as you do a master, JC. anjuli I'm traing to find out in what way myMISTRESS can punish me and I don't understand if it only depends of my language or somethink else but there is a lot of polemic and confusion. 18 Aug 08, 7:39 PM MaitreMtl CA, 3 yrs 365-195-714 wrote: I'm traing to find out in what way myMISTRESS can punish me and I don't understand if it only depends of my language or somethink else but there is a lot of polemic and confusion. There are many simple ways to punished a slave without making noises and leaving marks: overnight bondage at the foot of the bed, wearing a buttplug, etc. Your Owner is the best person to determine the ideal punishment, as she can see the reaction a particular punishment has on your behavior - something none of us can do. I don't think language issues is the major problem here. Part of the difficulty dealing with your request is that it is rather unusual for a misbehaving slave to be seeking ways to be disciplined by his Mistress on her behalf! To illustrate, I doubt you would report to your mistress my suggestion regarding the buttplug if you have never been plugged and fear this. 18 Aug 08, 8:30 PM anjuli UK, 18 mths Or of course you might run to do just that if that sounded like an exciting way to be punished! And that is the problem. There are language issues but the main one is that a slave as it is understood in real time M/s here does not SEEK punishment, they seek to avoid it! What people are trying to tell you is that they do not act up to get kinky punishment which is really playtime. For your M to provide this is totally pointless. It puts you in control. It's about getting your rocks off. And it REWARDS bad behaviour simply encouraging you to act up again to get what you want. The top becomes nothing more than a servant of the slave's fantasies. It's all about sex and nothing to do with M/s! That's fine if you're honest about it but it's not what we do here and it's not what this place is about. Here a slave will dread punishment and seek to make their M's happy and never give them an excuse to punish because when the M does punish it will not be a reward. To punish you she should ignore you, make you sleep on the floor, forbid orgasms for the rest of the trip, make you do all the chores you hate... anything you dislike and don't want to hear about. You see, it's about YOU making HER happy and serving her selflessly and gracefully. It's not about you. anjuli What you should be doing ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 18 Aug 08, 9:17 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs MasterJC wrote: the is not repsectful even here!!! Since when is domme a 'girlfriend' ??????? Look, more people than me have tried to say this to you in nicer ways but apparently it isn't working. Shut. The hell. Up. I *hardly* think you're fit to lecture someone else about what's "respectful" here. Krista I may be a blowzy, slovenly slattern, but how can you be drab when you've used a bedazzler to make rainbows all over your blue jeans? (For the record, this makes them more gay, but possibly less feminist.) 18 Aug 08, 9:53 PM Matthews_Bitch US(GA), 5 mths Y! Wow, you go away for a torture filled weekend and when you come back WW III has started. I would have to agree with most of the replies so far. Your girlfriend or whatever she is to you needs to come up with something. Or she needs to come on here and get some advice, if she has run out of ideas. I have been punished before and some of the ways I have been punished were.... 1) The insides of my thighs were beaten until I they were bleeding, the kicker was I was not tied up, I had to be perfectly still on my own or and every time I moved strikes were added. I also had to ask for more and say thank you after each strike. (This hurt like hell!!) 2) I had to put on a bikini, get out in the yard on my hands and knees and cut the grass with scissors. (I have a really big fear of bugs and will not walk in the grass without shoes on.) 3) I've had my mouth washed out with soap (I had to hold it in there for one minute for every year I've been alive). 4) I've been slapped for getting an attitude. 5) I've had to sit in an ice bath - which sucked really bad. He did this another time - not for punishment this time though - and while I was in the ice bath he poured hot wax on my nipples so the second time was interesting (however, I do not like ice baths - AT ALL) 6) I've had to stand in the corner. 7) I've had my computer, tv, ipod, cell and other fun electronic equiptment taken from me. So... These are some of the punishments that I do not wish to ever have to endure again. They aren't for fun and they do not turn me on. And I can tell you now that Matthew would never in a million years allow me to make up my own punishment or even allow me to give suggestions. Because we all know I would pick something half as evil as whatever he had in mind. Best of luck! Proud to be married to and owned by Matthew! 20 Aug 08, 12:06 PM foot_sub UK, 14 mths i am very new to this and am not collared and have not been for a long time, and unlike the people on this site that have given you advice i dont have the experiance they do (weather a dom or sub) but i know as a sub that the gratest pleasure i get is when my Mistress (weather one of session or full time) is that she gets pleasure fro me, be it through sex, bondage, humil,ition etc, what ever she wishes of me is done that is in m humble opion what a submissve person craves, to please another, it seems that you only what the beating caning etc with out any thought for your Mistress. i think that you should talk with her and explain that maybe you are just a man that enjoys punishmnt and is not ready for a collar. like i said im no expert and will not try to pretend otherwise, but you were a collar plenty of us out there that are trying to EARN one so remeber how lucky you are. good luck lee