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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "Involvement With family Members" 1 2 Involvement With family Members (11) Sun 24 Aug 08, 12:17 AM moncherie US(CA), 5 mths Master and I have recently learned that my sister is a Domme. I got punished by him last weekend for saying '$&^%$ you' to her. My sister is two years older than me. Now I would never consider having any sexual contact with her but what are your folk's thoughts about a family member (like a sister) being involved in your BDSM relationship? If Master insists, would it be appropriate for me to kneel at her feet when she comes over or not speak unless given permission, or use the bathroom unless given permission or to even to submit to her disciplines/punishments/sanctions if we are out shopping together or hang out? A few days ago Master invited her to attend a BDSM flavored BBQ at some friends house. Afterwards she tied a rope to my collar ring, pushed me up against a fence and led me to the car. It was actually pretty cool because I lovvvve to be dominated and controlled. Master is standing there not saying a word which tells me he's okay with it but still... this is my sister! Thoughts, opinions????? 24 Aug 08, 12:27 AM Life_of_Vassalage US(MI), 12 mths If it were me, I would eventually resent her. It would definately cause tension between us, but to each their own. If it feels right to your Master and you than by all means. I would find out how He feels about it before making any decisions though. To see the world in a grain of sand, and heaven in a wildflower, hold infinity in the palm of your hands, and eternity in an hour. -William Blake 25 Aug 08, 11:29 PM Timesamyth US(AK), 6 mths It seems like one of those things that could make or break your relationship with your sister (provided you were close to her to begin with). I mean, if it wasn't a temporary thing, great, but it's a possibility she's just testing the water a little. If she changed her mind later I could see it getting awkward? As for the whole "no sexual contact" bit, I mean, I assume the relationship you and your master have is pretty 'sexual' even without any contact. If your master, you and your sister got really into it, it wouldn't matter if you had any real contact with her, or not, I think it would difficult to keep the atmosphere nonsexual. Just thinking on human nature. However, just an opinion. "A woman who does not become the slave of just one man becomes the slave of all men." - Jose Bergamin 26 Aug 08, 12:14 AM Canis_Major UK, 9 mths moncherie wrote: Master is standing there not saying a word which tells me he's okay with it but still... this is my sister! Open communication is the key to all relationship dilemmas. If your master has not offered his opinion, perhaps it would be wise to ask him, explicitly. 30 Aug 08, 7:58 AM allalone47 US(OH), 3 yrs If it is what your owner wants and seek then you submit. Edited 30 Aug 08, 9:26 AM by allalone47 30 Aug 08, 2:48 PM MasterFred US(FL), 4 mths moncherie wrote: Involvement With family Members Master and I have recently learned that my sister is a Domme. I got punished by him last weekend for saying '$&^%$ you' to her. My sister is two years older than me. Now I would never consider having any sexual contact with her but what are your folk's thoughts about a family member (like a sister) being involved in your BDSM relationship? If Master insists, would it be appropriate for me to kneel at her feet when she comes over or not speak unless given permission, or use the bathroom unless given permission or to even to submit to her disciplines/punishments/sanctions if we are out shopping together or hang out? A few days ago Master invited her to attend a BDSM flavored BBQ at some friends house. Afterwards she tied a rope to my collar ring, pushed me up against a fence and led me to the car. It was actually pretty cool because I lovvvve to be dominated and controlled. Master is standing there not saying a word which tells me he's okay with it but still... this is my sister! Thoughts, opinions????? My dear, I only sometimes wish...........but then again how many Vanilla threesoms are sisters and boyfriend or sisters and husband, just because the third wheel is completly safe of disease. In my humble Masterly opinion, my slave will not kneel to or service anyone I have not given her direct instructions to, on the other hand, she does treat ALL Dom/MASTER/ MISTRESS with the same respect as she does me ( she does not like being taken over my knee like a naughty little girl) My best suggestion to you is to try and discuss this with your Master........explaining your concerns.........then ultimatly it is up to him. Good luck with this, you might actually find out you like her better than you thought........ MasterFred Alcohol is not the answer, it just makes you forget the question. 30 Aug 08, 10:21 PM subnico FR, 5 mths Y! I am an only child, but i suppose, if i had a sister who dommed me like you were last time, that i would go to Her to discuss about my sub side and her dominant side. I cannot imagine what would stand out of this discussion, but it would be necessary... 9 Oct 08, 3:16 AM JayDragon47 US(FL), 3 mths I see nothing wrong with it..to be honest... 17 Oct 08, 9:02 PM Remoses US(PA), 3 yrs Here's a couple of questions... Suppose it was not your sisterwho was the Dominant, but your Master's brother? Would you submit to him? On the other hand, would your sister submit to your Master? These are dynamics that have a long human history. What of these behaviours in today's environment? I am Remoses. Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** 17 Oct 08, 9:17 PM 411-076-035 US, 2 yrs Y! My personal view on this is that if someone is a Dom/me, etc. They should be afforded the respect of that title regardless as to your relationship with them. 22 Oct 08, 10:26 PM 000-446-713 US(KY), 4 yrs Y! Yes, I do whatever Master tells me to, but in this situation Master and I would talk a LOT about my feelings, ect, on this issue. I do have a biosister who is a Domme, a biosister who has sub leanings who i have tried to hook up with a local Dom, and a biobrother who is TV who is active in the community and a sissysubboy. It has been a few years since I lived in the same town as my brother, and I have grown, so i might feel differently, but I know in the past I was uncomfortable being at parties with him. OTOH, I have considered inviting either of my sis's to parties we have - and I mean considered it carefully, as in 'would I be comfortable? would they?' - just a whole lot more thought and angst than most people get, even if they are vanilla, before I think of inviting them to a kinky get together for some reason. To me, all submission has a sexual element, rather it is sexual or not. My reason for not being sexual with bio sis's and brothers is, - If Master and I were to break up, that would be horrible, devastating for me, i don't know how I'd live - but I would live. I would go on, and, helping with the transistion would be, I would never have to see him again. If I get sexual with a relitive and it doesn't work out, I get to see them every time my family gets together, - which for my family is not just every holiday but every time it rains. This is a bad thing, having to see an 'ex' everytime it rains. I advise against it. I mean, Master might think it fun and funny to discipline me (Himself) for something I did around one of my biosisters, but i can't imagine her doing it. However, this is between you and him, first, and then, you and her. Talk to your Master. Next page