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	SD! : Web boards : Poly D/s : "Poly questions..." 1 2 3 Poly questions... (25) 11 Sep 08, 11:00 AM anjuli UK, 18 mths Have you tried classics like The Ethical Slut? http://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Infinite-Sexu... Good basic stuff on polyamory, and practical insight into making poly relationships work in the real world. This one might be something you could share with your husband to explore the ideas. It's very positive and affirming about poly life choices and is all about openness and honesty. Here's some additional info on it:- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut Not sure about D/s or M/s ones. Not read any myself. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 14 Sep 08, 8:33 PM Admin 11 yrs Hawklord wrote: I'm sure Tanos must be aware by now and has done nothing. Yes, on the 8th and she was removed immediately. The AUP is perfectly clear about no under 18s. As far as I can see, anjuli's interpretation of the situation is spot on and I would refer to her posts and comments if you have any doubt about the AUP's position. Please don't encourage under 18s to use the site. Regards, Tanos, as Admin www.seekdiscipline.com 14 Sep 08, 8:41 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 2 yrs Thankyou very much for this important clarification Tanos. Although I find the fact that clarification seemed to be needed by people surprising to say the least, it seemed to be necessary. Re the problematic profile I wonder if maybe it reactivated when the young person concerned logged back in? Could that explain things? I am very pleased & relieved this is now going to be resolved, Many thanks *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 22 Sep 08, 11:31 AM Kylyesan US(AR), 7 mths Y! My situation is a little like that and a little not. I am a young Mistress and I have a boyfriend who I live with and love more than anything. He is dominant but more vanilla than bdsm. We are both poly but not swingers so that helps a lot. When I wanted to add a slave or two into the household we had a discussion about it and decided that the slave would 1) listen to both of us but I would be the main concern 2) do as I said when it came to sexual things with him (I am very jealous when it comes to him but not when it comes to a slave) 3) would follow the chain of command (me, then him) to figure out if everything in the household was done as we wanted. We are still sort of in the search for a slave, we prefer a poly bi female who is more service oriented than sexually oriented. Between the two of us we have come to decisions as to the slave and me bringing him more into bdsm and I believe that he is learning very well. Now if we can just find the right slave. We have found a few but we are still working out the kinks and well kinks (lol) with them to see which would be the best for the household. 29 Sep 08, 9:16 PM OpheliaDies72 US(UT), 5 mths Y! Kylyesan wrote: My situation is a little like that and a little not. I am a young Mistress and I have a boyfriend who I live with and love more than anything. He is dominant but more vanilla than bdsm. We are both poly but not swingers so that helps a lot. When I wanted to add a slave or two into the household we had a discussion about it and decided that the slave would 1) listen to both of us but I would be the main concern 2) do as I said when it came to sexual things with him (I am very jealous when it comes to him but not when it comes to a slave) 3) would follow the chain of command (me, then him) to figure out if everything in the household was done as we wanted. We are still sort of in the search for a slave, we prefer a poly bi female who is more service oriented than sexually oriented. Between the two of us we have come to decisions as to the slave and me bringing him more into bdsm and I believe that he is learning very well. Now if we can just find the right slave. We have found a few but we are still working out the kinks and well kinks (lol) with them to see which would be the best for the household. Great! Thank you sooo much. Thats jsut the type of thing I was wondering. Anyone else have any rules/dynamics they would like to share?