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	SD! : Web boards : Discipline : "reward" 1 2 3 4 reward (33) 18 Sep 08, 1:31 AM ravenkaldera US(MA), 3 yrs This is probably going to sound awful, but I don't reward Joshua, any more than I punish him. Sometimes I will do something nice for him, if I am moved spontaneously to do so. Sometimes I will praise him if he does something that moves me to praise. If he needs reassurance on his performance, I have trained him to ask for it. When I critique his work, it's more descriptive and critical than pep-talk and appreciation. (And though you may not believe it, he likes it this way.) If he wants to do something special that requires my permission, he asks me for it, and I make my decision based not on his performance but on other factors - time, expense, etc. But none of this is reward. He understood from the beginning that I wanted a slave who would find enough emotional satisfaction in serving me, and in assisting with my Work, to make that reward enough. (Assuming for good treatment and an honorable master, of course.) I can just hear the girls thinking, my god, I'm so glad I'm not his slave! But he knew the deal from the get-go, and went into this sure that he could live with that ... and so far, he's managed. It's not easy, being my slave, in a lot of ways. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 18 Sep 08, 4:13 AM mynx_of_Sir US(TX), 6 mths Y! Master rewards me with orgasm or a trip to petsmart with O/our dogs. He knows i love taking trips to see all the animals there. Also a reward is Him taking me anywhere. Just knowing He wants me with Him is reward enough. If i'm bad He will leave me at home. =( He also gives me full body massages =) or He rubs lotion on my feet. I have three names one is for when i've been bad another for when i've been good and another for when i am allowed to do what i want(within limitations of course). Also since i am also His wife He calls me by my name when He wants me to act as i was before we found the lifestyle. Love who you are, Never who you aren't =) 18 Sep 08, 6:21 PM meriaton US(MN), 3 yrs ravenkaldera wrote: This is probably going to sound awful, but I don't reward Joshua, any more than I punish him. Sometimes I will do something nice for him, if I am moved spontaneously to do so. Sometimes I will praise him if he does something that moves me to praise. If he needs reassurance on his performance, I have trained him to ask for it. When I critique his work, it's more descriptive and critical than pep-talk and appreciation. (And though you may not believe it, he likes it this way.) If he wants to do something special that requires my permission, he asks me for it, and I make my decision based not on his performance but on other factors - time, expense, etc. But none of this is reward. He understood from the beginning that I wanted a slave who would find enough emotional satisfaction in serving me, and in assisting with my Work, to make that reward enough. (Assuming for good treatment and an honorable master, of course.) I can just hear the girls thinking, my god, I'm so glad I'm not his slave! But he knew the deal from the get-go, and went into this sure that he could live with that ... and so far, he's managed. It's not easy, being my slave, in a lot of ways. -Raven Kaldera Why would it sound awful, Sir? It doesn't sound so to me - just different. What works for You and Yours isn't going to be the same, necessarily, as what works for O/others. With respect, meriaton meriaton - slave of Akhenaton http://meriaton.byethost12.com/blog/blog4.php Sometimes a sense of humor is the only sense i have! 18 Oct 08, 2:20 AM 201-997-618 AU, 3 mths pleasing Master 'is' my reward 18 Oct 08, 9:56 PM Wilhemina 3 mths Okay, I have to say I'm possibly the most spoilt brat this side of the SD boards...This month, my rewards have been a bouquet of roses, cards and emails Usually, it'll be emails and IM as a reward, or if I'm lucky, VoIP and 'cam. 19 Oct 08, 11:30 AM JRCs_petk HK, 14 mths Y! I must concur, nothing beats verbal praise! My Owner is wonderful when it comes to verbal praise and encouragement. Hearing his applause is enough to set me purring. As far as material rewards, I consider myself lucky, despite the inevitable guilt that follows. I don't know why, I find it very difficult to accept rewards... I much prefer the act of giving. Rewards from my Owner can be simple or elaborate, anything from an ice cream to international holidays. My Owner presented me with a brand new PDA this weekend with all the bells and whistles! :D Whilst this is a reward, it also serves a function, allowing him easier contact with me while I am out, and allowing me to respond to business emails when away from my laptop. Less downtime equals higher productivity. 19 Oct 08, 3:13 PM 613-411-535 4 mths The best reward and the only one I ever want, is being told I have given pleasure 22 Oct 08, 12:06 AM 987-429-631 UK, 3 mths Reward is a fairly new concept for me. Before I was in a 24/7 relationship I always played with punishment dynamics and never felt a desire for reward. Gradually though I began to feel that I did want some kind of praise and reward from my Mistress. Recently she has been very pleased with my progress and I've enjoyed a lot of verbal reward. I enjoy a 'good girl' along with a great many others it seems! I'm only just beginning to realise though, that the true reward my Mistress gives me is attention to detail. I'm finally beginning to realise that when I give her my obedience and free her from endlessly having to punish me over serious things she will reward me by focusing on the smaller details which is what we both really enjoy. So it's come full circle, and again I am enjoying a punishment dynamic, only now I enjoy it as a kind of reward, because both Mistress and myself find erotic pleasure in punishment over minor details, but until I learned to give obedience on the bigger issues there wasn't time to do it. 22 Oct 08, 9:32 AM wayoflife UK, 6 yrs In agreement with so many of you .... verbal praise is the best. To be acknowledged for doing something well is the simplest and most effective reward. I love to hear it. 23 Oct 08, 10:58 PM Miss_OL UK, 3 yrs wayoflife wrote: In agreement with so many of you .... verbal praise is the best. To be acknowledged for doing something well is the simplest and most effective reward. I love to hear it. I'll take this opportunity then to say what a good boy you have been recently, and how impressed with, and proud I am of you Next page