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	SD! : Web boards : Submission : "Problem: A vanishing Dom" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Problem: A vanishing Dom (71) 7 Sep 08, 5:49 AM 952-621-855 US(CA), 5 mths No, not that high up on the scale. He told me that there was never a reason to hide a thing. I am the one that told Him due to my job that some things couldn't happen, IE: Marks in sight when I am in my scrubs, etc... He agreed and understood. O/our mutual friend hasn't returned a phone call with a response. Time will tell but this is going to play on my mind,heart,soul and body. Owned Property of Master Drew. Masters precious,beautiful pet. *~Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away~* 7 Sep 08, 6:27 AM EilisMoonfire US(WA), 9 mths I've been following this thread for the past couple days and have been hoping it turned out okay, but it hasn't and it makes me feel for you. I once had a boyfriend (this was right out of HS and had been hinting at a BDSM relationship but never got there w/ anyone till Master) who, one day after leaving my place, drove away and I never heard from him again. It was his pussy-ass way of breaking up with me. Turns out he had gotten his room mate's girlfriend pregnant and had decided to just run far away and fast. Fucking bastard loser. ANYWAY, if he hasn't contacted you, even after you had SURGERY, more than likely this is what's going on. I'd assume SOMEONE would let you know if he had had an emergency/accident/died. If this is the case and he's being fucktard, then you're better off without him. But I do hope for your sake that he has a valid reason for this and contacting you got lost in the chaos. eilis One day soon Master will come home and this slave will be whole again. 7 Sep 08, 10:51 AM 952-621-855 US(CA), 5 mths I have been awake now for two days wondering where I went wrong, what I had done wrong but alas, I have done nothing wrong. I have done my routines each day, I do my readings, my journal, everything and for what? As I lie here this evening I have one thing on my mind. Will today be the day that I consider myself unowned? No word as of yet and I know that HE knows I am sitting here debating. Owned Property of Master Drew. Masters precious,beautiful pet. *~Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away~* 7 Sep 08, 12:33 PM Camille US(CA), 5 mths My feeling is the thing you're doing wrong is allowing the nature of your relationship to cloud the issue. In no sense would I minimize the pain this situation must have for you but ruminating on the significance of various D/s details and the possibilities thereof may be keeping you from looking at what is most important. For at least the time being, he has abandoned you. A three-week absence without word from a master is as significant in D/s as it would be from a spouse, close friend or carpool partner in those respective relationships. He may return tomorrow, six months from now, or never. Best then to decide whether this is acceptable to you. Having done that, you will be able to reconcile yourself either to waiting for him or begin dealing with a relationship having ended in a very bad way and proceed from there in the way that is right for you. I think continued debate will serve only to increase your unhappiness and prevent you from doing what you need to do. Camille 7 Sep 08, 4:47 PM 952-621-855 US(CA), 5 mths Camille, You're absolutely correct. I have come to the conclusion that I, myself, needs to move on and take this as a learning experience. In all of lifes' choices there is a lesson to be learned. This has taught me to be more careful.I will not allow this experience to ruin my desire to serve though. Once more thank Y/you all. I appreciate all the thoughts, advice and most of all the kind words that have been offered to me. Ginny aka 952-621-855 *~Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away~* 7 Sep 08, 5:36 PM clarice US(MO), 4 mths Ginny - i'm glad we have helped you, and please know we will continue to help you and be here for you. clarice. clarice. Posted with my Master's permission. At His feet is where i belong. It is where i feel safe and comforted, and i would have it no other way. 7 Sep 08, 6:33 PM 952-621-855 US(CA), 5 mths Thank you and I do hope that my experience will help others that may be in the situation I -was- in. A final e-mail was sent to him.Taking back what is mine, my Gift and happiness. The e-mail was not vulgar for I have found peace within myself even though there remains the pain and disappointment which will remain with me,but,not forever. A new day, a new outlook and a true smile. Ginny 14 Sep 08, 9:43 AM ravengirl UK, 5 mths 952-621-855 wrote: Thank you and I do hope that my experience will help others that may be in the situation I -was- in. A final e-mail was sent to him.Taking back what is mine, my Gift and happiness. The e-mail was not vulgar for I have found peace within myself even though there remains the pain and disappointment which will remain with me,but,not forever. A new day, a new outlook and a true smile. Ginny I hope you continue to feel happy and positive. Good luck 14 Sep 08, 1:48 PM TaintedDesire 4 yrs clarice wrote: ...Please tell me you didn't sign a contract with no "out clause"? Contracts are irrelevant in this situation I think, even if she did sign one he has no forcible way to make her remain his, it is just words on a piece of paper with no legal footing what so ever, (hence why I don't do contracts, waste of everybody's time). Three weeks is a mighty long time, and I would have cracked after a few days and would have laid down an ultimation, the need for wanting to know what's happening would be greater than my need to be a 'good' slave! I have contact with my Master everyday either by phone, email or IM, (we are LDR) I couldn't imagine us going even one day without contact and on the rare occasions we have, I have always known the reason why! He knows you are sat here worrying and losing sleep over the situation, yet he still does nothing to ease your mind? I'm sorry, but it sounds like he has already decided that he no longer owns you, just is too much of a coward to tell you! If I were you, I'd send him a goodbye text, then move on. You may be a slave, but you are also a human being and are entitled to be treated as such. Your looking at this through the D/s context of your relationship, you need to put yourself on an equal footing for a minute and look at the situation clearly, you deserve so much better than this hun. td 'I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.' Edited 14 Sep 08, 1:54 PM by TaintedDesire 15 Sep 08, 8:37 AM 952-621-855 US(CA), 5 mths My original post. Problem: A vanishing Dom To all that gave me advice, offered support and 'held' my hand during the time I needed help, I thank you with all my heart. I have sanction with a wonderful man, BaseOne, who is proving to me that not all men (Doms') are like the last player that played me quite well. BaseOne is helping me albeit from afar. He has taught me a lot about myself, shown me how things should be. I know each Dom/Domme has their own ways and I do not chastise such in any way, shape or form. To each their own is a favorite saying of mine. Again, I can't express enough or thank each and ever O/one of Y/you. -Ginny- Next page