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	SD! : Web boards : Submission : "Problem: A vanishing Dom" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Problem: A vanishing Dom (71) 15 Sep 08, 11:26 AM property_of_MacCain US(PA), 10 mths 952-621-855 wrote: I have sanction with a wonderful man, BaseOne, who is proving to me that not all men (Doms') are like the last player that played me quite well. Ginny, i know you are confused, hurt, and lonely. Just be careful and don't let yourself get too attached to a wolf in sheep's clothing. Question what motivates others. i doubt the integrity of any "master" (intentional lack of capitalization) who prays on the scared and vulnerable and degrades RT Masters. Take care. p edited to add: BaseOne wrote: You don't have to pass an exam to become a Master, just put a few pictures of floggers on here, buy a name badge - and you are a fully fledged Master, be it a Doctor or a psychopath, You have your untraceable membership on here, your badge, therefore you must be obeyed at all costs. ?? sniped from thread on slave limits The only thing i've seen said by this "master" with merit. I breathe because He allows me to, indulging Him indulges me. Edited 15 Sep 08, 11:47 AM by property_of_MacCain 16 Sep 08, 7:12 PM submissiveheart US(NY), 2 yrs property_of_MacCain wrote: 952-621-855 wrote: I have sanction with a wonderful man, BaseOne, who is proving to me that not all men (Doms') are like the last player that played me quite well. Ginny, i know you are confused, hurt, and lonely. Just be careful and don't let yourself get too attached to a wolf in sheep's clothing. Question what motivates others. i doubt the integrity of any "master" (intentional lack of capitalization) who prays on the scared and vulnerable and degrades RT Masters. Take care. p edited to add: BaseOne wrote: You don't have to pass an exam to become a Master, just put a few pictures of floggers on here, buy a name badge - and you are a fully fledged Master, be it a Doctor or a psychopath, You have your untraceable membership on here, your badge, therefore you must be obeyed at all costs. ?? sniped from thread on slave limits The only thing i've seen said by this "master" with merit. Well, you can get advice and help from Doms with experience without them seeking to own you online. I got tons of supportive advice from Doms with slaves already. I also got advice from their slaves as well. It was invaluable. I met several TSR (SD!) folk in R/L too. All out of friendship. I also agree about jumping to criticize Doms. I did get critical comments from other Doms regarding the one I had had but it was said very carefully and had more to do with his lack of taking my emotional health in consideration (his lack of responsibility). That he was not the guy or Dom that I thought him to be. And that I needed to take responsibility for myself and let go. In taking responsibility for myself, I had a lot of anger and I was encouraged to go through ALL my feelings and that it was completely understandable. People just held my hand by lending a listening ear. You need time to sort out what you did wrong in choosing the wrong Dom. I think figuring that out makes you feel more safe than having an online owner who you've never met. And I've come to the conclusion that the right Dom will ask alot of you but will provide security to match that. It's a bad sign for a Dom to ask alot without taking measures to prove he is trustworthy by being stable. I'm saying this is reference to your last Dom. Good luck. 16 Sep 08, 7:43 PM MrNevvyn UK, 4 yrs From my perspective as a Master and one who has moved from online whilst married through to commiting myself fully to my life style (leaving the marriage) I am deeply suspicious about this behaviour. I understand the concept of test and this doesnt seem reasonable. We still dont know how accessible his home is and I am deeply suspicious that this is probably not the best course of action here. I think you need to consider that this is permanent and take some autonomy back and declare it closed for yourself. On receipt of this message his need to be finihsed with your relationship if thats what it is, will be fulfilled and you will have provided him a final graceful service, or he will surely realise that if he wants to keep you he must act quickly. Stephen Edited 16 Sep 08, 7:45 PM by MrNevvyn 16 Sep 08, 8:57 PM Master_Satyr US(TX), 4 mths Ginny, A somewhat different point of view, here. Speaking from experience (which resulted in much trauma and drama) I have to bring up an alternate point of view. I noticed that you said when you visited his workplace you were told he was unavailable. Later in the thread, I noticed that he's in government service. You haven't heard hide-nor-hair from him, not even through mutual friends? I know that within many offices, a stranger coming to the door, inquiring about someone out on sick leave is often told "unavailable" -- especially within government offices. I'm not trying to scare you, Ginny... I just feel compelled to point out, that if something HAS happened to him, health wise, this thread slanting toward "bad master! bad!" isn't addressing things, and can cause further confusion/heartache (for both of you) later. Were it Me in your position... I'd be knocking on his door, checking with his landlord (if any), and pushing those mutual friends for info. Have you tried calling him at work? I hope things work out for you, whichever way this goes. Master Satyr 17 Sep 08, 12:48 AM Fenrisulfr SE, 10 mths Ginny, Sad to hear what you had to go through. Sounds like you did all you could to get in contact with him, to the point that you had confirmed that he was not in trouble in some way and just ignored you. Maybe for a thread of its own, but a bit curious about the references to it as a possible test and not a clear abandonment. I can't see any use or purpose of a test where the dom cuts of all contact with the slave in this fashion. Maybe someone could shed some light on it? I can understand having a test to see if she checks if anything has happened. First call ending that test. Caveat; I have not yet owned anyone. While I have spent time reading and talking to people in the lifestyle, and do extrapolate from knowledge I have in related fields, it is still the thoughts and opinions from someone without personal experience. It is up to you how you wish to value what I say. 17 Sep 08, 12:48 PM BaseOne UK, 2 yrs . She knows where he his, and that he is alive, she has procured information ( from others ) as to his desertion. She knows he was an evil player, and we both know the depths to which he deceived her, so much so, that the plans he had for her were so indescribable, and dispicable, ( which could have destroyed her completly ) he has gone underground, because he was "found out". He was not fit to be called a "Dom", nor for that matter, a member of the human race. ( He had "Read the book" and was a convincing liar ) Ginny is extremely ill at the moment, suffering from stress, has been off work these last 2 days, staying home today, has not slept for 48 hours, cannot keep food down, had a recent death in the family, and certain derogatory comments have not helped either. Ginny is a submissive, ( ** ) and does not want to be a slave, no matter how many times people on here insist that she has to be a slave. ( Tests of timed desertion do not exist ) She is well aware that she --was-- vulnerable, and this was pointed out to her in no uncertains terms, many, many times before she committed to me. We trust this thread is now closed so she can recover. To a certain woman, if you have issues with me, memo me and not here, as my concern is for Ginny's recovery free from posted vendettas which will cause her more stress. . . . ** ( The Slave Register (TSR) provides a central place for the registration of slaves and submissives to join.) ** ( SD! is free for dominants, masters, owners, submissives and slaves to join.) 17 Sep 08, 1:21 PM property_of_MacCain US(PA), 10 mths BaseOne wrote: Ginny is a submissive, ( ** ) and does not want to be a slave, no matter how many times people on here insist that she has to be a slave. BaseOne, Hmmm... if she wishes not to be a slave, that is fine. i do not recall ANYONE suggesting she had to be. Again with the twisting words to suit your needs and neglecting truth. Her profile does state as of this moment: *snip* The Slave Register certificate for 952-621-855 records that the registrant is owned property; and that the registrant has been owned since 12th Sep 2008; and that the registrant's owner is declared to be BaseOne. *snip* Sounds like she does want to be owned to me. i'll let others draw their own conclusions. i posted nothing as a vendetta- i know neither party- i was just concerned for her well being as it seems clear to me she jumped from the kettle into the frying pan in a matter of days. Ginny, i wish you well-and am very sorry to hear of your troubles. if i in anyway upset you i am VERY sorry. In regards to private memos... i know neither you or BaseOne and feel that would be inappropriate. Please accept my apologies and feel better. p I breathe because He allows me to, indulging Him indulges me. 18 Sep 08, 12:07 AM Sir4Ryco 2 yrs Hi 952-621-855 (Ginny), You could be in the process of making a grave error and I think that you need to listen to the advice of property_of_MacCain in regards to entering a relationship with BaseOne. While he sounds like this nice saviour who was just sitting in the wings waiting to help you in your time of need . . . he could also be a different version of what you just left behind. It is a mistake to enter into any relationship right now and what you really need is time to heal and some 'real' counselling (see a professional). Chat with other slaves and subs here and take your time (you're already in touch with property_of_MacCain, but I suggest that you talk with Krista and submissiveheart as well). In the end if you are looking for a real master and not a service top, who appears to have little understanding of actual M/s, then slow down because it often holds true that the fast rescue isn't a rescue at all. Why would any master want to enter into a power exchange with someone who is vulnerable because of a recent betrayal and the self worth problems it often creates? Vultures always wait until an animal is down or dead before swooping in. Look for advice from those who don't try to place you in any type of power dynamic for the next month or two at least. If they try to control you . . . run. A master who searches out the vulnerable uses different tools for control and it is typically in their best interest to keep you damaged and in need. Please take care. Sir4Ryco P.S. Your original post reeks of desperation and someone who is willing to follow orders for weeks in the hope that her master will return turned the heads of every predator that frequents this forum. For BaseOne, I'm aware that you could actually be the sub pleasing dominant (Heaven - could be here) you make yourself out to be, but I can't see how you think entering a new power dynamic with 952-621-855 (Ginny) so close to her betrayal will benefit her? Why aren't you giving her the time and friendly advice she requires to find her footing once again? It's only 11 days after her plea for help and you've already moved in to make her your slave . . . it would be amazing if you didn't have an ulterior motivation for helping her after all you and Lilleth2005 have been looking for another woman for . . .? I for one will be stunned if this has to do with anything larger than your own requirements. Sir4Ryco Edited 18 Sep 08, 12:11 AM by Sir4Ryco 19 Sep 08, 12:07 AM little_linnet US, 3 yrs Good grief, girl, haven't you ever heard of "rebound"? A vanilla woman would be crazy to commit to a relationship with someone under these circumstances. A submissive, doubly so. BaseOne, you should be ashamed of yourself. Swooping in to "mentor" or whatever you call it a woman who is so troubled and has so little understanding of how power exchange works is profoundly unethical. Defending it so strenuously makes you a real piece of work. Krista The thing you have to remember about girls is that the hyperfluid bearings under the camshafts can be miscalibrated along either axis, so regular maintanence is required to keep resonance in the titanium casing from causing abrasions against the primary sprocket joists. 19 Sep 08, 1:53 PM subbyjenny US(PA), 5 mths £ Y! Ginny, my experience is that when one person puts down a group of others, they are usually guilty of that crime themselves. BaseOne seems to be saying how many "play" the woman and that he would never do such...Honestly, every person i've met that has done that has been in expert in that particular field and that is why they are so quick to judge (deflection to make themselves look good). i guess i just get very suspicious when someone puts alot of effort into warning against others instead of just giving a forthright impression of themselves. Please be careful and pay heed to your instincts. Good luck and be patient! Next page