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	SD! : Web boards : Submission : "Humiliation" 1 2 Humiliation (12) Moved from Service Wed 10 Sep 08, 5:28 PM awakened_slave US(IL), 3 mths  I am in a new relationship with my Master, things are going great and i am very happy. We were talking about things that had not been brought into our relationship together yet, and Humiliation came up. He has started to call me His "stupid dirty cunt" and things like that. I have found that when He says things like that to me it drives me deeping into my servitude to Him. I push harder to please Him. What i would like to know is..Is this a normal thing that happens alot within slaves with Humiliation, i am thinking it is..but i would like to hear your comments on it. Thank You 11 Sep 08, 12:48 AM 483-608-929 US(OH), 17 mths  awakened_slave wrote: Humiliation I am in a new relationship with my Master, things are going great and i am very happy. We were talking about things that had not been brought into our relationship together yet, and Humiliation came up. He has started to call me His "stupid dirty cunt" and things like that. I have found that when He says things like that to me it drives me deeping into my servitude to Him. I push harder to please Him. What i would like to know is..Is this a normal thing that happens alot within slaves with Humiliation, i am thinking it is..but i would like to hear your comments on it. Thank You Most definitely with me it is. It seems to free me and to make me feel more confident. I was always so worried about what others thought of me or how I looked and I wanted their approval so bad. But, I've learned that those things don't matter. My Master can humiliate me and it makes me feel closer to Him. He doesn't judge me or seriously ridicule me, or intentionally hurt me emotionally. It does bring U/us closer. The humiliation takes away the pretenses I used to portray to others and the worry I always had in dealing with others. I think not being afraid to be humiliated shows a definite confidence in oneself. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together 12 Sep 08, 5:45 PM ravengirl UK, 4 mths  I agree with both of you. I think there's something incredibly freeing about being humiliated. I struggled with 'letting go' to begin with because I worried about feeling or appearing foolish. Now I feel foolish if I hesitate. Humiliation definitely made me more confident, something I never, ever expected. 15 Sep 08, 2:25 PM Mistress_Tiara UK, 23 mths  I humiliate My boy a lot & he responds well to it. At the time he struggles with it (obviously) but in terms of long term behaviour modification it is an exceptionally effective tool; being humiliated makes him much more humble, keeps him in line, keeps him calm & generally does him a lot of good. Sometimes he eventually fetishizes some of the ways I humiliate him to a degree, but interestingly this doesn't change the overall positive alteration to his mindset and behaviour that humiliating him causes. he likes the fact I push him in this way even when he really hates the acts involved. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 21 Sep 08, 1:56 AM awakened_slave US(IL), 3 mths  my Master has started calling me things like "His dirty little slut". And at 1st it makes me feel about a inch tall but within seconds it humbles and conforts me. It is a very awesome feeling and has already made me a better slave for Him 15 Oct 08, 2:15 PM wayoflife UK, 6 yrs  awakened_slave wrote: Humiliation Most definitely with me it is. It seems to free me and to make me feel more confident. I was always so worried about what others thought of me or how I looked and I wanted their approval so bad. But, I've learned that those things don't matter. My Master can humiliate me and it makes me feel closer to Him. He doesn't judge me or seriously ridicule me, or intentionally hurt me emotionally. It does bring U/us closer. The humiliation takes away the pretenses I used to portray to others and the worry I always had in dealing with others. I think not being afraid to be humiliated shows a definite confidence in oneself. It is odd how this works but it does. Like most people I do have moments when I worry about how the public see me but somehow there is no fear about how Mistress sees me as ultimately it is for her pleasure, and who am I to deny that ?. To be unashamedly treated as a plaything and someone with whom she can feel free to be herself without judgement either way definitely washes away any self image issues I may have. What we consider humiliating is only so in the context of "normal" society. Like you I am not scared of humiliation when it does not come out of cruelty and I can see how it brings people closer. It works for me and I am totally open to it if that is how Mistress wishes to express a side of her dominance. 20 Oct 08, 8:15 AM Sahibs_kitten US, 53 days  Prior to placing his collar on me, public humiliation was a hard limit. I accepted the fact that I have no limits now, and I chose for it to be that way when I became his slave. However, Sahib chooses not to destroy his property for needless entertainment. It is well within his rights to choose to publicly humiliate me if he so desires, and if it pleases him... I am satisfied. Within the privacy of our relationship however, Sahib may choose to humiliate me by any means at his disposal, and I am glad for it. Mostly because it pleases him, but also because I matter enough to him to want to do so. His love gave me new life. 20 Oct 08, 10:54 AM little_linnet US, 3 yrs  ravengirl wrote: I agree with both of you. I think there's something incredibly freeing about being humiliated. I think the trick is that our dominants do a good job of demonstrating complete and total acceptance of what we are, including the facets of us that they point out during humiliation. The feeling changes (gradually) from "Oh no, I'm a little groveling slave cunt, how could he possibly want me now that he realizes it" to "Oh my God! He takes delight in me BECAUSE I'm a little groveling slave cunt!" It's definitely an amazing experience to realize that you can be yourself, all of yourself -- have things you've always hidden not only seen but dragged out and made to tapdance in a spotlight -- and be valued more for it instead of rejected. Krista Now I'm going to marry my first wife, then I'm going to divorce her. Now, I know what you're going to say, but stick with me, my story gets better! I'm going to marry my second wife, then I'm going to kill her! Cut her head off! Ah, you weren't expecting that, were you? Third wife, going to shoot her! 20 Oct 08, 11:46 AM Wilhemina 56 days  What about the opposite side of the coin, when a Master doesn't like/want humiliation? Is that unusual? 21 Oct 08, 4:14 AM Stanleypet US(NV), 3 yrs  I think there are two forms of humiliation. Most of the posts in this discussion are referring to the kind in which the slave is subjected to epithets and (IMHO) somewhat abusive treatment. I'm a switch, and I neither use that sort of humiliaion on my subs nor do I wish to be subjected to it by a female superior. However, the sort of humiliation that rfequires the slave to publicly acknowledge his/her inferior status, and his/her obligation to obey, is in my mind one of the most effective practices that a owner/slave couple can engage in. Such things as being required to walk three paces behind the dominant partner, with eyes focused on the dominant partner's feet; speech restrictions, being required to address the dominant partner as "Sir," "Ma'am," "Master," or "Mistress" in front of others, having to ask permission to eat, use the bathroom, or even scratch one's face, has a powerful and beneficial effect. Stan 21 Oct 08, 5:55 AM MasterInService US, 2 mths  little_linnet wrote: I think the trick is that our dominants do a good job of demonstrating complete and total acceptance of what we are, including the facets of us that they point out during humiliation. The feeling changes (gradually) from "Oh no, I'm a little groveling slave cunt, how could he possibly want me now that he realizes it" to "Oh my God! He takes delight in me BECAUSE I'm a little groveling slave cunt!" You really hit the nail on the head. When I have said things like that to lovers in the past, it's because I love the fact that I have a "dirty little cunt" of my very own. It's exciting to me and it liberates them to be who I want them to be. In many ways it's not meant as humiliation as much as an affirmation of all the things I crave from my lover. Next page