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	SD! : Web boards : IE Theory : "in public, psychological mind-fucks" in public, psychological mind-fucks (8) Sun 14 Sep 08, 10:09 PM jakesemma US(WA), 14 mths  since this is the experience that happened to me last night, I felt it would make a good discussion. Master and I had our scene ended. (not because of what we were doing..) He had me totally, psychologically broken down. I was ready to cry. Its not something I do easily and I was fighting it. I was scared, huddled up at his feet. Our scene ended in a place before he had fixed me and got me out of a bad place. He put me there on purpose.... If it had ended before I had snapped, and broke, no biggie. but I was in a psychological place where today, I am still almost crying, totally fucked up and trying to keep my shit together. If something like that happens to you, and you have to sack the scene immediately for various reasons, how to do you "fix" your partner. or how do you get fixed in a matter of minutes? For me, it takes a lot of work to get to that bad place on purpose. It takes some work to get out of it and it can be worked through if we have time in a scene... If it ends in the middle, I am left in the bad place until he can break me from start to finish later. He will most likely have to do it tonight. However, for the future, if you have to "fix" it in a matter of minutes, in the car on the way home, or whatever, how do you shut it off or fix it so the person's psychologically NOT left in a bad place if the scene doesn't get finished? Edited to add : It was NOT intentional to begin with (breaking me down psychologically.), I got into a bad place because of the environment, so he just went with the flow to make it so it would still turn out okay, except he broke me down, than didn't get a chance to pick up the pieces... he has to fix it today, but for future events... what are some suggestions to fix it "fast" if you can't "finish" what you started right that minute? Edited Mon 15 Sep 08, 12:15 AM by jakesemma 22 Sep 08, 8:01 PM SurrogateFamily 5 mths  Lithium! Usually a prescription drug, not legal everywhere. http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/diet_nutr... I guess you'd need to eat one hell of a lot of eggs before you started to feel better :-/ Some things take time and care; No use crying over spilt dairy products... I call it, "The Void"; just don't look down. He's coming soon. 22 Sep 08, 9:32 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs  Man, I wish I had some advice for you. I've had the bubble shattered too, and it sucks, and then you have to try and pull yourself together and maintain. I just haven't found anything that works as well as time, although a hot drink usually helps too. Krista The thing you have to remember about girls is that the hyperfluid bearings under the camshafts can be miscalibrated along either axis, so regular maintanence is required to keep resonance in the titanium casing from causing abrasions against the primary sprocket joists. 22 Sep 08, 9:56 PM Rogers_Deb0rah UK, 7 yrs  Chocolate, blankets, warmth and feeling safe that he will do something rather than leave you there really. Some people just get dumped or the other person has no idea how to re wire their hard drive for them! Don't press a button unless you know how to fix it, he does, so take comfort that it is temporary and feel the emotion however good or bad. Don't try and fix it, feel it and stay with it and it is never quite as bad if you let it be. Admit exactly what you are feeling, to him and to those you can, like you have here and let him do what he does best for you. Therapies like lithium and even 5-HT, serotonin are all great for depressives etc but they are accumulative in natural form and therefore can't provide a quick fix. Some people use key words like they do in hypnotherapy, when you are becoming happy next time he can root an action or a word and if there is an abrupt halt in the future, that word or action can help get you safe faster. It needs to be done often to actually work though, again a longer term quick fix!! Debs xx "Woman in her greatest perfection was made to serve and obey man." John Knox Edited 22 Sep 08, 10:05 PM by Rogers_Deb0rah 23 Sep 08, 12:02 AM jakesemma US(WA), 14 mths  chocolate seemed to really help, along with waiting a couple days and picking up were we left off and starting over. he broke me, left me sobbing for over an hour and the next day I was back to my normal bubbly self. Lesson learned. "Play with the mind at your own risk". LOL 24 Sep 08, 6:56 PM Just_Angel US(CO), 2 yrs£ I've had that happen to me... having to stop a scene like that. Unfortunately I've found no way to be "fixed" in minutes. Get sleep, stay hydrated... be as good to yourself physically as possible. Cuddles work wonders too. The best thing I've found is to just ride it out. "What would YOU do for a klondike bar?" 30 Sep 08, 8:56 PM Ou_pais US(MA), 2 yrs  (Hi everybody! Been gone a while--not sure i'm back for long.) Master isn't always really big on aftercare, so for my own sanity i figured out what i get most out of aftercare so, if He pleases, He can give it to me in a kind of "condensed" way. 1. That i did a good job. That He got what He wanted out of whatever the scene was. 2. That it's ok that i'm in a haze right now. 3. That it's ok for me to come out of the haze at my own pace. What it boils down to for me is feeling secure as His slave, that i did and am continuing to do the right thing, and that He's not pressuring me to do something (snap out of it) that at the moment would be very taxing. For me, that kind of pressure is counterproductive, but without it i can generally come down pretty quickly (at least it feels quickly to me; i don't know how long it takes objectively). At the same time, He's letting me know that He will *still* be pleased when i'm no longer drooling mindlessly, or shivering in panic, or whatever i may happen to be doing. Also, it's important that the non-verbal cues are there, not just the verbal ones. It's much easier for me to read the non-verbal cues than the verbal ones in that state, any way! Not sure this would work for anyone else, but it works well for me. pais 30 Sep 08, 9:14 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs  Good to see you, pais! Yeah, I think the same things are essential for me. Although there have been times when he's dragged me up out of my haze by persistently getting in my face and forcing me to give him verbal answers to questions. I don't think that would work, though, if I were kinda traumatized or really having a hard time like emma describes; maybe the more naked and raw I am the more gently I need to be allowed to swim up out of it. Makes sense cause after all you need a lot more time to recover from abdominal surgery than from stubbing your toe. Krista The thing you have to remember about girls is that the hyperfluid bearings under the camshafts can be miscalibrated along either axis, so regular maintanence is required to keep resonance in the titanium casing from causing abrasions against the primary sprocket joists. 30 Sep 08, 10:18 PM Ou_pais US(MA), 2 yrs  Good to see you still here, too, Krista! (And several other people, too.) It seems for me that there's no shortcut. If He gets me out of it by asking questions or whatever, i may seem back to normal, but i will wake up the next morning worse off than before. YMMV, of course. pais