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	SD! : Web boards : Service : "Master wants 24/7 D/s but doesn't practice! Help!" 1 2 Master wants 24/7 D/s but doesn't practice! Help! (11) Tue 16 Sep 08, 11:14 PM 735-906-162 US(KY), 9 mths  I am currently having a problem with my master b/c we have known for a long time that this relationship is what we wanted. But know that I have given myself to him as his slave he just seems to act on the 24/7 D/s relationship very sporadically. I don't mean to step out of my bounds but he seems to only care about it every now and then. I feel that if that is all he wanted then why would we go to the lengths we have if only to not act upon the agreement. Please help me with this! I don't want to over step my bounds but I don't feel like this is what he really cares about. -You must submit to supreme suffering in order to discover the completion of joy- Master Sarge's Slave 16 Sep 08, 11:35 PM property_of_MacCain US(PA), 8 mths  735-906-162 wrote: Master wants 24/7 D/s but doesn't practice! Help! I have given myself to him as his slave he just seems to act on the 24/7 D/s relationship very sporadically. 735-906-162 wrote: I don't mean to step out of my bounds but he seems to only care about it every now and then. 735-906-162 wrote: I don't feel like this is what he really cares about. Is there a possibility that he is into BDSM as a fetish, not lifestyle? Maybe he just wants to play Master and slave without the pressure of it being 24/7. i feel you already know this, but want validation. Some people are kinky- and that can be fun, but it takes something else to want a M/s relationship. Doesn't sound like his head is there. Maybe it is time to have a frank talk with him. Good luck. p I breathe because He allows me to, indulging Him indulges me. Edited 16 Sep 08, 11:36 PM by property_of_MacCain 16 Sep 08, 11:54 PM 735-906-162 US(KY), 9 mths  Thanks for the comment! I guess the reason I am so confused is b/c my master is the one who suggested the switch from just as a fetish to a 24/7 lifestyle. -You must submit to supreme suffering in order to discover the completion of joy- Master Sarge's slave 17 Sep 08, 12:18 AM property_of_MacCain US(PA), 8 mths  Maybe the thought of it was appealing but in practice it was more work than anticipated... or maybe life got in the way. Are things stressful for him at work? Are there children at home or vanilla friends stopping by? Maybe outside influences changed his mind. Without being there i can only speculate...either way you could get to the bottom of what he is thinking faster by talking to him. Maybe he thinks your not into it, or that he pressured you. Only he knows what his deal is. Communication is key. Take care. p I breathe because He allows me to, indulging Him indulges me. 17 Sep 08, 12:38 AM 544-282-976 US(NJ), 23 mths  maybe you should both write down/talk about what you both expect from 24/7 and what it means to you both. my Master and i live 24/7, but we don't live together. how is that possible? it's not easy but it's possible. it takes a lot of work, but even in most 24/7 M/s relationships, the slave is not in chains the whole time. especially when both parties need to work, or with little ones in the home. to us, 24/7 means that protocols are in place and followed, that orders can be given at any time and will be followed, that the mindset is there at all times. and it is! but it's NOT that we session every time we have sex. hope that makes some sense. Master Mike's precious 17 Sep 08, 1:25 AM 000-788-769 US(IN), 6 yrs  Cannot understand why you just talk to Him about this? He may not even be aware of what is or what is not happening. He is very content with the situation, and you obviously are not, nor would this slave. Am sure that you will be very respectful when brining this up, but the only place you are going to get any real answers is from Him. Perhaps having a sheet of paper with the things that you have noticed, the things that happened or have not been happening, and the things that you are taking issue with. Just write down what you want to say, and questions that you would like answered. If you are respectful, am sure He will be receptive. Wishing you the very best, slave billy 000-788-769 obedient, submissive foot slave that loves hypnosis 788-769 17 Sep 08, 11:35 AM pirate528x US, 3 yrs  There is no way for me to speak for what's in another Master's mind.I would suggest that you respectfully ask him for an answer to your question.Communication is paramount to any relationship. Master Tony 18 Sep 08, 2:59 AM 735-906-162 US(KY), 9 mths  Thank you all for your comments and recommendations I will sit down with him ASAP and try to figure this situation out. I will keep you all posted on the way things are going. -You must submit to supreme suffering in order to discover the completion of joy- Master Sarge's Slave 19 Sep 08, 4:06 PM MasterKAM US(ME), 6 mths  In my thoughts to this answer I can relate with your Master and also with the confusion of the slave. I at this time have a 24/7 slave with set protocols and rules she is to follow regardless if I'm there or not. There are some days that I don't talk or deal with her because we live apart and have a long distance relationship from me moving out of state for work. This makes it tough on us both since she works odd hours and there is a time zone change between us. At times, I'm over stressed at work or just have to many task going at the same time to deal with her, however I try to get on line daily to touch base or to give her task to do and I always ask every day if she has any questions, thoughts or concerns. This is what I feel you need to do, sit down with him and outline what is bothering you and what it is he expects then the answer to your question will be clear. If you need to write down what is bothering you and the questions you have so you wont forget them if you get side tracked on a topic. I don't expect my slave to be off running about while I am gone but I love the idea she is there when I do need her and is ready at hand for a task. Some would say your taking her for granted and this is not so at all. She has given herself to me as a slave and I at times may use or not use my property depending on the available time I have, its my choice as her owner. If there is a large gap in time when we have last talked, then I explain to her that I had to do some things and that I am sorry for not letting her know in advance however there will be times when I am not there and she is a smart woman who can do whats needed and fall back on her protocols need be or she can text me by phone if needed. 21 Sep 08, 11:23 PM Red_Spark UK, 22 mths  Maybe it is like he has 'got' you in 24/7 lifestyle situation he feels less need to be overtly controlling very frequently? Well I am just putting forward an idea, not proposing to guess what is in his mind. If he feels confident that he will have your obedience whenever he demands it, he doesn't feel the need to set you lots of tasks or do 'play' much of the time. But if you are feeling that he doesn't care, of course you must talk to him about it... there are some things you need maybe that he isn't providing, maybe you need a stronger framework, more structure, so he needs to know this also. 8 Oct 08, 11:33 PM Kaledorus US, 23 mths  A dominant man HAS TO dominate you, it is the very essence of what makes him DOMINANT. There are a lot of fellows out there who can play at it and get jollies out of it, for a while, but 24/7/365 they can't do it because it is NOT THEIR NATURE. Just as a woman with deep, genuine submissive needs has to submit in like manner the dominant man has to dominate. Simple as that, and the guy won't become dominant by reading books, listening to tapes, it is what one is born with. I would suggest that all the ladies take this as a good example of why it is SO important to make sure you give yourselves to someone who MUST, by nature, dominate you and not play at it. When you "submit" to or "dominate" someone in a situation where safewords are used and when limitations are negotiated, you are not actually submitting or dominating at all - you are playing at it. Next page