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	SD! : Web boards : Ritual : "Rules to follow " Rules to follow (10) Sun 28 Sep 08, 12:02 AM 179-740-261 CA, 2 mths  Hi i was just wondering if anyone has rules they follow. We are just starting out as 24/7 and my Master has given some rules and was just wondering if anyone else has a list that has to be followed and if they are able to follow the rules, all the time. Thank you for any answers slave 179-740-261 28 Sep 08, 2:35 AM 635-898-970 US, 10 mths  These are mine. Sometimes I get them all and sometimes I don't. Sometimes there is just not enought time to get everything done during the day. I do have the shopping, The kid's sport practices/games to tend to. Bills must be paid, etc,etc. Last week we were out all day looking for a new clothes washer and that resulted in tearing apart the house to get the old one out and the new one in. We also found a new couch that day and it doubled our time getting that in as well. As such I was excused from my regular duties. Like it says at the bottom, this is a fluid set of rule and Master has the right to modify them at any time. Hope this helps. PART I - RELATIONSHIP BOUNDARIES 1. Proper conflict resolution is of paramount importance. If at any point either of us become unhappy or unsatisfied with the D/s arrangement, we need to discuss it openly and honestly at our earliest convenience. Don't feel afraid to bring it up; our relationship as a whole is far more important. 2. Any and all disputes will be handled in private. Our disagreements will not be made public in any fashion. 3. Once your collar is placed, it will be the only tangible symbol of my authority. You will wear it at ALL times, with only the following exceptions: * When you bathe. * When I instruct you to remove it. This, in turn, will occur on only two occasions--when it is necessary for some reason or another (Changing collars falls under this--for anything else, I will state the reason), or as a form of punishment (again, I will inform you). PART II - GENERAL TASKS 4. Every morning you will get up and prepare a half-pot of coffee when I get in the shower to get ready for work. You will also prepare a breakfast of some fashion. You may return to bed after this. 5. Excepting Tuesdays, the first day after your shift at work, you will be out of bed by eleven AM. When you get up for the day, the bed will be made. 6. You'll consult with me every day on dinner plans for the evening, even if we just decide to do leftovers. At least once a week, we will slide out the table and have a meal around it as a family. 7. You will also prepare at least one new recipe every week for dinner. 8. You'll check in with me when you get up every morning to see if I have any tasks for you over the course of the day. Any time you have aside from those tasks is yours, however, all of your daily tasks will be done FIRST. 9. The following regular tasks will be completed as necessary: * Once a week, the house will be dusted, with particular attention paid to our bedroom, including action figures, TV, and computers. Cobwebs will also be swept from all corners. * The bathroom will be cleaned every two weeks. I don't expect you to clean up after the boys however; their messes are their responsibility. * Laundry will be folded and put away as it exits the dryer--to include socks and underwear. Socks without matches may still be left in the basket until their matches are provided. 10. In the evening, when I get home from work, I will expect a clean area around my desk, aside from anything which I instruct you to leave there. The only thing permitted to be left on my keyboard are pending documents that require my attention. There will be a cold bottle of water to the left of my keyboard. PART III - PERSONAL STANDARDS 11. You will commit yourself to your own improvement in some fashion or another every single day. The nature of this will change as your needs for personal improvement change, and so we will discuss this on and off as necessary. 12. As a corollary of the above, you will immediately begin an excercise program of your own design but pending my approval. Your progress will be monitored, and once a month, a comparitive photo will be taken. 13. You will choose one topic of study and commit yourself to learning it to the best of your ability. This topic can be anything--academic subjects, trivia, or physical tasks. You will take notes on your progress (you may use your journal for this purpose) and consult with me once a week regarding your current field of study. PART IV - BEDROOM MANNERS 14. You are forbidden orgasm without my express permission. Your sole responsibility will be ensuring my pleasure and satisfaction; I will reward you with orgasm as I see fit. 15. Previous rules will stand; I will be informed of any partners beforehand, and they are subject to my approval. 16. Our sex life will proceed as normal, with the understanding that you will comply to the best of your ability with any request that I make. PART V - DISCIPLINE 17. You will maintain a respectful tone in front of me. You will curb your temper and express yourself rationally. 18. You will address me as 'Master' at all times whenever we are not in the company of others. If we are in the company of others both familiar with and comfortable with the D/s life style, you will address me as 'Master' at those times as well. 19. When I give you a command, you will respond with "As you desire, Master." You will begin any requests with "If it pleases you, Master." 20. Once the children have been put to bed, you will strip your clothing, kneel at my side, and say "I live to serve, Master," at which point I will give you whatever small, final tasks I have for you before we go to bed. 21. You will memorize and be able to demonstrate on keyword command the following positions: * Acceptance Face to floor, pressing forehead and bridge of nose directly down. Resting on knees, legs slightly apart, arms clasped tightly behind back. * Readiness Resting on knees, legs apart, ankles crossed. Back straight, hands clasped behind back. Head up, eyes down. * Penance Arms clasped behind back, weight resting on arms. Legs held straight and lifted off the floor. Head held off floor as well. * Resilience On hands and knees, ankles crossed, back straight, eyes down. * Penitence Resting on knees, legs apart, ankles crossed. Face to floor, hands palm down and framing face, thumbs and forefingers touching. You will not be commanded to assume this position; as its name implies, it is a position you will assume when you feel remorse and wish to apologize for something. * Restraint Resting on butt, legs out straight and together. Leaning forward, arms outstretched, hands resting on ankles. Head down. NOTE:This is a fluid set of rules; once you agree to submit to them, you agree that I will change them only as I deem necessary, on the condition that I will always consider your personal needs as well. Edited 28 Sep 08, 2:42 AM by 635-898-970 28 Sep 08, 4:17 AM 662-935-655 US, 2 yrs  Wow - going without the collar would be the killer for me, now that's a real punishing punishment. (smile) i had to take my late Master/Husband's collar off for medical reaons of late - the daily wear one - and it just about felt awful. Vulnerable and fragile and just plain horrid. And i don't look forward to that part of the upcoming surgery - changed to Oct as the one who scheduled it didn't notice it fell on the Jewish High Holiday Rosh Hoshannah or Jewish New Year and the DOCTOR is Jewish. i pointed it out to T/them. Now it's in the week preceeding Samhain/Halloween - seems appropriate to me and i think i'll be somewhat up and about for that holiday, which i adore. (NOT good for diabetics though - grin!!) By the way, to any who observe that holiday on here, whether due to being Jewish, in a Jewish household or into Kabbalah or WHATEVER, L'Shana Tova to all such. Shalom Aleichem to all such! j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin 28 Sep 08, 4:44 AM 597-866-048 US(CA), 9 mths  179-740-261 wrote: Rules to follow Hi i was just wondering if anyone has rules they follow. We are just starting out as 24/7 and my Master has given some rules and was just wondering if anyone else has a list that has to be followed and if they are able to follow the rules, all the time. Thank you for any answers slave 179-740-261 my Sweet SIR has given me rules far to many to list here. SIR bound them in a book for me, i must say i try very hard to follow them all..but as humans we are prone to mistakes once in a while ..no person is perfect 100% of the time. i enjoy my rules it gives me something to strive for as close to as perfect as i can get..and i know what pleases HIM by looking within the rules HE has chosen. promise only what you can deliver..Then deliver more than you promise.. 28 Sep 08, 5:18 AM 613-411-535 3 mths  179-740-261 wrote: Rules to follow Hi i was just wondering if anyone has rules they follow. We are just starting out as 24/7 and my Master has given some rules and was just wondering if anyone else has a list that has to be followed and if they are able to follow the rules, all the time. Thank you for any answers slave 179-740-261 As yet, our relationship is new and I know it will deepen and strengthen. For now my rules are - I obey unconditionally. I may not ask for release from the relationship I go naked as much as possible Sexual activity belongs to her and is only on instruction. At present this includes arousal 3 times a day and climax once every day I must wear a leather thong on my cock 24/7 and her initial renewed daily at the base of my abdomen. I wear an additional thong on my ankle, at night and when dressed. At night, I tie each ankle to a bedpost so that I lie on my back with legs stretched apart I must work to improve my nilla relationships I must serve my community Everything can change, as she wishes Edited to add - When she bleeds each month, her initial on me must be red and I must wear a red thread tied on my cock Sorry about the omission Edited 28 Sep 08, 7:37 AM by 613-411-535 29 Sep 08, 4:51 AM moncherie US(CA), 4 mths  Oh my.... my rules are printed out and posted right on the refrigerator. 1) i am to wear my collar 23.5 hours a day 7 days a week. It may only be removed to shower or wash my hair. 2) i am to refer to Master as "my Master" or "My owner" when in conversation with others. 3) i am only allowed to call my Master "Master" or "Sir". 4) i am never to speak without permission 5) When with Master i am required to ask permission to relieve myself. 6) i am responsible for all household duties 7) After being released from my nighttime bondage in the morning i am to prepare something for Master while he ready's for work 8) When called by my Master i am to come to him and kneel and await his instructions. 9) i am only allowed to persue my interests and hobbies when all duties have been performed to Master's satisfaction. 10) i am to always be presentable to Master.... hair, makeup, nails, etc.... Master reserves the right to punish, discipline, tie, bind, control, chain, whip, spank, sanction or reward this slave at any time for any reason in any place he chooses. I crave being controlled and dominated so it might be interesting to note that i am now submitting to my sister who Master and i recently found out is a Domme. There will be no sexual contact but all other rules and conditions apply and Master has given her full control over me. The hardest rule i had to get used to was not being allowed to speak without permission. Let me tell you we spend some very quiet evenings at home together. 8 Oct 08, 3:18 AM GalenZ US, 3 yrs  I have a 30-page protocol document that my slave and I tried to operate under for years, based heavily on the rules from Butchmann's Academy (http://www.bornslaves.com/principles.html). However, in the end I had to discard it and release her from formal 24/7 M/s, for reasons that I think had more to do with my slave's personal issues than the rules themselves. As I no longer enforce the protocol on a 24/7 basis, I now regard our relationship as D/s rather than M/s, though in fact we still follow quite a lot of it on a less-formal basis. Meanwhile, my new slave-in-training loves the full protocol, and in fact is eager for more. I'm in the process revising it to keep up with her. If anyone wishes to have a copy of my protocol doc, you can download a copy from http://zimbot.com/Protocol.doc. While obviously it's too long to even summarize adequately, the core rules are as follows: 0. So long as she is in my service, the slave's duty is to please, serve, and obey me, in that order of importance. When the sub/slave obeys the following rules, she will do all three. 1. The sub/slave will always address me as 'Sir' or 'Master'. The sub/slave shall never address me by name. 2. When I give an order or ask a question, the sub/slave will always answer with something like 'Yes, Sir' or 'No, Sir'. 3. The sub/slave will Present before talking to me. Rather than interrupting my concentration, my sub/slave has to wait beside to me quietly, with hands behind her back, until I acknowledge her. *Then* she can talk to me. 4. In private, the sub/slave will normally be nude, though in cold weather and other special circumstances I will permit her to wear clothing. 5. When we are together, the sub/slave will walk just behind me, normally on my left. 6. When she is with me, the sub/slave will not open doors, sit down on furniture, or eat food without my permission. 7. The sub/slave will not leave my presence without permission, and will always ask if there is anything else she can do for me before leaving. 8. The sub/slave shall always strive to be courteous, respectful, and comport herself in a way that brings credit to both herself and her Master. Galen -- It's only kinky if I haven't done it yet. Edited 9 Oct 08, 5:39 AM by GalenZ 8 Oct 08, 1:17 PM 000-874-172 UK, 5 yrs  GalenZ wrote: Meanwhile, my new slave-in-training loves the full protocol, and in fact is eager for more. I'm in the process revising it to keep up with her. I mean no disrespect, but shouldn't she be slowing to 'your' pace, rather than you keeping up with her, if you're mastering her - or am I just reading too much into the grammar of how you phrased it? Don't get me wrong, I thrive on quite structured service too, but that makes it sound like if she doesn't get exactly the kind of structure - on paper, that she wants, she is unable to serve you at all, and as such, it seems rather top-heavy. I'm not even close to being the be-all, but whilst my preferences 'are' noted, my service goal is very much orientated toward Phay. I'm just curious is all, rather than looking to flame. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ 8 Oct 08, 5:29 PM GalenZ US, 3 yrs  000-874-172 wrote: I mean no disrespect, but shouldn't she be slowing to 'your' pace, rather than you keeping up with her, if you're mastering her - or am I just reading too much into the grammar of how you phrased it? You're reading too much into my phrasing. But if you misinterpreted me, others probably have too, so I'll be happy to make myself clearer. My old protocol doc was written primarily for my previous slave (now sub), who has very different strengths, weaknesses, and desires than my new one. I'm revising the doc to better fit my new student. To give an analogy, I've been a dog trainer for far longer than I've been a Master. While I expect all dogs to learn the basic obedience protocol (sit, stay, heel, etc), they have different strengths (herding, tracking, retrieving, etc) and temperaments (dominant vs submissive, playful vs aloof, friendly vs shy, etc). So, when training a new dog, I always adjust my desires, expectations, and the training program accordingly. For example, while I would have high expectations when training a Labrador to retrieve, it would be a waste of time to try to train (say) a beagle to the same standard. Thus, the dog's 'preferences' (i.e. aptitudes) certainly affect what goals I set and the training techniques I use. But despite that, there's not really much question as to which one of us in in charge of the training process. So, I'm doing exactly the same thing for my new slave-in-training (and her dog, too, as it happens). She has not requested anything in particular, and it is totally incorrect to think that 'if she doesn't get exactly the kind of structure - on paper, that she wants, she is unable to serve you at all', which is far from the case. In fact, I'm *delighted* by her aptitude and enthusiasm for service. But I'm also quite willing to change tack to take advantage of it, in order to get more of what *I* want. For example, my previous slave was petite and skinny, while my new slave has a weight problem, so I'm instituting some new diet and exercise protocols. And since she is far more ambitious and self-confident than my previous slave, in fact many of my protocol revisions *are* designed to 'slow her down'. She needs a lot more humbling than my previous slave ever did, so I'm making darned sure that she gets it... Galen -- It's only kinky if I haven't done it yet. Edited 8 Oct 08, 5:45 PM by GalenZ 9 Oct 08, 5:16 PM 976-188-983 US(ID), 7 mths  I too have rules to follow. The first and foremost of them is that I am to Obey. There is a lot behind that word for him. One of the first rules he has given me is that I am to use proper grammer/syntax when writing and that is very hard for me as I am used to lower case for myself and upper case for him. I have a set wake up time and then certain things that I am allowed to do and need to do prior to waking him up within the next half hour. I have chores to complete during the day/week. I have only a certain amount of time on the computer each day and must work on my business a certain amount each day. We are new together, just over a year, and are still working the kinks (no pun intended) out of the control issues. We figure it will take at least another 6-8 months before we are in a spot even remotely done. In service and in love. 13 Oct 08, 8:46 PM 000-671-955 CA, 4 yrs  Master has slave rules for me to follow, and these rules are etched in stone so to speak. He has other rules as our Lifestyle progresses, and they are added so i know what is expected of me, and what Master wants of me in the future. Master feels that without rules, his slave will not have a goal, or a sense of direction that she has to follow. This helps me in my quest to please Master, and furthers our Path to his needs and desires. i hope this helps with your question. Master's "o" 671955